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Help me get my daughter taken off of YouTube
Hi guys, I have a YouTube issue going on right now and I’m asking for some help from my people. It’s not pole related so Veena if you want to takie this thread down I totally understand.
My daughter Shania got in a fight after school yesterday. A girl that has been picking on her for months came up to her and hit her and my daughter defended herself. Well one of the girls that was watching it (and encouraging it) posted the video on youtube for everyone at the school to watch and laugh at. I’m trying to get as many people as I can to flag the video for "Youth Violence" so hopefully youtube will take the video down. I’m utterly outraged about the whole situation and I’ll be making a trip to the school tomorrow to discuss it with the principal but in the mean time I’m trying to do whatever I can to get the video removed. Here is the link…. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7oa6Rdiidvo
If you guys can go to the vid and flag it for me I’d greatly appreciate it.
V I’m sorry if this is too far off the subject for poling but this community is like family to me and I was hoping I might get some help here. Thanks guys!
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Done. How many flags does it need to be taken down?
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webby and I both flagged it!!!!!!! https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_evil.gif
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I am so saddened that young girls act this way, I hope the video is removed soon.
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You can keep refreshing the page and keep flagging, i did it like 10 times already. I am not sure how many flags are needed to remove a video .
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That was so stupid… in multiple ways.
I’m sorry for your daughter… I had to laugh at the end though when the other girl said she was leaving because your daughter went for her face. I say that girl was stupid enough to start it so she shouldn’t be surprised if the other person does what they can to defend themselves – duh! There is no reason for any disagreement to become physical…
I flagged it, good luck and keep us posted if it gets taken down.
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It’s been removed Sissy https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_cheers.gif Your a good mom!! https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_biggrin.gif
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Thank you so much guys!!!! I’m so happy right now I could cry. I knew I could count on you guys https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_biggrin.gif
I’m still going to the school though LOL
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Hey I just flagged the vid hope your daughter is ok,
I just got one question, when i saw who posted the video, the name of the profile was
ShawnieandAsiaShow … so I guess it was your daughters friend posting the vid? Cant you ask her to delete the video? Anyway, Ill ask my friends to flag it too so you’ll get removed soon. -
I went to flag it for a second time and it is down due to "terms of use violation" https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_cheers.gif
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Hey I just flagged the vid hope your daughter is ok,
I just got one question, when i saw who posted the video, the name of the profile was
ShawnieandAsiaShow … so I guess it was your daughters friend posting the vid? Cant you ask her to delete the video? Anyway, Ill ask my friends to flag it too so you’ll get removed soon.The profile belongs to 2 girls who she "used" to be friends with. I tried to call and ask politely but couldn’t reach the girl or her folks. so I had to take matters into my own hands. My daughter gets picked on all the time from girls at school. It was only a matter of time before she had to defend herself and fight.
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this kind of stuff scares me and prepares me all at the same time. Im sorry your daughter is dealing with this, but I am glad the video has been removed. Girls keep uping the ante every year, im only wondering what its going to be like when my daughter hits that age. Why do girls have to creul sometimes??? https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_mad.gif
Let us know what the outcome is with the principal.
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Went to flag it but It’s been removed. Glad it got sorted out Sissy!
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I just saw this Sissy! I’m so glad the video got removed. Fighting is never a solution to anything, but I am glad that Shania was able to defend herself. Please let us know what happens with the principal!!
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Just saw this and glad that it got taken down. You are handling this better than I would. I think I would be visiting not only the principal but also some parents.
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You can tell Shania that "Miss Pink" got her back!
I am not one to condone violence however I do think it is important for our kids to stand up for themselves…fortunately I was unable to see the vid! Would she be interested in taking martial arts? It would do wonders for her self esteem and I can gaurantee that those girls would never mess with her again.
O (my son for those of you who don’t know me) is a very passive yet very strong kid…He kept getting picked on and bullied around by some kids in his class..until one day he had enough and stood up and side kicked the kid in the chest…he then proceded to sit back down, didn’t say a word! Of course the school called because it was a "physical altercation" but he did not get in trouble at home..he was standing up for himself.
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I offered martial arts to her a even encouraged it but she wasn’t interested. Maybe I should force it.
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I’m glad the video situation has been resolved; I’d say if you’re going to attempt forcing martial arts perhaps start with just a women’s self defense class so the idea doesn’t leave a sour taste in her mouth, due to reason. She may become interested in the more dedicated styles just by watching other girls (or guys https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_surprised.gif https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_scratch.gif) close to her age in the dojo. Good luck! https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_flower.gif
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I’m glad the video situation has been resolved; I’d say if you’re going to attempt forcing martial arts perhaps start with just a women’s self defense class so the idea doesn’t leave a sour taste in her mouth, due to reason. She may become interested in the more dedicated styles just by watching other girls (or guys https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_surprised.gif https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_scratch.gif) close to her age in the dojo. Good luck! https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_flower.gif
If there are cute boys there, she’s all in!
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I went to flag it but it’s already down!! Yay!!
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I am so sorry that you and your daughter had to go through that.
I didnt see the video, but I do hope you have made a copy of it straight off of youtube and take it to the school board and press charges against the little sh*t . Hopefully no one was hurt phyically, mentally and emotionally I do hope that your daughter is doing o.k. -
I’m so sorry about your daughter…The video has been removed by the site for violence. That’s great news isn’t it? People get together and help each other out.
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So glad they took the video down!
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I offered martial arts to her a even encouraged it but she wasn’t interested. Maybe I should force it.
As a girl who has trained in martial arts for over ten years and who started in my teens, please don’t force her if she doesn’t want to. You’ll be doing her a dis-service and the art a dis-service. Instead, see if you can spark her interest. There are many styles of martial arts. Try to show her several different styles. Maybe she just doesn’t want to punch and kick. Maybe a more defensive style like Aikido would be more to her liking. Also, see if you can find a school that has women and girls training. See if she would be willing to watch class and see what goes on. A big inspiration for me was watching my instructor, who is a woman, and the other high-ranking women and girls in my class. -
Hey Sissy. Hope your girl is OK. This whole thing must be so traumatic for her and to have it posted for the world to see is disgusting. Since I’m a school counselor, I’ve had these types of issues brought to me. I always try to work with the parties involved to mediate the dispute. I never hesitate to call the other kid’s parents to tell them what their kid is doing/has done. They really should see that video so they know how their kid is behaving. Since this took place off school grounds and deals with a website that all school systems block, there probably isn’t a whole lot the prinicipal can legally do. One principal I used to work for used to tell parents that they needed to contact the police to file harassment charges against the person who posted content and to print out any sort of threats/humiliation/intimidation for proof. A good principal will be able to help in conjunction with the school resource officer, the counselor, and the school psychologist. I often work with kids to identify what it is that is making them a target, I also work with them on social skills and staying safe. Just Friday I had to mediate between a bunch of high school girls who were threatening to ‘jump’ another girl. Turns out no one really wanted to fight and the girls were able to honestly discuss their feelings. The whole thing turned out waaay better than I expected and the girls decided they wanted to be friends. They promised each other that they would work on the things that were frustrating the other and then they went to eat lunch together. I couldn’t believe how little it took to fix the issue! It’s definitely not always that easy!!
I think the problem is that young people are A) so impulsive and B) don’t have the social skills to resolve conflict. Fighting just becomes the quickest release for their tension.
I hope there is a fantastic counselor up at that school. If your girl is getting picked on she needs someone in the building who can help her work things out. It sounds like this issue has been causing a lot of pain and I hope everything comes out in your baby girl’s favor!
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So glad you got it taken down! That is such a strong thing to do – to fight for that!
My stepdaughter is just entering the preteen years and it scares the hell out of me. All the things I dealt with when I was young, I am scared of her having to deal with. I know everyone has to learn to cope, but it’s so hard when it’s your kid and not yourself.
For kids not into martial arts, does anyone have any experience if basic mediation skills can help avoid fights like these? Not getting a mediator, but teaching conflict resolution skills?
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