[untamedshrew]

I have a commercially made pole mounted on a stage. It weighs 150 lbs and required over 100 lbs of sandbags to weigh it down. It occasionally tilts a bit when I get crazy and bows a little as well. I’ve found most my mishaps are from falling off the stage rather than the pole. It makes floorwork nearly impossible and takes up a ton of floorspace. The stage impedes me a lot. I think stages really aren’t a good choice for beginners (which I still am I guess). I plan on getting a freestanding pole when I can afford it. I’m wondering how much you’ll save building your own pole? Good luck! https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_thumright.gif

[untamedshrew]

I showed this thread to the hubby to see if he’s be more comfortable about me posting vids. FIrst, my husband wanted me to clarify that he wasn’t "insanely jealous". I may have exaggerated a bit for effect. Second, we had a long conversation and it turns out his main concern is that I wanted to show the vids to men I know. He doesn’t care if they happen upon them, but he thought I was going to encourage men to watch them. So we cleared that all up and I’ll be posting soon hopefully! https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_cheers.gif https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_cheers.gif

Oh, junglecat- thanks for the male perspective. I appreciate your frankness. I almost choked on my sandwich! We need an occasional reminder about how insecure, simple and disgusting boys can be! It helps us keep them in their place! https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_jokercolor.gif

[untamedshrew]

Me and my hubby go to strip clubs too but I think my expanding pole knowledge is taking the fun out of it because all I do is critique the girls and explain all the moves to him.

"See that? That’s a gemini, I can almost do that….oh and see how she just did that and then her legs came up real slow…that’s a shoulder mount and it takes so much core strength…."

after a while he’s like https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_rolleyes.gif

LOL!!!

Yeah, we ruin it for them! My husband gets mad that I talk to the girls. It makes them "real people" and then it spoils his fantasies. https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_lol.gif

[untamedshrew]

cbr,
I’m so sorry for your pain! Your subject included the word advice. Are you sure you want advice? No one but you can know what’s best for you. But as a third party, I can make some impartial observations. As someone whose marriage is probably falling apart, I can sympathisize. As a crisis worker, I can listen and offer support. First, you have no reason to feel like scum of the earth for what you’ve done! Your gut told you something was wrong, so you did some investigating and confirmed it. Your bf and this other woman seem awfully inappropriately close. They’ve only known each other a month? You’re scared and sad he may be falling for her. Understandably. They are sharing intimate feelings. Perhaps they are just friends. If so, he’s giving much of his time and support to her instead of you. Either way, just the fact that you are devastated by his actions indicates something about your relationship is not meeting your needs. If your realtionship was strong, you would trust that he isn’t doing anything wrong. It sounds like you’re worried about how he will react to your actions. He will be less likely to react with anger or get defensive if you approach him with concern instead of accusatory. Also focusing on how you feel will help communication. "I" statements rather than "you" statements are more productive. For example "I feel neglected" rather than "You’re ignoring me". Perhaps discussing this relationship with this woman will open up some honest dialogue between you. Within every crisis lies an opportunity for growth and change. Whatever happens, know you will be ok. If you want to talk to someone anonymously, the crisis line I work on runs 24-7 at 800-231-1127.
And if you end up needing someone to kick his ass, Amcut and I are the SV Enforcers. https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_evil.gif https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_blackeye.gif https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_wink.gif

[untamedshrew]

LOL! Yep it seems like an oxymoron. My hubby recently complained I wasn’t being sexual enough…Hello! I pole dance and take you to strip clubs! You can’t pole dance without being in touch with your sexuality or sensuality. I tell my husband he has to sneak into the room to catch me practicing, or I get silly. https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_geek.gif

[untamedshrew]

Yeah! I’m not the only one! My husband has been like "Hey, I thought this was my birthday present! I’ve had 2 shows in six months and I paid $600 for this!" He thinks I tricked him. I agree that seeing the practice, especially the screw ups, spoils the show. I’ll have to tell hubby that. I get nervous when he watches, and even when I turn the camera on; I’ll have to try closing my eyes. I’m definitely showing him this thread!

Shy pole dancers unite!!

[untamedshrew]

Men can masturbate over just about anything.

We could be scaredies and make sure to never throw out our feminine napkins with the regular trash- because some weirdo might sniff them.

Or wear supersmocks outside (maybe a burqa?) because someone might find us sexy.

I respect my husband… when he’s not being an idiot.

Amcut- you are f in HEElarious! First line made me LOL. The next one made me spray yogurt all over my desk. Third and fourth had me nodding in agreement and chuckling. Coworkers think I’m crazy! https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/alien.gif

My husband has become insanely jealous at the thought of me posting videos. We’ve had several talks and gotten nowhere. I tried to reassure, said I’d only post "tricks", no "wiggle" and no heels and lingerie. But then this month’s challenge got me thinking and I really want to post it all. I want to show off my skills and I want feedback and criticism. I don’ want to sneak and do it, cuz I don’t do sneaky well and that makes things worse. So I’m printing this thread and leaving it for him to read. Wish me luck! I’ve got the perfect song for ametuer night!

[untamedshrew]

Thanks Saschapoles, that help a lot. https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_thumleft.gif
I’m glad I didn’t waste my money buying something there’s no way I could squeeze into! Your booty definitely isn’t large, and you were showing some cheek in that pic! https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_sunny.gif

[untamedshrew]

Veena- if your booty is a medium, then I must be at least a double xl!
Oh well! I’ll keep tucking my shorts into the waistband; it looks like I’m wearing a diaper! https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_joker.gif https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_joker.gif

[untamedshrew]

Ok, someone help me, plaease! I was checking out the sizing chart on the boy shorts. I’m currently down to a size 10, but barely. Large is like a lttle over 12 inches across. So can I assume that means they’re about 24 inches total?? So how stretchy are they, cuz aint no part of my booty area near that number!! https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_tongue.gif
Has anyone with a badonkadonk ordered these yet?

[untamedshrew]

Thanks for the support and tips! I knew how to get out of the scorpio, I just forgot because I was so excited. I get brainfarts! https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_surprised.gif https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_redface.gif

Sascha, I have the lessons and they’ve helped a bunch. Wish there were more! *(hint, hint Veena)*

[untamedshrew]

Yeah Fleur, what’s up with that? https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_scratch.gif

[untamedshrew]

Natalie- you’ve NEVER fallen off your stage??!! https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_eek.gif
You must be more graceful, cautious, or stronger than I am. This was my first "bad" fall, but I’ve had a handful of smaller ones. I’ve tripped or had too much momentum spinning or just blanked out like this time. I’ve also started hitting things because my spins are getting bigger. I have opened my bedroom curtains with my feet many times now; I’m sure the teenage boy that lives behind me doesn’t mind! https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_surprised.gif
I like to "let er rip" and go crazy; I should probably tone it down a notch until I get my other pole. https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_safesex.gif

[untamedshrew]

I wouldn’t recommend just letting go and hoping you land on your free foot (lemme guess: that’s what you did https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_tongue.gif)
I may have done that. I was so excited that I just blanked out! Your moral is much better than mine! I just get carried away sometimes. https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_bounce.gif https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_bounce.gif

[untamedshrew]

Congrats! https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_cheers.gif https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_cheers.gif