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What brand of shoes are they getting? Because I've used mine hard (for work) and with a few exceptions I've never had those problems. I've completely worn the soles off of a pair of Pleasers and had nothing break. I've found Pleasers and Ellies to both be very sturdy. And I would agree that $35 should be a reasonable price for a basic pair of Pleasers. Snaz75.com is where I usually get mine.
The shoes that I have had break before they were completely worn out were usually the more elaborate shoes not the basic models. They almost always broke where either the ankle strap or the part that goes across your toes connects to the shoe. Sometimes these can be re-connected with something like Gorilla Glue, but it is usually a temporary fix. I've seen people take less sturdy shoes when they're new and put Duct Tape on the inside of the part that goes over your toes all the way around (sole of the shoe too) to help minimize the stress on the joint between the toe strap and the shoe base. I've never done it – but maybe that would be something to try?
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Studio Veena has been a big deal for me because I don't really have anyone where I live who's working on pole at my level. So it's really nice to get on here and see all the inspiring videos and tips on how to do moves I'm working on. In fact, my husband has started to finish my sentences with "and you saw it on Studio Veena." because that's just what he expects to hear. https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_wink.gif
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I too have dealt with something like this – from both sides. I'm severely bipolar and so is my best friend (who used to be my husband). So it's not just depression – but it certainly includes it. Runemist is exactly right. He has to hit his "bottom" (whatever that is) and decide that he needs to get better on his own.
I can understand his aversion to counselors and psychs. I, and my friend, both went through a lot of doctors and medication attempting to deal with the problems. Neither of them helped. Both of us (independently at the time) came to the conclusion that the way to fix the problems wasn't to let someone else deal with them. Now both of us are dealing with the disease without doctors or medication and are happier and healthier than we've ever been. So there are ways for him to get better without doctors. It just involves a heck of a lot of work on his part.
I would also second the "don't put up with his bullshit". Someone has to point out to him that the world doesn't actually work the way he sees it in his head. And you need to keep doing the things that make you happy!!
Feel free to inbox me as well! I'll give you any thoughts, information, ideas that I can.
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sparrow – it's considered therapeutic massage. I would look for someone who specializes in things like pain relief and muscle injury rehabilitation. At least, that's what he specializes in – so that's my best guess.
And the foam rolling really does help me between massages. I tried the tennis ball once – but my dog just thought that was an invitation to play (she LOVES tennis balls). I suspect that just the foam rolling would end up working the muscles completely out – the massages just seem to make it happen more quickly for me.
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I was feeling that way earlier this year. I have a friend who does massage therapy. Not the "rub you to make you relax' kind of massage, but the "fixes problems with your muscles" kinds of massage. When I asked him about it he said that flexibility can be physically limited by muscle adhesions. That's when two (or more) of your muscles basically "stick together" to give your body added strength or support in a particular area. They can come from a lot of things – compensating for an injury or a repetitive use of a particular part of your body, for example. Most people don't notice them because they aren't trying to push their bodies beyond the normal day-to-day range of motion. But when you are pushing for more than that normal range of motion (getting your splits for example) those adhesions can limit your progress. Because then you're limited by the ability of those muscles to stretch together.
Over the last couple of months he's worked on my legs I've discovered flexibility I haven't had since I was taking ballet (which might be where some of my problems come from – since I probably went on point before I was ready and my muscles compensated for it). I went from being several inches off the floor in my splits on both sides no matter how warmed up I was to being all the way to the floor on my good side and an inch or so off on my bad side. I've also found the foam roller (and foam roller lessons here on Veena) to be really good for this between massages. I don't know if this is a fluke (I'm not exactly a scientifically valid sample size by myself) but it did work wonders for me.
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Something that I try to remember when I'm watching videos of these amazing kids do pole routines I couldn't even imagine doing, but that have very little true emotion in them is that, well, they're kids. Being able to put emotion into a dance comes from having experienced that emotion. From having lived with pain, fear, hurt, anger, joy and love. At nine or ten years old most kids haven't had the life experiences (or been able to cognatively process them) in a way that lets them truly express emotions through dance.
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Yeah, guys just have the advantage in the upper body strength area. The guy that I do acro and pole with dead lifted into his iron X in the first 6 months of poling. I'm still trying to do that. But ask him to do anything that requires any flexibility…. Yeah, that isn't happening any time soon!
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x-ankle climb, invert (legs straight), gemini, jasmine, scorpio, flatline scorpio, butterfly, extended butterfly, straightedge, jackknife, reverse crucifix, hip hold, jade, meathook (I think that's what it's called) is kind of my go-to combo.
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I wouldn't worry about tan lines. I've spent tons of time working in clubs, I always have really obvious tan lines all summer and no one has ever had a problem with it. I think guys actually tend to like to see girls with tan lines because it means that you're outside doing real stuff rather than laying in a tanning bed.
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Wow…
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I've always been more guy-ish than girly. All through my life I've had more male friends than female ones, mostly because I didn't "get" girls. Other than pole my favorite activities are things like hunting, fishing, working on my house (and other things that are excuses to have a huge shop full of tools).
When I dance I never wear heels unless I'm at work – and even then I take them off when I get on stage. My actual dancing seems to be able to switch back and forth pretty fluidly from a "sexy" style to a "crazy-tricks-and-strength" style, although I usually prefer the latter over the former.
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Another thing that sometimes works to keep animals out of gardens (if there's not a real overpopulation causing them to compete for food) is planing plants they hate intermixed with the ones they love. I mix in things like allium (which is a member of the onion family that has really cool flowers in mid-spring) mondara (also called bee balm, mint family, also very pretty flowers) aconitim (also called monkshood, wolf's bane, POISONOUS – don't use if you have dogs or kids that like to chew on plants, pretty blue-purple flowers).
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Check out http://www.gardenweb.com It's an awesome gardening forum. Someone on there has an answer for just about any question you've got. I also like http://www.davesgarden.com – it's another good gardening forum, and it has a fairly helpful guide to online nurseries.
@ dustbunny – I think the plant that you're referring to with the pink and purple flowers and spotted leaves is Pulmonaria. It's one of my favorites too, partly because it's so hardy (important to those of us up here in northern MN) and grows anywhere sun or shade. And the flowers are gorgeous!
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How old are you? 33
How long have you been pole-dancing? 15 years
What got you into pole dancing? Stripping. My first night I saw some of the other girls doing things that looked like they defied gravity. I knew I would do whatever it took to do that too.
Why pole dancing and not something else?/What makes pole dancing special to you? I've always loved the challenge that pole presents in learning new moves and finding new ways to combine them. I took regular dance classes (ballet, jazz) through college and loved them, but pole was even better. It's is a physical and mental challenge like no other and at the same time it's FUN! I'm drawn to any activity where one of the muscles that hurts after a workout is my stomach from laughing so hard.
How did you first find out about Studio Veena? How much time do you spend on here? (hours a day/week/month) I was on youtube trying to figure out how to do a pole move and one of Veena's videos popped up. After watching the video, got the move on the first try – and decided I needed the rest of the lessons as soon as I could afford them! Usually I'm on the site 10-15 min a day (I'm kinda a lurker) unless there's something I'm following or I'm trying to learn a new move – then it's more.
How did you choose your tag (AKA User Name)? It's my name and last initial.
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Both outfits are cute – but when deciding what to wear you might want to think about how much they ask you to take off during the audition and how long do you have to do it? If the audition is one song (which is really common) and you have to end up as naked as the club allows well before the end of the song (which is also really common) less is better. Less straps, less clasps, less everything. Also, for an audition you want a outfit that is easy to put back on. You may have to put all or part of it back on at the stage, while management is talking to you. Or, if they're auditioning a lot of girls at once and don't have a ton of time you may only get half the outfit off before they decide they've seen enough to know they want to hire you. So pick something that looks good half off.
So, since they're both awesome, I would probably go with the first outfit for practical reasons. I think that taking the second one off could have more potential problems (bra clasps catching on the side of the leotard, straps getting tangled in each other) it would be harder to just pull the second one back on fast if you needed to, and the first one will look better if you only get the top off.
Also, do yourself a favor and, no matter what costume you get, do get a real stripper thong. Someplace like Snaz75.com carries them and they're worth it. The wider backed ones (where it looks like a strip of fabric up the back instead of a string) are really common in most clubs right now. They're waaaay more comfortable and they don't have the tendency to slide around that thongs from places like Target do.
Ok…. that was way long winded. But I've seen too many new and newish girls have costume problems during auditions and I don't want it happening to you!
