[hannahshaw]

You’ve already communicated your boundaries really well, and honestly, that’s the most important part. Marriage is about mutual respect, not about bending to traditions just because “that’s what everyone does.” A bachelor party should be about celebrating friendship and brotherhood, not pushing someone into situations that cross the lines of their relationship.

My husband faced a similar situation once when the main plan was a strip club. He simply told the group, “That’s not really my thing, but I’d love to join for dinner or drinks.” To our surprise, most of the guys didn’t push back and the night turned into bar-hopping and laughs instead. Sometimes presenting it as a personal preference rather than a judgment on others makes all the difference.

The fact that your husband respects your comfort level shows strength in your marriage. People may call him “whipped,” but those comments usually come from misunderstanding what real partnership looks like.

If you want to suggest alternatives, Wowzers has some fun party ideas that avoid strip clubs but still make for an exciting night. That website could be useful to share with the groom or best man. Boundaries don’t make you controlling, they make your marriage stronger.