walking in heels is all about walking on tip toe (or demi-point for ballet dancers). use the heel for balance, that’s it. nothing special there.

My biggies are pointed toes, "flingers" (using momentum and flinging / throwing yourself into a move), beachiness to others who aren’t so good and defeatism.

As for competitiveness, the only person to beat is yourself and as we used to say in a top restaurant I cooked in, you’re only as good as your last plate (read pole move). Try to beat your best and realise some days won’t be so good.