pantherchild
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*huggs* I'm both sorry and happy this happened–it really sucks to have a huge fight but if you can take it and make it something good then that's a net positive result.
I'd say two things–first, stress changes people. Living with your family and all the stuff in your life is pretty stressful, i'd bet. That can forgive some stuff. Stress can make you act really dumb…but at the same time, your partner needs to be able to step back and say 'I'm acting like a butt and I need to get a handle on myself.' If s/he can't do that, you're going to be in for a ride. Stress doesn't stop, it just lays dormant and ready to pounce any day.
Second, people don't change when you marry em. Go into the marriage with wide open eyes. Be very willing to explore your partner's faults and accept them before tying the knot. It's not a sign that you don't love them or that you are a bad person…you need to think long and hard about their faults and your fault and make sure that you guys can be compatible in the long run. When my husband and I were engaged, we had one of those huge fights where I sat out on the porch and counted all the bad things about him and reconcilling myself to each one–trying to make sure that if this thing about him never changed, it would be okay and it was something I could live with forever. This is a good thing to do.
Get to consuling and make sure that if he's the person who can be a good husband to you and be a partner in your life. Don't take everything on yourself now cause you may end up regertting that in the future.
And, uh, make sure you have your fights indoors so your neighbors don't all stand out on their porches with their beers watching the two of you scream at each other. 😉
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Hehe, thanks. I'm kind of an attention seeker. I ended up getting into a local comp and getting 3rd, so that's exciting.
That's so wonderful! The feeling of being into the music and connected to it is really awesome–you looked really beautiful preforming. Very gracful and not stlited.
You should! Solo is very fun, and stringing together moves is really fun. Coming up with coreography is something I love. It's fun to come up with sets of moves and see them executed well. If you need any help, hit me up!
It puts a different spin on it–there's not just your emotion and power going into the dance, but there's a whole 'nother preformer putt her emotion into it….it's really cool, and if you have the chance, totally jump on it.
Yeah–I have a few small 'go to' moves. Fireman to pole spin, fan legs to backwards spin, dip to a cross behind step…they are things I know I can throw in anywhere and let me catch my balance if I'm off kilter (or think of waht to do next, hehe.) I also listen to my music a LOT, so I try not to pick songs that I really really love because I end up sick of them–but I do try toget fun songs that I like to listen to (this weekend's preformance is to Bowling For Soup's 1985!)
You'll do great! Just remember–even if you screw up, no one knows unless you let em. 😀
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Awww! You guys looked great!! Did you have fun? It looked like you did! Really nice moves, very clean. I didn't really notice the slipping. And those pictures are just wonderful!!! Congrats!
You should totally do the next showcase–6 weeks is pelnty of time. 😀 Would you do solo this time, or another duet?
First time I preformed was for a showcase my studio put on…we had to aduition to get in and ended up dancing to live singers. That made it kind of awesome–we got a copy of a draft of the song from the singer before hand, but live it was a little different. I totally forgot half my routine, but ended up just shaking my rear at the audiance for a while. Everyone cheered, so I guess that's a win. 😀 I totally freaked out though, and I can see it in the video, though other people have claimed they can't.
I learned most of all to have a back up plan. If the pole is funky or if you forget everything, have a couple combos stashed away that you can just whip out while you get your bearings again. And to pick a song that fits with your personal style so that you can really put a lot of emotion and feel good about it. This is what I ended up doing: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dNZEk8bdvcc
I love preforming–I love the attention and the lights and the feeling that everyone is paying attention to meeee. I've started really seeking out places to preform at. It's addicting!!
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My Xpole (tension mounted) leaves a very faint mark on the ceiling where the rubber seal around the top is. Since I leave mine up all the time, it's actually really useful to tell when it's out of place or where to put it back should I ever take it down, lol.
I would be concerned about the stability of my pole if my ceiling wasn't flat. I actually ended up screwing a board into the ceiling to cover some imperfections, lol.
The Lil Mynx I have is one of the ones with the ceiling mount. It's wonderful. Very very stable, never had an issue with it slipping or anything. The ceiling mount is pretty unobtrusive as well. I'd recommend a Lil Mynx ceiling mounted pole for a beginner, for sure. I don't love it as much as I love my Xpole because it's a little too gripping for my skin type.
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Shipping would be crazy expensive and I'm not even sure how to manage it…it's a one peice pole so it's litterally 8 feet long.
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There is one screw–you screw a little plastic peice into the ceiling. It's one screw and pretty easily covered up with some spackling or white toothpaste.
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My mom has come to one of the showcases I was in and watched me get a prize! She wasn't able to make my first comp, but told me she was so very proud of me for doing it and placing. 🙂 She is super cool about it. Dad's…well, he's not as thrilled, but he is okay with it.
I did have an aunt on my Facebook page whose profile pic was of that stupid tshirt that says 'I SUPPORT SINGLE MOMS' and had a stripper on it. She took it down as soon as I posted my first pole dancing pics. Hee hee.
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Everyone should totally submit–this is a REALLY fun and uplifting event. A lot of the girls who preformed in the Basic Category were first time preformers (including the girl who one first!!) and for most of us, it was our first competittion.
I uploaded some videos to YouTube of Round 1 and you can get an idea of how crazy fun it was: http://www.youtube.com/pantherchild
Yeah, there's a girl with a hula hoop, and a girl with a cowboy hat, and a girl with a hipflask…and I have a glittery tequilla bottle. 😀 Glitterrrrrr yesssssssss more glittteerrrr!
There's a couple of videos from the Anything Goes round up on my page too, but not many cause I forgot my other memory card (oops). Here's all the winners: http://www.youtube.com/user/foxxyauthority/videos
The best thing about the Basic category is that you really are encouraged to do ANYTHING you want! Hula hoop, chair dance, belly dance, acrobatics, break dance…heck, get up there and vouge at the judges for a while. Everyone will LOVE IT.
Take a chance and submit–it will be a seriously fun and positive experiance. No crazy pressure, no catfights (unless you coreograph one in! 😀 ), just a good time with some prizes at the end. 😉
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A friend of mine was looking into Vidal (she lives in G*vegas…I mean Greenville) and didn't really get a good vibe from it. I'm not sure she ever visted the studio, but couldn't get someone on the phone to give her the details I told her to ask about (instructors, pole types and heights, things you learn in class, etc). Greenville is, in general, a little bit of a sketchy town, so I'd check out any studio with a fine toothed comb.
Wilmington has a few studios. One of the girls who goes to my studio (Aradia in Raleigh–highly reccommended) took classes in Wilimington, but couldn't find anyone she felt could help her move into more advanced moves. That's mostly hearsay, tho.
Raleigh has some really great studios if you want to make the drive–Aradia is my home. The instructors are super solid and there's a lot of really fun flow, coreography, and sexy classes throughout the week. There's also TML Fitness which I've not been to, but I know one of the girls who teaches there and she's amazing.
Jacksonville is probably a pretty good town for pole dance–it's a lot of military. Just be really careful driving through as there's typically a LOT of cops between Jacksonville and New Bern and the road is sooo booooring omg.
(Haha, guess who grew up in New Bern? 😀 )
That's my $.02. There's a lot of neat things to do in the RDU area, so maybe you and your mom could make a day of it, see a show, go to the museum, eat at a nice resturant (recommend: An or Croquette unless you guys are veggies, then Remedy Diner) , and hit up a pole class or two. 🙂
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Another good place is mlparena.com . You can find nice ponies for fairly cheap, and people will buy ugly ponies off of you to customize or restore. That's where I got most of my ponies.
The G3 ponies are a pretty good return to form for MLPs and can be pretty cheap. I got six or eight for $5, which is just a great price for toys!
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Tweet/share/whatever away! I'm @pantherchild on Twitter, http://facebook.com/jbramble on Facebook. I post ponies-in-progress on my FB. Wokring on a FB page for ponies ( http://www.facebook.com/pages/Pole-Star-Ponies/259408940780767 😉 but there's basicaly nothing on it yet, lol.
I just got some new clay and a big pile of bait ponies, so I may spend some time this weekend working on ponies (there's also a party at my studio, so YAY inspiration!) I need to find some slightly thicker dowels for the pole too. Trip to Lowes is in order!
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Wow! I'm so glad everyone likes her so much!
My Little Ponies are a children's toy aimed at girls–they're fancy ponies with pictures on their hips that kind of describe them (for example, the pony Gusty has leaves blowing for her symbol!) There's a decently sized group of people who take the ponies and customize them with new symbols or new hair, or new poses, or anything! This pony looked like this before I took her apart: http://mylittlewiki.org/w/images/thumb/7/73/Love_Wishes.JPG/460px-Love_Wishes.JPG (I think that's the one, lol)
I'd def. be interested in making some to sell, but there's some other projects I have going on right now that I'd need to get done first. If anyone had any suggestions for poses, I'd love to hear them!
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Yay! Thanks so much guys–I won the contest last night! They gave me a huge framed copy of the photo and everything. It's totally going up in my pole room. <3
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I really love coreography–my best friend and I used to write pseudo-ballet routines to our favorite songs and perfom them for talent shows!
As far as pole coreography…I'm working on my first routine (with the hope to get it finished, learn all the moves I want to know for the routine, and then enter a local competittion). I spent the last few weeks doing nothing but working and watching pole dance videos, trying to pick out combinations that I found particularly moving and watching instructional spin videos (watching how they land gives you a really good clue as to what you can have follow the move!)
One thing I noticed at a competition I saw over the weekend was that a lot of the girls seemed to be thinking 'okay, walk walk, get ready, we're going to do a spin or a climb!' and would actually pause instead of flowing straight into their next move. Some really beautiful moves, but the choppiness of the routines tended to draw away from the beauty of the moves. So, my big plan is to pratice a bunch and really work on my transitions.
It's kind of an aisde, but I also have noticed a lot of poor costume choices. Skirts are way cute when you're spinning around, but I feel like they get significantly less adorable when you're upside down and the skirt is hanging to your shoulders.