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I have no problem admitting that I am a crazy person for enjoying running..its definitely not an easy cardio route! I fell out of it for a long time and I ran for a while the other day and my legs are still killing me two days later. I think the only reason i like it is because its the only time where i leave my cell phone at home and just go out with my ipod and my thoughts and no one can get a hold of me! its so nice. once i lost my phone and for two days no one bothered me, it was super https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_tongue.gif

but by no means am i suggestion running is the best cardio..im also a belly dancer and thats a great workout too. i know this is unrelated the topic of the OP i just wanted to make sure no one hated me for sounding like one of those hoity toity crazy runner people! id much rather eat a candy bar than go run a marathon. i enjoy my snail paced miles where i feel my thighs jiggling and my booty flapping behind me in the wind in all of its glory!

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Honey you are not ugly! youre super cute https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_biggrin.gif

My ex would go to strip clubs and even take me to them and he was all about watching other girls pole dance but when I started doing it he just constantly criticized me and showed no interest in it because I think he didnt want men being attracted to me the way he was attracted to other pole dancers, and he was just a very negative person. My current boyfriend is extremely supportive, gets excited when I share new moves with him even though he has no idea what im talking about, and has even told me he would be okay with me doing amateur night at a strip club…….big difference! I feel like Im enjoying poling a lot more now that I dont have someone trying to make me feel guilty for doing it.

And as far as size, if you watch any of my videos I am by no means the thinnest girl here. But I pole pretty often and I am getting surprised at how strong I’m becoming, and I run on my days off of poling. My best friend is 6’3" and 145 lbs but doesnt exercise and eats terribly. She’s much thinner than I am but we’ve tried to go running together and she’s huffing and puffing after a block. Im getting to the stage where I’d rather be strong and fit than rail thin and stuffing myself with cheeseburgers!

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Would you mind linking me to the video? I dont remember which one it was https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_sad.gif

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Oooohhh I thought we meant strictly when poling. Yes it has happened after SEX (there! i said it super loud! haha leave it to me to say what no one else wants to say https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_tongue.gif ) fortuntately not with my new boyfriend yet thank god!!! But my old boyfriend liked certain positions (i wont go into gory details) that would have tendencies to force more air up there so i did have them…we would just look at each other and start cracking up it was soooo funny!

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I feel weird because this hasnt happened to me! I want it to happen so I can join the club..I feel so left out! But there was a thread on stripperweb.com about a similar topic and a lot of girls posted saying that they or their friends who worked at the club were notoriously guilty for crop dusting everyone at the tip rail when a dancer was doing a good show and they werent tipping….I thought that was so hilarious.

Oh and I’m glad I’ve officially coined the term "lady business" on StudioVeena…do I get a prize?!? However I was really impressed with how many names for lady business Veena used in one post https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_tongue.gif

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Poor thing you must be in quite a bit of pain! I have no personal experience with this so I could be totally wrong in my advice but I have had pinched nerves before and the best remedies for me were applying hot/cold compresses alternating every 15 mins or so, trying to gently massage the area and using Icy Hot/Bengay (not sure if they have this product in your country…) I’d double with Veena or someone with more of a fitness background first just so you dont do any of these things and injure yourself further but they have helped me. At the very least you should take a hot bath and have some chocolate just to relax yourself, this must be very disheartening! Hope you get well soon! xoxo

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Thats so dumb! You probably have more energy and are in better shape than people my age. And honestly I really feel that poling is definitely a sport that you excel at more and more the older you are because it takes such a long time to build up strength and polish moves! Hopefully I live long enough to be a pole dancing granny…that would be so great hehehe https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_biggrin.gif

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YAY YAY YAY im so happy for you!

50mm is standard, i have a 45 because i have tiny hands and its easier for me to grip it. as far as the flooring you could always go to a carpet store and get a big scrap of carpeting…although if you plan on dancing in shoes that might be hard although my pole is on carpet and ive never had problems dancing in shoes. some linoleum tile could work well too….beauty of the xpole is that it comes up and down so easily so you could definitely change the flooring if you wanted to switch things up. im so excited you get to have a pole!!!!!

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People on youtube are so mean..but they obviously have something wrong with them if they get pleasure from insulting people behind a computer screen all day! Fortunately Veena is a very smart lady and made the videos members only and I am 100% sure no one here would ever say a negative thing about your dancing. Stop by friday chat sometime so you can say hi to all the regulars. Looking forward to seeing your videos! Welcome!

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Ok it’s my turn!

I just turned 23 a few weeks ago, so I guess I’m on the younger spectrum of polers. I am self-taught and just because I’m 23 doesn’t mean I picked it up any faster than you fabulous 30s/40s/50s gals..in fact I think it’s the opposite! I think I’m infamous around here for beating myself up for being a bad dancer. I have no professional dance background although I am a belly dancer and I perform at a hookah bar here in Chicago on the weekends. However the belly dancing did not give me a leg up when it came to poling, except maybe for the hip shaking https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_tongue.gif

I am also one of the few unmarried/childless gals around here but I have a boyfriend who will be 30 in May. I dont really want to discuss my weight but as of 15 minutes ago I was 127.8. I have always had body dysmorphic issues and I am a recovering bulimic…at my heaviest I was 145, at my thinnest I was 110. I’d like to be closer to 110 ultimately so that’s part of the reason I’m here in the first place. Poling has helped with my body issues but it’s a little disheartening to see all you ladies who have popped out a couple kids and still have nicer bodies than I’ve ever had! *cough cough Veena* But this site has definitely helped me try to get better at accepting myself for who I am and if I can encourage other curvy girls to get into pole dance or post some vids then rock on!

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Yay yay yay! I know youd been working on this for ages! I need to do tonssssssss of stretching before I can even think about trying this move….I should get on it!

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I think Priscilla has PMS too…I tried doing some practice in my pleather boots yesterday and I went into a cross ankle release and the boots slid right off and I fell on my head. Never happened before! Arg! But at least someone around here is getting some good practices in https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_biggrin.gif

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I’m not terribly interesting but I’d love for you to interview me!

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Im so glad you posted this, I’m thinking about doing the same thing and I’m going to go to an amateur night on the 29th…I guess I should try to plan out some sort of routine as well so I don’t look like a complete idiot. Let me know how it goes I’d love to see your video!

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Im not married and I dont have kids but I do know quite a bit about how the male brain works. I have to agree with Rouge, this does sound like he has an addictive personality and thinks he can just come and go when he pleases and if you don’t like it then he’s going. My ex was like that and he would always break up with me and I would cry and cry, then he would call me a week or a month later and take me back, and that went on and on until finally this past time I stopped answering his calls and taking him back..and now I have a new boyfriend who is great. So he might think that this is what he wants, and if he does think that then let him have it. I guarantee you he will realize when he’s living by himself in a crappy tiny apartment without the sound of his kids running around or you there to cook him dinner and do some sexy pole dancing that he totally f*cked up.

Sadly guys are pretty dumb and also can be very selfish…no offense to anyone’s hubby or boyfriend, not all of them are, but a lot of them are. It also takes them forever to grow up whereas us ladies mature much faster and a lot of times have a stronger sense of responsibility, especially when you’re a mom. I think a lot of times guys get freaked out by the responsibility of being a dad and a husband and want to try to get their party days back. But if he’s cheating on you you seriously DO NOT have to put up with his bs nor should you! You are really fun and sweet and a beautiful girl and if he doesn’t realize that then too bad! There are a lot of transitionary housing places that are very welcoming to single moms that will give you guys a place to live and give you some career counseling, etc to help you get set up with a job to support you and your kids to move out on your own.

Just know we are all here for you no matter what happens…and if you need someone to talk to let me know and I can message you my number…Ive had friends call me crying at 3 am because of boy troubles so I am no stranger to this!

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Dont feel bad I cant get the superman either and Ive tried dozens of ways to get into it! As for the knee hold have you tried the chair trick? That might help you if you have something to balance on while figuring out a foot position to help you stay up longer. Also make sure you push your hips forward which you might already be doing…Im no expert so I always feel funny giving advice as I only got the knee hold about two months ago myself!

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Did you ever see the post I made about being so frustrated that I even took down my pole??? People started responding to it saying that everyone else felt the same way I did at one point or another…which was relieving for me because when I see some of the dancers here it’s hard to believe theyve ever have a bad practice in their lives!

And I dont think your age has much to do with it…I turned 23 a few weeks ago and I dont think I catch on quicker than anyone else…in fact I actually think it takes me a lot longer than most girls here to learn new moves. Hopefully Im still poling when im your age..I wish my mom was cool like you and wanted to learn with me too!!!

It is really hard not to beat yourself up but everyone has their own style of dance and way of learning things. I took a little pole break for about 2 weeks and just lifted weights and worked on transition moves and when I went back to the pole I nailed about 5 or 6 moves I had been trying for weeks all in the same day. But now I’m stuck again so I think another break is in order..the great thing about poling is you can take breaks and as long as youre still doing some weight training during that time you wont lose any strength.

But really I think we’ve all been there so dont be so hard on yourself…I’ve seen your videos and I think you’re great and Im excited to watch you grow as a dancer https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_smile.gif

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PoleSkivvies, yes, we did have quite um, vigorous sex both times, so that is very possible but for the amount I was bleeding I’d be very surprised if that was the cause although I’m hoping it is since that’s much better than all the other possibilities! I was okay before but now I’m getting all nervous again. https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_cry.gif

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Thanks everyone! I had a little chat with Boyfriend already and told him all the possible things that could be wrong including a possible STD and he did not freak out…so I hope I still don’t have anything but if I do I feel a little better about him handling it.

Veena I put in a tampon because the amount I was bleeding was very similar to a period so I thought maybe my birth control was just whacked and I was getting another period which has happened before, and I also didn’t want to get the bed all gross since I was at his place…but this morning there was no blood on the tampon so I know the bleeding was caused by having sex…when I was bleeding again this morning it was the same way, just blood right after and nothing since. I kind of wanted there to be more to so I could blame it on a wacky period schedule but no such luck https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_cry.gif

I wish I didn’t have to wait until tomorrow because I’m pretty anxious but I’m surprised they could even get me in then, my gyno has a super long wait but I told them it was an emergency and needed to see him asap so I think that’s the best they could do for me.

I think I might go do some summer clothes shopping to try and take my mind off of it for a little while…

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Thanks Jacq…I’m glad someone responded I was worried you guys would all think I’m a total weirdo for posting something so personal but I needed to do something instead of sit here and freak out.

My current bf hasn’t been tested that I’m aware of, I guess we both sort of assumed the other person was okay which I am now realizing was probably a bad idea. And I’m hoping if I do have something I did get it from some other sort of contact because I haven’t been doing anything naughty but my boyfriend and I are a fairly new relationship so I really don’t want to have to have this conversation with him.

I guess there is a possibility I could have gotten pregnant but if I was I didn’t experience any symptoms or anything…my period ended about a week ago and everything has been normal since then until last night.

I’m hoping this is either a complication of what I already know about with my cervical issues or just my body acting weird…but I have a funny feeling about it so I’m really hoping I’m wrong…..thanks for your thoughts and prayers, I’ll keep you posted as soon as I find out anything tomorrow.

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Yay I’m glad you made it over! You’ll love it here.

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I do have to disagree about the Marilyn Manson one although obviously his entire music collection isn’t glam rock…but a lot of songs from his Mechanical Animals CD were very glam rock inspired, and his video for Dope Show definitely has a lot of androgyny in it which was a huge part of glam rock…

Not trying to be a music snob, just throwing in my .2 https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_smile.gif

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Awww! Well I’m glad you feel comfortable enough to vent to us here. Everyone has off practices..the last three practices I’ve had have all been crap and you know my frustrations with the shoulder mount!

The chopper is not an easy move, I had the same problem you’re having, once I got my legs over my head my abs weren’t doing the work to get my butt over my head so I’d have to hook my leg or just let myself fall. Try doing some ab moves (if you want to email me on here I can give you the ab workout I’m doing that’s really helping me with some pole moves) because that’s what helped me get my butt over my head. But it is hard and it took me a looong time to be able to do it and even longer to be able to hold it…you’re catching on to a lot of moves way faster than I did so you’ll get there.

I’m not married and I don’t have kids so I’m afraid I can’t be of too much help there…but remember guys are dumb! No matter how nice they are…they’re all dumb. Talk to your hubby and tell him why what he did frustrated you and hopefully he will understand. Remember try to use poling as a way to relax even if you just put on music you like and dance around all silly to de-stress yourself…and you always have everyone here to bitch to! Hope today goes better for you. https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_biggrin.gif

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Oooh g ood luck! I’m glad there’s a representative from the curvy girl pole dancer crowd. I’m pretty open to doing things in public but I wouldn’t be brave enough to compete in a pole contest…I’d probably freak out and not be able to do anything!I bet you’ll knock their socks off!

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Aw honey I am so sorry to hear this…it’s never happened to me but a friend of mine recently went through it and I can’t even imagine what it must feel like. Everyone is here for you if you need to talk and please take some extra time to pamper yourself..I’m sure you need it.