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how to excuse your hubby from your pole sessions
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Oh, I sooo get this one! I feel uncomfortable practicing moves and learning them in front of him. I don't mind practicing routines but working on stuff I can't do properly yet I just don't feel comfortable with with him watching. He seems to take it as his right to do so and I just don't like working on stuff I really can't do with anyone watching, and when he is sitting there almost leering at me sometimes, there is no way I can work on stuff that I am uncomfortable with because I can't do it yet!! Not sure if it is because I don't want to look foolish or if I don't want to ruin the picture that he seems to have in his head that either I am really good or really sexy when I dance by repeatedly messing up a new move in front of him. He seems to take it as a personal insult if I suggest he leaves the room though. He says it is his 'right' to be there, he is just watching, etc etc. MEN!!
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I like to pole when he is out or busy in the other room. He doesnt seem to think much of pole dancing so far, he said its not dancing its more like gymnastics and doesnt fit in with the music in time.
I don't have a dancing back ground and have been trying to learn to dance and its a little off putting when he is there!!! I really wanted him at the first two student shows I have been in but the next one I am gonna leave up to him. While I can see his point, I am not dancing for money, its for me. So I will keep it trick heavy and dance to my own beat even if no one else can make out the rhythym!
I do like that now I have a pole he had a quick go and could do nothing. He now keeps telling everyone how hard it is https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_biggrin.gif
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I actually have the opposite problem my bf doesn't really care to watch but I think it's because when we met I already had been doing it for quite some time and when I told him about it I really emphasised the fitness aspect of it so i think he never saw it as sexy to begin with. But maybe you can split up your practices like doing harder moves on your own for 2/3 of it and then he can come watch for a bit at the end while you just get your sexy on? Maybe this way you can both comprimise and you still get your alone time and he gets his sexy time? good luck 🙂
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Mine is the other way – My hubby has to be asked to come in and watch or take pics lol. He's indifferent to it. When I go to my friend's house, her husband is indifferent to it as well but will come in and help spot if we need him. Otherwise neither of them pay attention, and if they're together, its as if we're not even there on the poles!
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🙂 Maybe practice when he isn't home if you have the time?
I get up around 6:30am, have breakfast with my lovely bf before he leaves for work at 7:30am and then the place is mine until I leave at around 9:15. I get all of the sexy practice done in the morning (floor work, transitions etc) 😉
When both of us are home i'm practicing the challenging moves (gem/scorp/special k/ etc) so that when the time comes to have a spotter close by, there he is so that I don't crack my skull open.
I totally understand why some ladies aren't comfortable practicing / performing in front of their man. Poling is NOT graceful all the time and if you want someone watching you at all, you want them watching you at your best. Some women pole for themselves and for no one else. 😉
Whatever your situation is, be honest, but gentle. If you're shy, let him know that. Much better than having him wonder if he's doing something wrong by watching.
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I am a little shy about dancing around my hubby so I dont like him lurking when I practice (he tries every time!!!). So….I dont get much practice on Mondays or Tuesday because he is home early. I leave pole for wednesdays through saturday and I take one class at the studio on Mondays : ). I have danced for him 3 times already and keep explaining that if he watches me all the time it will get boring. I think he is starting to understand now but it has been a work in process.
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I am a little shy about dancing around my hubby so I dont like him lurking when I practice (he tries every time!!!). So….I dont get much practice on Mondays or Tuesday because he is home early. I leave pole for wednesdays through saturday and I take one class at the studio on Mondays : ). I have danced for him 3 times already and keep explaining that if he watches me all the time it will get boring. I think he is starting to understand now but it has been a work in process.
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wow! What a response! Um, I don't really have that problem anymore sadly he is in afghanistan soooo he really can't watch anymore. Now my biggest issue is keeping my daughter off while I practice lol, I just try to do it on days when I don't have homework and my daughter is napping. Needless to say I hardly ever practice. Thanks so much for all of your coments, suggestions, and ancidotes. I love that you all have taken the time to post.
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I'm laughing out loud imagining the men playing video games as their gf/wives are in the background climbing poles in skimpy attire.
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LOL I can't imagine feeling awkward infront of my hubby. My pole is in the same space as his pc so he plays pc games when i'm poling and every now and then I catch him sneaking a peek *giggle* if I'm practicing a difficult or new move I ask him to spot me or take photos when I get it right hehehe
@PennyGirl – my kids love playing on my pole too LOL, I normally pole when they are asleep
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It was akward for me at first to have him watch me practice and I felt real self concious. But now I've gotten used to it but now days he barely looks my way anymore when I practice anyway lol. He spots me when I ask and he shoots most of my vids that I post here.
I do sometimes wish that I had the privacy and more space though (right now my pole is smack dab in my dining area/living room area–so the kids and hubby are constantly coming through there as I practice) just to allow myself to really let go…I know I hold back a little with the whole family running around my practice space.
When we get a house next year…my one major request is that I have a designated pole/dance/exercise studio! I can't wait!
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Mine is in the middle of my dining living area too. My little grandson (a verbal autistic, meaning he chatters & recites non-stop) is at our house most of the time. Lo and behold he loves the.pole. I have a spinner and he is like a wet noodle sticking to the pole never falling. LOL while I long for a room for now its pick up the Thomas trains and practice when I can. Just an advanced age beginner but I love it.
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I've only been practicing a few months and I must admit I prefer him not to be there for 2 reasons
1) He is a PROPER Chatabox. Only his mother can talk more ( I call him Son Of Running Mouth for jokes ) and
2) he is ready to jump up to my rescue at the slightest stumble, which I know is nice but still distracting.
If I can I'll sending upstairs to his Xbox or World of Warcraft. Hours of whatever I want
Tracy
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