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Oh and you can usually check for beams with a hammer and nail if all else fails. If it taps in easily you’re over drywall. If it taps in and then gets stuck you’re over wood.
Also if you have an old school house that is real actual plaster over flak boarding you can pretty much put the pole anywhere, because of how the houses were constructed back then. You will USUALLY know if this is the case because you won’t be able to get a nail in anywhere.
If you don’t feel comfortable making that determination stick to the board method!
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You don’t have to do that. If you really don’t have optimal placement, get a nice thick piece of plywood, about an inch, that is big enough to make a square that covers the gap between beams. Use sturdy bolts to attach the piece of wood to the ceiling directly into the beams. You should be able to put the dome over that area and it will distribute the weight to the beams.
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It’s good that you’re getting used to that shin grip as a beginner. You’ll eventually be able to work on climbing using just the shin grip with both feet pointed like Jenyne. It’s hard to learn if you get really dependent on that flexed foot (like I did when I was learning lol)
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I don’t really drink anymore, but for me the hung over feeling doesn’t really go away until I can eat a normal meal and drink about a half liter of water or milk with it.
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I also suffer from anxiety and panic attacks. Fortunately I’m gaining more control every day and am 100% medication free. But it will always be something that creeps up from time to time. I’ve learned to see this as something that has been a part of my life since childhood but it doesn’t define me or control my actions. Pole and getting physically fit in general has done wonderful things for my overall mental health, but now it also importantly is a source of friendship and support in times of need. And I think that’s why pole didn’t just get me healthy but helps me stay healthy in the long term in a whole-being kind of way.
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I second target. They carry a line of ultra-light weight wicking fabric undies. I get the low rise panties and thongs in black or flesh toned and they work under everything and show no lines.
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Was in the instructor who made the comment about your song choice? If so that's something I personally would not tolerate hearing from an instructor, and as an instructor I would never say something like that. If it was another student who said that to you, I think you should bring to the instructor's attention that the other student(s) is/are making you uncomfortable.
As for feeling self-conscious, I really empathize with you because I've had similar experiences. Self-confidence about my body is a recent feature in my life and if I had a nickel for every time I've gotten one of those "if I were your size…" comments….ugh. Now that I have a more positive self-image, I've learned that when women say that what you're really hearing is a genuine compliment that is colored by and buried underneath their own negative body-image. They have the same hate of some parts of themselves that you do, and wind up insulting you because that hate comes out in the comments. If there are specific things being said that bother you, by all means bring those up in a calm way and handle the issue. It sounds like the class environment isn't really supportive, and that's something you can address with the staff or even try to find a new studio if possible.
But also remember that people will always make comments, and you ultimately have to work on embracing and loving yourself so your positivity comes from inside and shields you from all that. Don't let there be a cloud deep inside of you that can grow and engulf you. Really question what the shame and fear and anxiety does to your life, ask yourself where it comes from, ask yourself what changes it has made in your life and what you do (that you don't want to do) to accomodate it. Shine a light right on that BS and burn it away. Stop looking at a 2"x2" patch on your belly and step back in the mirror, see the whole you and the powerful body that made life and protects life and lives life. That's the body that carries you in this world, and that's amazing. And nothing to be ashamed of. And if people like that are going to STILL make the comments whether you cover up or not, then why try to prevent it? Why not live open and proud and without the fear and set yourself free from the things about other people that you can't change?
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Get the release tools!! They are a MUST and the safest way to get the poles apart. My pole has damage to the holes on one of the main sections from the previous owner pushing too hard on the chopsticks and it actually bumped the hole out to a sharp edge which I have to really watch myself on as I have cut myself on it before. The release tools distribute the force to both sides of the holes so that can’t happen.
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If you want to work on activating those muscles, stop the flow of urine when you’re on the toilet. If you can do that, you know you’ve got the right muscles.
Here’s my kegal routine since it seems a lot of us need to work on them. I do all these once per day:
Contract and release as quickly as you can in five pulses. Relax a few seconds then do it again times five. These were hard for me when I first started, I had to start slow and work up speed.
Contract and hold for 30 seconds. Rest a few seconds in between. Do this times three.
Squeeze and release to the beat of a song.
If you stick to a kegal routine, not only will you reduce the queefing and stop any problems you may have with leaking when you laugh or cough, but you will have stronger and more powerful orgasms. And who doesn’t want that?
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Oh lord yes to the deodorant. A little dry hands or tite grip on the pits is a good deodorant substitute for performing, especially if you’re ultra sweaty like me and that itself would make you slip as it does me.
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Chemmie why the heck did you have to tell me that? That’s just mean.
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A physical therapist is the best possible route for sciatica. My SO was crippled with acute sciatica that lasted over a year to the point where he needed a cane at 25 y/o. He tried chiropractic, which actually made it so much worse that he was bed-bound. When he went to physical therapy, he was back at work and school with about 90% recovery within ONE WEEK.
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D’oh, just realized you had already tried brass. I read that wrong at first and thought you said you had chrome in the studio. My bad!
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If you typically sweat a lot I would try out a brass pole before you buy one. As slippery as chrome is for me, brass is almost worse because my hand sweat feels like lube on a brass pole and yet when it gets warm if there are not sweaty parts on my body they will stick TOO much and it feels like my skin will rip.
In general I suggest you try out finishes before you get them. But if you have super sweaty hands as I do, you may want to think twice about brass.
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I definitely feel the superman in my glutes when I do Amber’s variation, it has an upswept back leg that’s basically tantamoun to doing a leg lift on the pole. And just climbing is good for legs and booty as well.
But I do firmly believe in doing boring old leg work: squats, abductor/adductor, calves, etc. I’ve found pole has always left my upper body and core sore, but I didn’t get the booty results I wanted until I specifically worked on my legs. I just don’t think most pole moves will do for the lower body what they do for the upper body, but doing the lower body workouts does definitely transfer back to pole and make a lot of things feel easier. I hate squats too, but I know they’re worth it. My last few videos all have comments about my butt asking me what I do, the answer is sadly squats.
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Sweet Jesus scarlet, that is ridiculously sexy. And you got taller shoes.
DROOL…fanning myself over here LOL
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Umm WOW, I’ve never seen this apparatus before. But, when I searched it on YT, this is what I got. It’s from cirque du soleil:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f9lUu2QAltA&feature=youtube_gdata_player
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By the way I have to say it’s such a credit to Amber that those of use who are so inflexible have had such rewarding experiences w/ her since she’s rather flexy herself yet she totally “gets” the perspective of the unflexy person.
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I agree 100%, I got that same lesson from Amber and it has saved me a lot of pain and self loathing.
For example the jade. I can’t do anywhere near a flat jade and when I try it looks like crappy poo poo. But I can hit that stag jade/half hip hold every time and extend fully into it and make it pretty. Doesn’t mean I can’t work on my splits but for show purposes do the moves you know you look beautiful on your body as it is now.
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I'm afraid I can't comment on the socks, but I will say that I've protected my foot for a few long sessions with tape. Bondage tape works great. Just a wrap around the arch of the foot seems to do the job great for me.
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Ooh also, 18′ ceilings PLEASE tell me you’re getting an aerial rig. Please oh please. Do it for both of us!
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Freaking double post, sorry!
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X-pole calls this their “competition/studio” setup I believe, it’s not listed as something for purchase on the website itself but rather something they mention that you can do specially, so you’ll definitely need to call or email. I’m sure if you tell them your ceiling height they’ll just set you up with everything you need.
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X-pole calls this their “competition/studio” setup I believe, it’s not listed as something for purchase on the website itself but rather something they mention that you can do specially, so you’ll definitely need to call or email. I’m sure if you tell them your ceiling height they’ll just set you up with everything you need.
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I haven’t looked into any other particular models of camera yet since it’s not financially feasible for me to buy another one right now.
I also don’t know anything about video cameras so I don’t really know how to search for what I want. I may look it up on Consumer Reports, they always have a good breakdown of the different models they test and I’m sure they’ve probably compared the flip to other cameras.
