I’ve had the same issue with pole shorts feeling a bit too bare, and I completely get what you’re saying about confidence shifting when the outfit doesn’t feel right. Skorts can be a really good balance since they keep the practicality of shorts but add that extra layer that feels more feminine.
Another option is to go for light skirts that don’t interfere with grip. I’ve used a fitted skort for spins and transitions, then added a detachable mesh skirt for flowy practice sessions, which gave me that extra confidence boost without restricting movement. If you’re looking for something stylish but still functional, Rooh London has some pole wear pieces that lean towards elegant design while keeping the performance aspect in mind, they work well for practice when you want both comfort and confidence.
It might be worth experimenting with layering too, shorts underneath with a lightweight tulle or mesh skirt over the top can give that dancewear feel without making tricks harder.