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NOT built to pole
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I am an almost 42 year old 200+ pound pole dancer so you think your limited LMAO try doing tricks with some extra junk iin your trunk! I love pole though even though sad to say since my weight ballooned up (still trying to figure out why) I have not poled as much as I used to. Although it always made me feel super confident and super sexy. Like you I practiced a spin or trick for months till I perfected it but also concentrated more on my strengths which was transistions and floor work. My ex husband was indifferent about my pole and made me feel cheap for wanting to learn MY boyfriend on the other had thinks it’s HOT and keeps begging me to perform for him. Maybe one day I will. Good Luck … and keep poling YOUR FABULOUS!!!!
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I would love to become a dancer a exotic dancer better for some reason idk I just would or professional to I just love sexy dancing just wish was better at it
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I just wanted to leave this here. Pole dance is for EVERY body!
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so beautiful!
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@poledanceromace OMG she was excellent!that was such an inspiration thank you for posting!!
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Wow she is so strong, graceful, and flexy!
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That was amazing and so inspirational, thanks for sharing poledanceromance!
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@poledancerromace thank you for sharing that video. Truly a inspirational video. I tell all my girlfriends who want to try it to do so no matter what their shape, size or age is. I even go with them to the introductory class for support.
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So happy to see other women in their 40’s (Sieria and Greyeyes!) are poling! I will be 42 in April and have been poling for almost 3 years. I LOVE IT! My husband bought me my first month of lessons and I never stopped. Serenkke I have a feeling your husband will come around when he sees you in a sexy position on the pole! Greyeyes< so glad your husband came around to appreciate what has become an important part of your life. My husband told me after 3 years of showing him tricks, he doesn't want to see any more tricks, he wants a routine!! so a routine is what I am finally working on! If he wants a show, he will get one!!lol Have fun and keep poling.
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This is an encouraging thread! Thanks everyone!
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I feel as tho I am “stuck” becuz of my inability to invert just yet. Dont most if not all tricks start from the basic invert? Ugh….Ill keep trying tho.
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Everyone should also remember that pole dancing doesn’t have to be all about inverts and tricks. Very lovely pole dance performances, and for me, some of the most fulling dance’s didn’t include inverts or any fancy tricks. 🙂
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Amen to that. ^^^
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My very favorite dances are almost always trick-free or very slim on tricks. Give me some good DANCING, tricks or no tricks, any day.
PS – I’m almost 43, not long and lean, terribly short arms with long torso, not flexy, and I still manage to be pretty good up ther….. AND more importantly I have a great time on the pole/dance floor. 😉
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If you love pole that’s all that matters. Don’t be so hard on yourself enjoy this journey, YOUR journey because although each journey is different, they are all equally great.
I too am a “slower” learner but after 3 1/2 years of poling, I recently realized that at the end of the day, it all comes down to I’m doing what I love, it makes me happy and I just let the progress come when it does and no longer press myself to be perfect or get a new move on the 1st or even 200th try (ahem, talking to you caterpillar & Ayesha).
Enjoy the journey…even if it’s a long one with twisty roads & lots of uphill terrain 🙂
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I too felt like you when I first started poling. When I first started poling I couldn’t pole climb/ basic stuff everyone else in class had already. My profile pic is my greatest accomplishment I achieved in November. So it IS possible to get there with regular practice. Sadly I’ve had some bad things happen in the last 2 months that have drained my enthusiasm to pole at home and go to class. Also I know I will be frustrated when I do pole again since I’ve probably lost strength so I’ll be feeling like I’m starting over 🙁
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Hello all! I’m a 37 Mexican lady who just started practicing pole, I love it, but I know I’m not that godo as the Other girls in my class, actually I’ve having trouble with my inverts ‘cuz I’m lefthanded and everybody does everything the normal style, and I can’t grip the pole propely with my forearm I try and try And I know I will make it (eventually). But I will apreciate some advises please.
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Sorry I made a mistake, it is not forearm, I mean armpit, ( I’m not that good at English either)
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Hi Ktazmania, it’s best to work on learning all pole moves on both sides of the body, left and right. You are not the only one who inverts on the left also the method is the same for inverting on the left as it is on the right. If your teacher allows, try working on both sides. 🙂
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I consider myself slow as well so please do not think that you’re alone. It is taking me forever to climb the pole without being exhausted. I try to watch the videos and most of the girls on here makes it look so simple and easy but some of us just have to try harder and it takes a little longer that’s all. I believe practice makes perfect which watching the videos gives me motivation to know that one day the struggle will pass and then it will be on to the struggle of the new move…. and so on :). Although it’s taking a little longer to grasp that new move, I can say that it is better than not poling at all. My mind is at peace whenever I am practicing poling. 🙂 Thank goodness for the pole.
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hmmm…since we are outing our age…I’m 44 and been learning pole for 2yrs+. I would consider myself a slow learner. I’m no where close to my splits, my straddle is like a capital V. My joints crack and shoulder hurts. However, I don’t think the ability to pole rests upon body type. It’s not a built dependent sport? Nothing like I’m too short for basketball, too big for gymnastic, etc. There are no such limitations on pole. Each person has their own moves. I cannot get any spins right for the longest time. Even now my spins are horrible. However, I find my liberation comes from not thinking or worrying about what to do next when dancing, but just the dancing itself. The moves will follow when I let myself go. Not sure how it works but it worked for me. I do compare myself with others at times, but I remind myself that I am me, this is my hobby, and I’m darn sure I can do things that not everyone can do! Then daydream about deadlifting up to iron-x…. 🙂
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Oh my gosh, how many times I think to myself I am not built to pole.
I am 44 in 2 months and yes, my joints hurt. My shoulder, my wrist, my elbow. Thankfully not my knee. 🙂
I am born with terrible flexibility and got even worth not doing anything about it for 40+ years. I thought I was fit given I worked out pretty reguarly for a few years before I started pole. That helped a little bit but not much because I had strong lower body but weak upper body. Pole is like 80% upper body strength or more!!! At least that is how I feel.
In the beginning, I was able to keep up with young, or younger girls. But then… with my age, I was on pole classes 2 days in a row and tore my intercostal muscle. (Never go on a pole consecutive days. Veena’s 30day challenge also has alternate days of workout and active rest. There is a good reason why! LOL)
So there goes 6 weeks of rest until my muscle heals.
And guess what! I am back to square A. Sigh….
My hard work was gone and my muscles got weak. Nevertheless I went on lessons with my fellow pole student. They got much stronger during those 6weeks while I got weak but I struggled to keep up with them. And this time, my right arm was in excruciating pain at night. that was after one pole climb I did. The pain was very foreign which I have never experience before. I took pain killer then the pain was gone and this went on so I went to see my orthopedic. And he said I was having muscle spasm for over training. I was give some pills and had to take a week rest. This was 2 weeks ago.
Pole for 44 years old woman… sure, not easy no matter how fit she is. (And I am quite fit, I actually am a fitness professional.)
No one around me suffers more than I do learning pole. Or at least it seems like it. And I am thinking what is wrong with my body. I keep thinking about stop torturing myself learning what seems like almost impossible to learn. (By the way, I hate dancing too because I am suck at it. Imagine stiff body trying to dance, it is just downright funny. LOL)
I tell myself everyday. I have 2 options.
First one – quit now because this learning is just so so hard.
Second one – keep going even if learning process is gonna be slow, slowest in the world.
Well…. what will you choose?
My choice is not quitting. I am keeping. It doesn’t matter if I can dance only when I am 50. I am NOT quitting.
Now I am trying to work a lot on my flexibility. My round shoulder never seem to get opened up, my tight hip always gets in the way even for the simplest move. My weak arms and lats just not able to lift me up for more than a few seconds. But I will keep on poling. 🙂
—- I have been fighting with myself. The part that want to quit. So I had to spill somewhere and tell myself of my own determination. So this is to write to you who do not think you are built to pole as well as to myself. Let’s just not give up! 🙂 -
love this topic ! I would say I’m not exactly want you would think of straight away as a pole dancer. I’m hyper bendy in some bits and stiff as a board in others, I’m rapidly heading for 45 and am a little over weight. all that said I have been poling for around 7 yrs and LOVE IT. I have little upper body or core strength but am now just about getting my handspring and am pretty comfortable with elbow grip and split grip eyesha’s but can I do inverted V ?? – not a chance. this is a little frustrating when girls can do it easily after just a few weeks !
I love the ongoing challenges pole offers and the working out with inspiring people who you genuinely feel happy for when they get a move and who are equally happy for you a( and sometimes even join in with silly happy dances !! ).
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