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How Do You Fit Pole IN Your Day?
This question is for you ladies who do not have local studios or do not teach anywhere. I feel like I always fall out of my routine. No matter what I try. It is frustrating to keep being off and on. I am trying lists, goals, and writing on the calendar what I want to do that day and what time I can do it. I feel overwhelmed because I have stretching and flexibility goals ND pole goals. What do you do to stay in a routine???
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I have the same problem Luvlee. I know if I poled more consistantly I'd be able to do more and to do moves stronger and more confidently. It is the downside to self teaching. I am interested to hear what helps others too!
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I use to pole every day! I got new moves all the time then the moves got more and more advanced and I got tired and discouraged. Then for about a year, I had lots of local friends to pole with and that helped SO MUCH! Now, they have moved away. I know SV lessons would help, but we are saving every penny currently and not doing Christmas gifts even. I am going to try the calendar thing and maybe meet up with ladies in the chat during my practices. An audience always helps me.
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I’m on the same boat so I feel you ladies. I think skyping is key for us self taught, no studio folks. So with that being said….add me on Skype lol Jojodanza
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I stopped going to pole classes at a pole studio and I am now mostly self taught through watching videos online. It's really tough…. I think about poling all day while at work and I'm always like "I'm gonna go home and pole!", but once I get home I really have a hard time feeling like I really want to pole! I think the thing that really pulled me back to pole and setting goals and wanting to learn new moves again was going to a pole camp. I met very many amazing pole dancers and attended workshops which fed my drive and motivation to learn new tricks and to improve upon old ones.
I also have my very first public performance this Saturday, so I made myself learn a new trick in my first choreographed routine for this performance instead of using all of my good old "fall back" moves. This way, I'm still learning new tricks while incorporating old ones in my routine. I just try and find ways to squeeze in new tricks every now and then.
I know it's hard being self taught and every thing, but you have to try and find the silver lining in it. Maybe just stop poling for a bit and focus more on floorwork that incorporates bendy moves so that you get good use out of stretch and flexibility training? Some floor moves require flexibility and balance, others just brings out the sexy goddess in you. And if you do decide to pole, why not shift your focus into using the moves you already know and are good at, and finding ways in and out of it…. Or just find new combos? Why not see how long you can stay on the pole without touching the ground by coming up with new combos of moves you already know?
Chin up missy! You sound like you've hit a plateau. I think you'll be all right, you just need to shift your focus a bit and you'll get your motivation and drive back!
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I struggle with this too. Put up pictures of you poling around you. Set a time every evening or wake up early morning. Know that a half hour even is better than nothing.
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I think sometimes we forget that you don't HAVE to pole every day (beginners should not pole everyday!!) and we don't even HAVE to pole every week! Most of us who pole dance have lives! This means we have obligations, kids, school, holidays, sickness. This is life, it happens.
It's hard not to feel frustrated, but getting upset or stressing about it doesn't benefit you in anyway. For the past 8 months I've mostly been off the pole. I've recorded the most of the times I did dance, so no one would think I was dead lol. I've been off due to injury, (mystery injury not sure what I ever did) lack of time, and just wanting to do something like hooping, hiking swimming instead. Anyway, I sometimes feel we think we HAVE to bust out every new move that comes along or else we are not cool enough, or people wont think we are a "serious" or "good" pole dancer. The reality is, most of us are not professionals, and thats ok! Pros literally dedicate their life to something, it is usually their main job. Pole dance is my "job", and I still don't always make time to consistently pole. My job, requires me to be on the computer more than on the pole! Being on the pole can't be my life right now, I have kids and work to think about too. I also now really enjoy hooping and hiking. And its ok. I'm one of those people who LOVES to train, and at some point I'll make pole dancing for myself a priority , but it's not meant to be right now.
My advice….. enjoy pole dance when you can. If you are using it as your only form of exercise then make it a priority 3 times a week. For health benefits, poling 3 times a week for about 30 mins to 1-2 hr. is great. You have to MAKE time for your workouts regardless of what they are.
Maybe sit down and think about why you pole? If it's because you love it and it makes you feel good, then don't stress about time off. I went through a phase where I felt pressured to pole so I wouldn't "fall behind" I had a "name" to live up to, and people watching everything I did…..now I pole if I feel like it and because it makes ME happy.
If we really want to make pole a priority, then we have to make time, not hope to fit it in. Here are some time suckers: FaceBook, TV, video games, spend time online shopping or searching, sleeping in. If you want to spend time online, try poling in the chat room here. Kill 2 birds with one stone lol
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I am doing it for a work out AND I do have goals I just want. It would make ME so happy if I could watch one of my videos and actually like it. Does that make sense? I want to do a flexy scorpion pose. It opens a world of new moves up for pole too. I would have to stretch at least every other day to accomplish this. I want more strength so I can fly and it looks effortless like Shellectra comes to my mind. I have been so off and on and that stuff doesn't happen from having down days. Now things are going to come up. LIFE. Like SV said. It has happened to me. It has happened to all of us, but I could pole and stretch more than I do. I use to be happy after dancng and want to do it more. It was easy for me. Now, it has gotten harder and I leave my sessions almost in tears sometimes. I get frustrated and why would I want to do it again? LOL!!!! I am starting today with writing sessions on my calendar, setetching in the mornings, and dance or pole later at night. I am hoping to do at least 3 times a week at least. I see myself gsining weight and this is new for me also. I turn 32 this coming March and it is all catching up w me. I need to get on it NOW while I still can. LOL!!! So, I have some goals and some solutions. I have to say that the chat room is the biggest motivator and I think it is under used!!! I get on there all the time and practice and no one is there. LOL! I just go with it.
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i dont think i really have a routine…i just pole when i can and when i really want to. having a list of moves helps and now that i like freestyling, finding a great song will make me want to pole
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for me new shoes make me want to pole too!! lol
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flexibility moves also inspire me, so many flexy moves i want to conquere!!
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yes life def happens, i wont be able to do many tricks soon beause of the pregnancy so i know i will lose alot of progress! but thats just the more determination to get it back. also skype is a great idea, i need to do that, never have but want to, i dont have a web cam yet, but one day i will skype with some awesome veeners!
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See, you and SV have kids and have gone through pregnancy down time and are still bad ass in my book. You two rock it out hard and I want at least half that talent. It is motivation for me. I am my worst enemy, and I am hoping to change that starting today. We will see. This s not a new goal. LOL!!!! But seriously you guys rock.
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LUVLEE quit bein hard on urself!!! U r awesome and badass 😉
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Awe! Thanks, Love. I am working on self esteem also. The thing is, I cn not quit or I will never see progress in myself. It is to easy to be hard on ourselves. I got my stretching session in! I will be posting pics and video soon of starting progress.
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u can do it, stay consistent with the stretching and u will see progress!
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I'm glad you started this thread, Luvlee https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_heart1.gif because I feel exactly the same way.
I really liked what Veena wrote.. because it made me see that I actually DO make myself feel guilty, if I don't push myself to practice when I don't feel like it, or if I have a bad practice, or if I get tired after only a half hour (which happens alot!). I promised myself I wouldn't use my age as an excuse, but at the same time I don't expect to be able to progress like a 25 year old. I have about half of the energy I had then, LOL. I guess we have to find a happy medium – between pushing ourselves really hard, to just poling to have fun and get some exercise. But the reality is, if we want those advanced tricks, there is alot of work and practice involved, and pole is not easy! So give yourself some credit, girl, you should be proud of yourself!!!!
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oops, sorry Luvlee, forgot to answer your question! https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_geek.gif What has really helped me is to have regular practice days, and do some stretching after every pole session, if possible. I also use DVD's alot, and Skype once a week on saturdays.. it gives me something to look forward to during the week..
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Right now, I can onlt practice for half an hour. I get so tired, weak, and sweaty. I use to go for an hour, so I expect I will be able to again soon. I keep saying I will set up Skype and really need to. I just sit in chat while I practice on here alone. LOL!!!!
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don't worry, you will definitely get your stamina back.. and I hope you get to try skype soon!
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Luvlee, I agree with others that you are way too hard on yourself and are tearing yourself down for no reason. And the common thread I seem to see in your comments is that you keep comparing yourself – your strength, your dance, your tricks, your flexibility, your stamina – to others, and especially to yourself in the past. You get stuck in this cycle of "I used to be able to _____ and now I can't and I fear I'll never be able to and that's not good enough for me."
I'm telling you, woman: That needs to stop NOW.
I feel into a similar trap with my writing. When I was a young teen, I could write ficiton for hours on end and I never got bored, or frustrated, or annoyed, or ran out of creative juice. It was fantastic; it felt so good. Then, whaddaya know, Life got in the way. I went to college, got a degree in creative writing, and promptly stopped writing. At first I said I was just resting after the marathon of my senior project, but then rest turned into vacation turned into just plain not writing. I still got inspired to write, but every time I actually sat down and tried, I felt like my creative muscles were stiff and cramped, the words wouldn't come, every idea sounded cliched and boring. And I kept thinking back to 14-year-old me, the aspiring author who wrote novels on her summer vacation, and envying her and thinking Boy, it came so easy back then and felt so good, why won't it do that anymore, what's wrong with me, will I ever write fiction again? And this thought pattern prevented me from writing for YEARS. I've only recently picked it back up – and I graduated college in 2008.
You can't go back in time. You can't pull resources (a studio, money for lessons, pole friends, time) out of thin air. You're behaving as though you think these things will happen if you just try hard enough. But it's never enough, because these things can't happen, and because it's never enough you end up frustrated and sad and discouraged and angry at yourself. Perfectionism is a powerful demon to carry on your back.
So, stop looking in the rearview mirror while fearing what lies ahead (32). Stop comparing yourself to what you could once do, whether it be hourlong practices, advanced tricks, pretty spins, poling every day, whatever. And don't compare yourself to others, either. You are the best dancer you can be right now – you are the only thing you can be right now.
Whatever you can get done in a practice, in a day, in a week – IT IS ENOUGH. I want you to repeat this to yourself. And while you're at it, it helps to have very small, realistic goals, goals you can reach without hours and hours of stretching and practice first. Like with your back flexibility, you already know your back is not naturally very flexy. That's a limitation you have to live with; you can't force yourself to be flexy. A flexy Scorpion pose is a very, very, very difficult thing to achieve, even for people who do yoga every day. Certainly you can work on stretching and contorting, but be realistic about what kind of progress you can expect to make – and accept that, because of your anataomy, you just might never get there – AND THAT'S OK. It doesn't make you a failure and you can't let yourself feel that way.
(I am that way about anything splits-related. My right hip was dislocated when I was born so it's always been a little weaker and less flexible, and it complains big time when I try to stretch it. I've accepted that the splits are not a realistic goal for me. It might mean I'll never have straight lines in certain moves, but working towards a solid splits is too painful. I'm not going to put myself through it just to be frustrated when I hit the wall of what I can achieve.)
We joke around here a lot about how life-consuming pole can be, thinking about it all the time, wanting to practice all the time, watching videos every day, putting combos together in our heads, etc. We're all here because we just absolutely love pole. But what sometimes helps me when I'm getting discouraged is to remind myself, It's Just Pole. Really. It's not a magic wand or a fairy godmother. I had a life before pole, and while it has certainly helped me change my life for the better, my life does not depend on how often I practice or what tricks I can do. More importantly, my HAPPINESS does not depend on pole. Happiness comes from within, it is a state of mind we cultivate by showing ourselves love and gratitude.
So when you feel like beating yourself up over a move you can't do, or a practice cut short by fatigue, or skipping a scheduled practice, or whatever – STOP. Stop and remind yourself that you love yourself no matter what. Practice or no practice. Tricks or no tricks. Pole or no pole. Go get a hug from Bob or Elle if it makes you feel better. Just don't let yourself spiraling into despair.
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@luvlee – I want to reply to your post by relating to some of the individual things said. Please don't feel like I'm trying to take it apart or anything, I'm just trying to answer all the points that jumped out at me, without forgetting any.
It would make ME so happy if I could watch one of my videos and actually like it. I think we all feel like this. Making and sharing videos is a good thing, but you should be careful about caring more about what's in the video than what you actually accomplished on the pole- that's a one way ticket to unhappytown, because 1) we all look a little wonkier on the pole than we feel, and 2) there's always someone's better video to wind up comparing yourself to.
I want to do a flexy scorpion pose. It opens a world of new moves up for pole too. I would have to stretch at least every other day to accomplish this. Having goals and working towards them is great, but it's important that they're realistic goals. I would love to do a rainbow marchenko, but it's never, ever going to happen for me because I don't have the back flexiblity. It's also important to have a realistic idea in mind of how long it's going to take to accomplish a goal, so that you don't get frustrated. It took me a year to get my splits, roughly three times as long as I anticipated. During that time there was a lot of frustration, tears, and nearly giving up. If I had know going in how long it was going to take, I think it would have been easier to deal with the slow progress. So, if you want a deep backbend pose and you don't have natural back flexibility, set your expectations low- it's going to take a while.
I want more strength so I can fly and it looks effortless like Shellectra comes to my mind. I probably don't even have to say this, but comparing yourself to others is a guaranteed way to make yourself unhappy. There's always someone more flexible, stronger, or more coordinated than you. That's just life. I made the mistake in July of taking a Chinese pole lesson with someone who is so good at pole she later went on to compete in the APFA and Midwest competitions. During the lesson, she was so far ahead of me I was crushed. Afterwards, I couldn't get over it- I really wanted to be as good as her, but it had been made painfully clear to me how far I was from that level. This caused me to nearly stop poling through August and September, put on more weight, and set myself back three months. Don't let this happen to you- comparing yourself to others is psychologically toxic.
I use to be happy after dancng and want to do it more. It was easy for me. Now, it has gotten harder and I leave my sessions almost in tears sometimes. I get frustrated and why would I want to do it again? It's important to think about why this is happening. I had the same thing happen, and for me it was because when I started, I advanced so quickly I had some *ahem* delusions of grandeur that maybe I would be REALLY good at this. As my progress slowed, I had to accept my body's limitations, and re-adjust my goals to be more realistic. This process was painful, but less painful than constantly beating myself up because I wasn't doing as well as I wanted to be.
I see myself gsining weight and this is new for me also. I turn 32 this coming March and it is all catching up w me. I hear you. I'm 31. For some reason, in the first six months I poled I lost twenty pounds. Over the next year, I then proceeded to pole more, but put back on at least half of that (and no, it isn't all muscle). I know in my case I'm not getting enough cardio, and I eat too much. I don't know what the case is for you, but figuring it out and stopping the weight gain will probably go a long way to making you feel better about pole in general. (I know I got to a point where I almost stopped making videos, I was so ashamed of myself- feeling like that'll suck the fun right out of poling)
Well, I hope some of that was helpful. I couldn't help but hear so many familiar things in your post: the longing to be really, really good at this, the frustration, the anxiety. It's a fine line between pushing yourself to get better in a healthy way, and just beating yourself up for not being as good as you want to. Try to stay on the happier side of that line.
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Ah, having a life. I remember when I used to have that! Both my computer (I'm a gamer, so not having a computer is MORE crushing to me than not being able to pole) and my car have died on me, so I have NOTHING to do but train for pole right now. And work when I can. But that's not fun and there's no way I'm ever going to be cut-throat about making money and I've accepted that. ANYWAY.
A lot of the girls here have touched base with you and not being so down about yourself. I want to answer the initial question: HOW does one fit pole in their day? What do you do when you don't have a lot of money or time to invest in pole, but still want to do it, be good at it, and ultimately feel good about doing it?
Here are some tips of things I used to do to get pole training in:
1.) Stretch while you watch TV. If you have a tv show you watch with your family, it's a great time to get in some stretching. For me, stretching is reaallllyyyyy reallllyyy boring. It takes forever. I count 30s and it's actually only been like, 7. There's a clock mounted into our cable box, so when I start a pose I hold it for one scene. When that scene is over, I look at the clock, note what time it was when I started/ended so I can estimate the time of that pose, and do that pose on the other side for the same amount of time. You can also just watch tv and glance at the clock every couple of seconds, but I have ADD and I have to take small breaks (scene changes) to remind myself I'm doing two things at once. You can also lift weights, or if you have a coffee table infront of your tv, do wrist mobility exercises. I like doing those as well, because I can watch a show and do as many reps and sets as possible without ever seriously noticing (you DO feel the burn after about half an hour, won't lie.)
2.) Make a checklist. I get super excited when I get to cross things off of a checklist. I'm also kinda arts and crafts, so when I make a checklist I go into photoshop and make a mofo checklist (#swag). Anyway, my suggestion is to NOT just write down with a pen and ugly yellow legal pad a list of things you want to do. That paper is not motivational. It reminds you of work, and sadness…well, it does for me LOL. It's also something easily lost. Sit down when you have about half an hour to an hour, and photoshop yourself a pretty background to print a checklist onto. Something that will stand out to you. If you don't know your way around photoshop, you can just use a pretty or inspiring photo you found, and paste it into paint and just write the list there with the text tool. If you want to be more eco friendly and not waste paper, you could also buy a whiteboard and decorate it with some pole dance charms, old worn out shoes, and of course, glitter. This also helps with motivation. If you're struggling with pole-ups that day, skip it and go to pole sit-ups, and come back later.
3.) MAKE FRANDS! Okay, so this might be a little hard for those of you on the east coast or if you are a maple neighbor of the north, being that it's winter. But when winter is over, or if it isn't cold enough to be forced to stay inside where you are, go walk your dogs! If you have a dog park, meet someone who is also walking their dog, and make a fitness friend. This is also easier if you have a gym membership, but I don't have one and I've mad fitness friends this way. Having someone to work out with seriously boosts your desire to work out. They don't need to pole dance, but that is a serious plus and you can always convert them later (it's every pole dancer's master plan anyway :] ) As you and other's have pointed out, you can even have fitness jams with people here on SV.
4.) Free stuff? Check nearby community centers to see if they are offering any free sample classes. The Rec center here is constantly offering awesome asian fusion cardio (juijitsu, tai-bo, etc) and things like zumba, and sometimes they're free or half off! Even if you're pinching pennies, if a class is less than $10 I'm likely to try it out. This mixes up your regular conditioning/cardio schedule and also is a great way to STEP 3 MAKE FRANDS. I mean, why do some women start pole dancing? Because they were bored with their regular workout. If you have a friend who teaches a fitness class of any sort, check in and see if you can get in for free or half off. Even if you hate it. I have a friend who teaches zumba and I had to drag myself into one of her classes. I did not have fun, but I did get a workout :> Check out dance classes, too!
5.) Keep a log book. I use Fitocracy. Someone said something about My Fitness Pal but I've never tried it. I like Fitocracy because there's a pole dance community (although it's pretty dead) and it's almost like going to studio veena where you can be like, YEAAHHH, I WORKED OUT TODAY! And complete strangers get excited and support you because they know how hard it is, too. It's definitely not nearly as supportive as SV, but that's pretty hard to do. I find that I use it more because it's like social networking, instead of a sad little notebook where only I can track my progress. But if you're more of a private person, a notebook works well too. I feel like this is different from posting flexy pics progress and videos because you can see your tolerance increase workout to workout. This week, 60s plank. Next week? 120s plank. My body still looks the same to me right now, but apparently it's preforming better and seeing that is a huge motivation boost!
6.) Rewards. It seems pretty self explanatory, but rewards can get pretty complicated! When I nail a new move I've been trying to get for months, (Roxy, I'm looking at you) it opens up a world of new things I haven't been able to do before, but that in and of itself is a reward! I would love to live in a world where every workout made me feel like the very first time I got a shoulder mount, or an invert, or what I like to call, "the new move high". Unfortunately, we all have blah workouts. Sometimes it feels like the blah workouts are more frequent than the breakthrough workouts, but it's important to remind yourself that you're awesome and you gave yourself the kick in the ass to actually work out. A lot of people DON'T. So make a list of things you would be okay (and you can use ugly paper for this if you want LOL) with treating yourself with for completing a workout. For instance, I can't just eat ONE candy bar…so rewarding myself with a candy bar isn't something that I can do. But what I would instead do is take out a dollar for every ten minutes that I worked out, and put it into a pole jar. No, you don't get to count breaks 🙁 You can make up your own little rewards…I'm all about food and money, so it's hard for me to get in a reward mindset for anything else 😛 Get your spouse to help you. Example: I love making smoothies, but there is no such thing as a clean friendly blender. I normally just rinse and throw in the dishwasher, but I feel bad for taking up so much space. So if I had a boyfriend, I would ask him to help me reach my fitness goals, by asking him to clean the blender IF I worked out. And then I would trade him a favor, like opening beer and bringing it to him during a game or something.
7.) Try poleing first. I too would go to work, or be stuck in a class, or at an airport, and see a pole and think "MY GOD, WHEN I GET HOME, I MUST POLE!" This was a thought that magically vanished as soon as I lugged my tired ass through the door, ate some ice cream, and immediate sat down for my vice of choice (for me it was the computer.) I don't really have any tips for that one. If you are already home, and you have this thought, don't stop and say, "when I'm done with laundry." Drop whatever you are doing and go pole. Freestyle for 20m. Choreograph a routine if you aren't feeling super amazing flow sauce that day. Work on perfecting a move you're really good at, or try learning a new one if you feel uber amazing. The goal is to get you to feel good about poleing. When you think, "I have to pole, I really want to pole today" it's because you're trying to catch up with that feeling of feeling…well, AMAZING. Having FUN. So have FUN. Don't try to reward yourself with pole as it is an activity; you might get down on yourself for not having as much energy because you kept pushing it back all day. That's just how I work, though, and everyone is different.
8.) Make an inspiration folder. This could be a physical folder, or a favorites folder in your internet browser or just a file folder on your computer. I like the physical folder because more glitter is better and I'm a visual learner, but that's just me. Take the time to collect things that inspire you to pole, and find a quote that you like. Or several. I have a few printed pictures of pole idols with inspiring things they've said tagged under them. If you have a pole space (I don't) you could hang them up. If not, and you are planning on making a weekly schedule and keeping to it, look at this before you work out. Maybe you could tie this into #7 and do it on your way home, while you fill up gas, etc to get you to actually do it when you walk in the door? Also, actual inspirational phrases (having a brain fart on the real term) might help you. There was a common saying at every studio I've ever been to; "If it hurts, you're know you're doing it right." While I don't like repeating phrases, this might be helpful to others. If you feel the burn in your workout, you know you're doing it right. You can pick other non-pole related quotes. Apparently they're called "exercise mantras". Here's a list of some if you want to look through a few. I like the one about hours in the week and how many are being asked for, it really puts things in perspective and it's not something I've heard six thousand and eight times. http://www.pbfingers.com/2011/01/19/exercise-mantras/
ALSO; set aside some space in your closet for workout clothes. I feel more inclined to work out if I dress out in spandex and hooker heels, polefit bras, leg warmers. Do your makeup ultra sultry if it helps! I personally feel like it helps me to have cute pole clothes. Even if I'm not recording that day, dressing for the part really helps motivate me to work out. "I've gone through all this trouble to get ready, there's no way I can quit before I start" is the mindset I get.
And then the usual "(re) decorate your pole space". I'm broke, so that's not always an option…but you can move furniture around, and clean up your area….I pole in the garage, so I have a lot of work to do before I could consider my pole area acceptable.
9.) Sneak in mini-workouts for conditioning outside of home. Do you have to go to the store? Work in an office? My zumba teaching friend recommended jogging ** through the store or briskly walking when doing mundane errands like grocery shopping. And, it makes sense. You warm up your muscles while jogging through the store. When you get in line, you can do preacher walks or lunges or whatever standing exercise you want. On the way back to the car, find a stop sign or pole of choice and bust out a flag or two. For the office, you can always buy a balance ball and replace your office chair, then sneak in an ab workout during lunch. Run up and down the stairs for warm up.
**My zumba pal also informed me that most people run and speed walk incorrectly. I personally didn't know you could "run wrong" but most people do, and I was definitely guilty of that. You shouldn't hear your feet pounding when you run. That's where the joint pressure comes from. And don't flex your toes when you speed walk to avoid shin splints.
I wish there was a number ten because I hate odd numbers, but those are all of the suggestions I have. I hope this helps. :3
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Ok – here it is – I SUCK at pole. Yep, it's true, but, I am getting better. If we can, I leave the pole up and catch a spin or a hold as I am going by it. Sometimes, that is my only poling of the day. 4 kids and a full time career have a nasty habit of leaving me little time to pole. However, each little spin, hold, booty-up, body wave makes me smile, because it's a moment of doing something I love. Another secret – I dance in my cubicle at work – so far, I haven't been caught. Mostly fluid movement, reflective of bellydance, but it's still fun.
The reason I'm giving up secrets here is to point out that I pole for me. I'm not going to look like anyone other than myself, even though I may want to look like Rixi in those rocking skates, or you, luvlee in that awesome gold bikini, I'm still going to look like me. My time on pole, be it 5 minutes or 55, is for me. One of the few things I choose to give myself.
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I am overwhelmed by the responses I am getting here and I have to say thank you for ALL of them. It is good to know I am not alone in this feeling sometimes. I think the problem I am having was motivation. I have the time to stretch and pole. But after the medical stuff I would rather sit and feel sorry for myself BUT I decided yesterday to set goals. I have set some short term AND long term. The scorpion is long term for me. I know that it may take over a year. That is ok. I Did this pose on top of a human triangle in high school so I think Iay be able to do it again but it will take mass time. These things won’t come out I thin air and that is why I set goals. I wrote practice days on the calendar too. I like the scrap book of pole moves I want. I have a iPhone but am still a paper list person. Lol! Thank you again for all these ideas and responses.
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