My wife wasn’t all that thrilled about me posting videos on You-Tube, either. But we always joke that because we are a marriage of two first borns, we are both used to getting our way. So we agree to disagree on a lot of things. Over the months of me getting into the poling thing and posting videos, she’s gotten used to it. She’s watched a few of the videos. Usually it ‘s real late at night when I finish editing them. She’ll come downstairs to the basement and I’ll start the video. Usually she is FAST ASLEEP by about the 5th minute. One time she actually tilted over onto the pillow on the couch, LOL!

Now this doesn’t bother me one bit–because it affirms my intention to have a purely technical video of pole gymnastics, fitness, spins, inverts, and aerial tricks.

Maybe some viewers think my vids are sexy…ha ha..that would not bother me one bit. I mean, we are all thousands of miles away from each other–except for Glitter (one day we ARE gonna meet for coffee, right? You, me, your boyfriend, and Laurie, LOL!). So it’s not like I am going to hop on a jet airplane and consumate some fantasy love affair with a sexy lady who poles on You-Tube…I mean come on, we are all adults here!

As far as the fantasy element alluded to by JC and Amcut–as to what men (and maybe women (?) ) will do in the privacy of their own life–that’s OK with me. I enjoy making the videos, posting the videos, and the wonderful feedback from the people who watch. It doesn’t bother me if it "excites" somebody–that’s a private, mental thing and we are all entitled.

And yes, I DO enjoy watching the sexy videos posted by the female polers. I think we all know that there is a pleasure we all get in both producing a sexy performance…and enjoying one produced by another. But in the end…they are videos…and when we do choose to deepen a relationship (say, like the pole jams of Fleur and Veena) into a friendship that is face to face, we can and should involve our significant other in negotiating the terms of those situations.

Foxy-Rei, I think the most important thing for your husband to know is that after the video is edited and uploaded, and the computer is turned off–HE’s the one you get into bed with every night. And that’s not a video…it’s the real thing!

Joel