Thanks for your thoughts! I totally agree that nothing about poling is sleazy, but boys don’t want to think about their mom and sexuality at the same time. They cringe when I kiss my husband in front of them! https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_smile.gif Making them feel "cutting edge" is a great idea! I think I’ll approach it the same way as our conversations about our political and spiritual beliefs (which tend to be opposite of the majority in our community). We’re already in the minority as liberal, tree hugging, Buddhist atheists- so they’ve learned that others can be close minded about our "otherness". Thanks again for your ideas!