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Perimenopause Pole Dancer Support Group
Hi guys! I wanted to start a support group for those of us going through our transformation while trying to start, or maintain our pole practice. I know first hand this is very challenging and I often feel so deeply alone.
I’ve shared a little about my journey with perimenopause so far, and I would love to have a space where we can all safely (without judgment) commiserate, vent, ask questions, and share tips that have helped us.
I’m doing my best to maintain the outlook that perimenopause is just leveling up, becoming wiser and more confident in who we are as people. Not only are we feeling physical changes, many of us are dealing with our kids teenage years, or they might be leaving us, and we often have to deal with aging parents too.
I have one rule for this group, be kind and respect others who might take a different path. For example, HRT is a hot topic and it’s ok if you want to use hormones or if you don’t, please no shaming or belittling someone who chooses a different path from your own. We are are unique and not everything will work the same for everyone.
Feel free to share blogs, podcasts, social media posts, videos, photos, stories of your own, questions, ideas, frustrations and anything else related perimenopause.
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19 Replies
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Great idea! 51 here and looking forward to connecting with and hearing from other ladies going through their pole journey along with perimenopause.
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I’ll start! This woman Menopause Taylor (use to be Menopause Barbie) https://www.youtube.com/@MenopauseTaylor was so helpful!!! Thank you @mistygmorris721279 for sharing her YT channel
Here’s my Podcast about Perimenopause and Pole https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0_RHQholLn8
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Barbara Taylor, M.D. is a gynecologist who has adopted the name “Menopause Taylor” and taken the professional and fashionable reputation of Barbie to a whole new level. With her YouTube tutorials on Menopause: Your Management Your Way ... Now and … Continue reading
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Me too! It can be such a lonely time I think.
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Hi, everyone! I’m Britney but my pole persona is Ruby Ravage. I started perimenopause early at 35, like all the women in my family before me. It’s been a few years and I’m struggling. It’s hard to get help. Excited to be here!
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Hey, hey! Welcome. It’s crazy how different it is for everyone. I know a few people who never even knew they were in peri and one day their period just stopped. I was totally in peri sooner than I realized. I don’t have any family that is able to tell me what they went through due to surgeries my older sister had, my other sister passed years ago, and my mom is 87 and dealing with dementia so she doesn’t recall much. She did tell me she remembers spending a lot of time crying in the trees lol
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Happy Monday everyone!
I’ll be sending out an email this week to all members letting them know we have this group. Feel free to tell any of your pole friends who might be interested too. It’s free!
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Veena! I’m so happy that you found her education to be empowering. My peri menopausal journey began at 47, by the age of 50, I was post menopausal. It was the following 2 years I found to be the most miserable and challenging because at that time I had not learned everything I know now and was so unaware of what was happening within my body and mind. I only knew that I was a shell of my former self and didn’t want to go on. Post menopause was so much harder for me than Peri menopause. Menopause Taylor’s education saved my life. I can’t wait to have a consultation with her. I’m thrilled that you have started this podcast and provided a safe space for us to discuss all things menopause. You’re providing a wonderful service here, Veena. I think you’re the best and I admire you in more ways than one.🫶 I’d like to see more conversations about continuing pole practice and the challenges we face at post menopause after taking a couple of years off the pole. I still have the desire to pole, and the muscle memory is there, but the strength, endurance, and flexibility are missing. Looking forward to hearing your podcast on the subject, and wishing you all the best on your journey and your new endeavor. I think the best thing about your podcast is it lets others know they are not alone.
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I’m hoping that post menopausal polers will join too as you all have experiences that we haven’t had. Most women say that once your post menopausal things are “normal” and you feel amazing, but I don’t think that’s the case for everyone. So I’m grateful you mentioned your struggle so others know they’re not alone.
I’m not sure if I’ll have a chance to do more podcasts about this topic but I do plan on sharing some things that have helped me and I hope other share too. This Friday I’m sharing foods that have helped balance my hormones (so far) as I know things can change.
As far as training post menopause, in general the fitness industry has treated us as small men, we are not! The things you did in you’re 30s will not always work in your 50s and while there is some information out there on training as a female but most of it is for athletes who are under 30. We need more representation because the internet and marketing seems to think after 50 your should only do chair workouts! hahaha I keep getting stupid ads for chair workout apps that are more suitable for my mom who is 87 and has dementia.
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Here’s a book a friend shared with me. The Menopause Manifesto https://amzn.to/4nsYghd
I’ve not had a chance to read it.
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Happy Friday! Today I thought I’d share foods that have helped me so far.
- Sauerkraut and Kimchi
- Tofu
- Bone Broth protein powder (pure) by Ancient Nutrition
- Lentils
Do you any foods that have been a game changer for you?
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59 here. I am interested in connecting with other menopausal polers. I am post and I am hoping to get back into pole for fitness. I was at the height of my feeling good and fitness when I learned pole a few years ago. I had to quit due to repeated tendon injuries and fatigue. I found out that what I thought was carpel tunnel is actually bone on bone arthritis in both of the bases of my thumbs. Pole just became too painful to the point that I dreaded even thinking about it. I thought that starting pole in my early 50s was just decades too late for me. Who was I trying to kid, right? I stuck with riding my bicycle until both knees began to scream from just normal exercise. I have kept my pole up and use it for core exercises. I have been recently diagnosed with osteoporosis, which is depressing. I have always been active and have kept toned. It feels like a cruel joke. The Dr. says that it was probably due to my partial hysterectomy in my 30s and the lack of estrogen.
I got desperate and reached out to start BHRT in hopes of stopping or reversing the osteo. I have been on this for a couple of months now. It has made a change in how I feel, but I won’t say that things have gone back to when I was first learning pole. I am doubtful that I will ever get back to inverting and the start of level 3 that I was able to reach in a short time. I will be happy to just be able to do spins and climbs without the pain. I will hopefully be able to scrape to rejoin for the classes here.
I invested in a PEMF pad a couple of months ago. I am using DMSO with castor oil and boswellia externally. The only med that I use is occasional topical diclofenac.
My diet has always been simple. I upped my protein back when I began poling and have stuck to it since.
I am back to being a beginner, but I will be happy to try!
As a side note, where is a reputable place to buy xxs sticky leggings for pole? It is so cold in the winter and the brass is too slick for my out of pole shape body.
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Hello, it’s nice to meet you and thank you for sharing your peri journey with us! xoxo
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Thank you!
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Girls!! Super power girls!! I have a helping weapon that would help us more throughout our journey!! Reach out to me to find more! I really wanna help how i have been helped!! We can’t do this alone ! But we are so strong that we can certainly reach our goals !! For EU only
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Hello! I am 47. I started pole dance (and dabbled in silks, lyra, and chair dance as well) in my mid to late 30s. It was so empowering! I was the strongest and most confident I ever was. Unfortunately, my pole studio closed during covid and never reopened. Then I started belly dancing and doing burlesque for several years, which I also love. However, those styles aren’t nearly as challenging as pole and I don’t feel as strong. My belly dance studio fostered my growth as a dancer in in different ways though by giving me the opportunity to dance in amateur shows and choreograph. I recently moved to Puerto Rico and haven’t found a dance home here. I have to dance on my own and have chosen to go back to pole since I have my own pole and a heels collection! Since starting this program, I feel stronger and sexier already! There is something about pole dance and putting on heels that makes me feel confident and sexy even if I’m getting more wrinkly and I’m losing my eyesight. It’s horrible trying to dance with glasses now. The thing I really dislike about perimenopause is that my period hasn’t stopped yet, so I technically still have to worry about birth control and keep track, but pregnancy is very unlikely and on top of that collagen levels are dropping. But the good part is I can still feel hot when I pole dance and take my glasses off and I won’t see my wrinkles lol. I feel like the best exercise is maintaining flexibility and mobility. For me, I love the stretching and movement aspects of pole for aging. One last thing I wanted to mention is about the judgement and stigma of pole dancing. My brother in particular has called it inappropriate dance. It’s just ridiculous. Pole is empowering and a feminist act. I wish every woman could experience it! One question I have is what exercises help flatten a perimenopausal belly the most.
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