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I seriously need some words of encouragement!!
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When I get down, I ask myself "why did I begin this journey?" Was it to be the best pole dancer on the planet? For others approval? To show off flashy tricks? No. I kept poling day in and day out because it made me feel good, strong, powerful and sexy. I got trick addicted because I found an online community and started comparing myself to others in a time in my life where my femininity was bruised and battered. My self esteem was incredibly low and for a minute pole made it lower. Then came a moment when I realized that I pole for me, it's ok if I'm not strong and coordinated, if I beat ,us elf up Imwill never get to whee I want to go. I started letting go and opening my mind, heart and body to learning movement and it felt good. I rarely learn new tricks, I rarely use tricks in my dance and I love pole more today than ever. It was a long journey, but an amazing one. I've used my lack of strength to create versions and variations for myself, some have been great others not so great but now for pole is a creative outlet.
Mynadvice is ask yourself why you started, what really drew you in, and write it down place in your pole room and never forget that 🙂
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Don't be discouraged! We all question it at one point or another. It takes a long time to build strength to do the "big" things like climbing and inverting. Some people a yr some a month. You have to listen to your own body. I danced w/ pole for 4 yrs before I even found a studio!!! I didn't even know there were people out there better than me lol. I thought I invented tons of moves like the figure 4 layback and a back hook spin lol! Ha- the most fun I have is just dancing. When things become too controlled, too structured a lot of fun is lost. Just forget about the lessons for a little bit and "connect with your pole". Pretend it's your dancing partner and your outlet and just be free! This may not mean one single trick but will be just as powerful and beneficial! xxxx
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