Thank you ladies for the tips. I will try using more alcohol and also the windex tip. I saw the gloves on a site in the UK I really think that is worth a try. will continue to update.
It will take time. practice, practice, practice. I started at almost 200lbs and a size 14 and now am a size8. I feel a bit better on the pole but still akward. After practicing a move for what seems like a hundred times it becomes much easier. It will come dont be hard on yourself https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_biggrin.gif