If you’re not set on using a full-length stainless pole (which I totally understand, they can look and feel very different), then working with someone who understands custom interiors might open up better options. For instance, I had a friend who collaborated with a studio called dRAW Architecture on a bespoke interior that needed clever structural solutions not a pole setup specifically, but it involved exposed beams and custom fittings where aesthetics really mattered. They managed to design around ceiling limitations without compromising the style or function. That kind of architectural thinking could be what you need to avoid going the full one-piece or stage route.

Have you considered a partial beam or mounting frame that supports a shorter pole height? With 17 feet of ceiling, you’ve got flexibility to play with suspended or bridged beam solutions just needs to be engineered safely and beautifully. Someone like an architectural studio (like: https://www.draw-architecture.co.uk/) could help map that out in a way your interior designer might not be trained to do alone.

Whatever you choose, I’d say don’t rush into a setup you don’t love. Chrome poles can look great in the right space, but if it doesn’t match your vibe, it’s worth finding a workaround. Good luck and let us know what direction you go, I’d love to see the final look!