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I want to also add that, whenever they list what organization is being donated to, you should also look up that research organization.
Some “charities” take over 90% of all the money they take in as “overhead.” This means they are PAYING THEMSELVES with donation money and using only 10% on actual charity causes/research. Only donate to organizations who take as low of an overhead cut as possible to know that your money went to a good cause. Susan G. Komen for the cure has had some criticism of how much overhead they take. It’s something to be aware of. Everyone wants their cut
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Sorry to resurrect an old post, bad form. But I did this post a disservice a while ago, and it needs to be corrected.
Today I read a post on Charley’s FB asking this same question. A lot of thoughts came to my mind at once.
I’ve been poling for two years now, progressed to a level that I didn’t know if I’d be able to achieve, and transitioned to being a teacher to some really awesome students. And, I think most importantly, I’ve spent the last year really working on myself. With the support and encouragement of some friends very close to my heart, a lot has changed.
I’ve struggled with body image all my life- and those issues will always be a part of me. But now, I see in my reflection how far I have come. When I look in the mirror, I see progress and potential. I see a body that was worked for, a physique that is earned. When people give me compliments, I don’t feel compelled to reject that gift by disagreeing. I don’t carry that burden; I’m free to just say “thank you.” And I know each compliment represents a kind of gift. I try to carry them as such.
When I’m hard on myself now, it’s because I want to push myself to progress, not because I want to push myself down for how I look. I still have issues with my body, mostly because women’s clothing isn’t designed with a strong, flat-chested upper body in mind. But you’ll never hear me bash myself for those muscles. I earned them. I own them. They’re mine. And every line of muscle you can see on my body is a love letter from me to myself, because I know now that I love the person in this body-and I love the body that has carried this person so far.
Anyone out there reading who feels more like my posts up top than the post down here- don’t give up on yourself. You can free yourself from all that hate. It can be done.
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Ellen- you just pull up and get the shoulder over like you were going into a hood ornament or setting up to go into a chopper from superman. Once the pit grip is secure, you pull the legs up and open in a V to the Teddy. I’d never thought of it until I saw David do it.
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David Owen showed me my new favorite out this weekend: superman to Teddy. So cute.
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I don't often apply grip to the pole itself, just my sweaty pig hands and body. But for the purposes of applying directly to the pole, I highly reccomend grrrip because you can get it in a spray bottle. Spray directly on pole, let dry, perfect coverage.
For my ultra sweaty hands, I've used mighty grip (hate it) grrrip (love it) and dry hands (love it).
For hands AND body, I've used both light and medium . The medium seems to work for me. Haven't tried the full. I wound up with the because polefitmom hated it…but it seems to work for me in certain applications. As with all grip aids, it seems nothing works 100% of the time. They're as conditional as my grip itself. Sometimes, I just get too sweaty and have to stop.
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I bet it's hoop lessons. Someone mentioned it in chat today and she didn't say anything back….
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I absolutely love parkour and I'm soooo happy to see gyms for it popping up. Their staff just looks like such a fun group…definitely the sort of people who make you want to throw yourself off a building in a good way!
It's a sport that trains you to build up as much potential energy as you can, working with the physics of the human body, and unleash that force in a controlled fashion. You'll notice the "spring-like" action of the body…you can actually see the recoil of the impacts and how their bodies transfer the force. I've never seen it so well choreographed as it is here. What an inspiring and great video, thanks for sharing!
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Here's a recent vid on SV of a user with the mipole dance light:
https://www.studioveena.com/videos/view/4e563971-b9ac-4cb7-b65a-30ce0ac37250
Might be worth asking her more about it. She seems to love it. I think it might work with x-poles since it looks like it clamps to the very top of the pole itself and not the dome.
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Everyone has already said the eloquent stuff. I’ll just add my motto:
Simple monkeys. Banana in one hand, penis in the other. Remember this always. They aren’t that critical!
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Cricket, Natasha I presume?- I took Kelly's seminar. It was absolutely amazing. She opened up new possibilities for me, and I feel it's brought out some new strengths and opportunities as well. I'm hearing my music a different way, I'm understanding movement in a new way, and I'm even thinking about the act of performing and competing in a new way, which I'd never considered. She's an inspiring presence with an infectious energy. My favorite thing about her process is that she's expanded the ways in which I can develop an emotional connection to music by finding the concepts that unite a sound with a movement. Not only has that added a new depth to my listening, it's made it easier for me to remember choreography as well. I won't shut up about her to anyone who asks, even though I'm sure you already know all these things about her. 🙂
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Omg you’re officially in USA to live now? That is so exciting! I thought I would never meet you in person but now it could happen!! Keep me posted on your travel plans…you know I have to jam with you sometime. 🙂
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Veena, I came here to post the same thing. Because of the events prompting the vid I posted last night, I’ve been watching old videos I hadn’t seen in a year. I can tell I’ve accomplished a lot, which gives me hope for the future. But I still don’t feel like I’ve really developed a style…so what defines my dancing? Well, I aim for control in my tricks more so than doing tons of tricks and sacrificing form. I aim for good lines, because I’m taller than average and that’s the area where it’s actually to my advantage.
I guess I don’t know what kind of dancer I am, but I’m okay with that. I just try to focus on my strengths and really feeling like myself when I’m dancing. The dances I usually wind up liking are the ones that feel like “me.”
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I am definitely going and cannot WAIT to see those of you I know and meet those of you I haven’t yet met. I’ll be the lady with the blonde hair down to my hoo-hoo. LOL
So excited the Mika people are coming…you ladies better watch your table cause I’m going to steal all your clothes and run away haha.
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I agree 100% with the posts above me, especially chemmie’s. Even if you were 19 years old with a 20″ waist and a 40″ bust, some guys wouldn’t want dances from you because it’s impossible to be attractive to every single customer. Attraction is the most subjective subject that exists. But the common thread through what most people find attractive is confidence. If you have that, whatever else you have is probably workin’ too.
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I had no idea they’d finally come out with a stainless model. I know some people have trouble with grip on stainless, but for me it is amazingly grippy. I just want to chime in another voice that you shouldn’t listen to what people tell you about stainless being least grippy and brass being most grippy. It really does depend on your individual needs, and you’ll never know until you try. I have TERRIBLE grip on chrome-it’s actually the worst for me. I assumed stainless would be impossible. The first time I tried one at a studio, I couldn’t even believe the difference. It felt like my frustrations had been lifted. I was so frustrated with grip issues, and it felt amazing to know it wasn’t me.
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I’m going to refrain from posting the link as I’m not sure if it counts as a tutorial. You can find it quite easily by searching for her on YT or going to her channel.
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I was recently watching a YT video of Becca Butcher teaching a reverse grab into shoulder mount spin, and she was talking about how the spin isn’t as secure unless you really push the hips out before you lift. I’ve noticed doing the leading leg sweep into an sm uses the same theory, as it moves the hips out and tips the pelvis upward slightly before the lift. If the standard double cup is most comfortable and you’re using the leg sweep, that can take advantage of really strong shoulders and biceps which can help compensate for those of us who are much stronger around the shoulders than around the middle.
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Here’s a caliper for $6.
Some come with basic instructions.
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That’s absolutely awful. Fingers crossed it’s nothing too serious and she bounces right back. I can’t even imagine how scary that must have been. Little kids can be really tough, though. Keeping your family in my thoughts.
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Omg. That crochet romper fluttered out of my dreams and onto the Internet. I WANT it!! Maybe I’ll have to brush up on my knitting and crochet skills and try to make one. I’d probably finish in time for the first snow LOL.
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I should clarify that the calipers are specifically designed to not be thrown off by statistically significant deviations from average in bone mass or muscle mass or whatever as water submersions or other math methods can. They all presume certain percentages and ratios of different tissues in your body that might just not be average. Who the heck wants to be average, anyway? We’re all extraordinary just for being able to do pushups. I think that’s a good kind of abnormal!
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I just needed to jump in this thread with a bit of information because you ladies are singing my song. I find once we set benchmarks for health that have little or nothing to do with actual image, we get more appreciation out of our bodies, become less focused on nitpicking appearance, and find we’re more confident in appearance just because of that focus on health.
The best two indicators of overall health, particularly for active women whose body muscle to fat ratios are inconsistent with the math for BMI and will mislead scales, are resting heart rate in BPM and total body fat percentage.
You can look up what resting heart rate is normal for your age and compare to that by using a stopwatch to count how many beats in 30 sec and doubling it. Take three measurements breathing slowly and evenly in a relaxed state and average those three numbers for a good bench mark. The best way to measure body fat percentage is with a 12 point caliper average. If you look up caliper points, make sure you look up the points for women as they are slightly different from the ones they use on men. If both of those figures are within normal, and your scale or BMI scale says you’re not normal, THROW OUT THE SCALES. If you must judge your progress in that sense, go by how you’re looking in the mirror and in your clothes. And don’t be afraid to directly ask a close mate if they’ve noticed your progress. Particularly if you’ve got male mates like I do, they won’t always come right out and say they’ve noticed your hard work.
Keep track of those two figures, update them regularly, every 3mos or so. In addition to being a helper for self-esteem when the scale has been lying, it’s good info for your doctor to have since their scale won’t give them enough info either. And it shows your dr you really look after yourself more than most do.
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Good luck with ps. They have the worst customer service in the history of the world, topped only by the worst products in the history of the world. They’ve cost my studio thousands of dollars in their junk products and then when we would tell them their poles were actually cracking and wiggling at the joints, they told us it was our fault. At least you are getting the permanent poles…don’t bother with the removables. They are literally chrome over plastic for all the top and bottom parts. The Chrome peels right off the plastic and I’ve got the adjustors cover wrapped in athletic tape because it’s so sharp I’ve actually cut myself so badly I bled everywhere. The cut went down the entire length of my thigh, just from a standard dismount.
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Message me with shipping info, I’m interested!
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Ditto to Veena! Constructive feedback is always awesome. Plus, since you contacted them first and it still didn't work out, they might be willing to offer you a discount code for another item if you take the time to give them valuable comments.
Personally, I find it frustrating that it's usually the more athletic pieces that work for a smaller chest and all the "fun"/club style stuff is all about big cleavage. That's why it's been exciting to see some stuff from bad kitty look really awesome on my fellow smaller chested ladies. They just seem to carry a bit more variety for us where a lot of club style oriented stores are selling clothes for perfect D implants that don't move.
