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Alrighty….

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Welcome! Welcome! Welcome! https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_mrgreen.gif

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Krystalgem,
Welcome! So you’ve discovered the secret of pole dancing: it ain’t as glamorous and easy as it looks! It involves lots of grunting, sweating, red faces, and falling.
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Like you, I really struggled when I started poling. I almost gave up many times in the first few months because my progress was so slow and I was not looking sexy at all. Nine months later, I still struggle with my form and style, but I’m able to do a lot of moves. I just recently got the gemini and scorpio. The sexy comes out once you’re comfortably confident with the moves you’re doing.

At 5 foot 1, I’ve gone from a snug 14 to a loose 10, but that just happened in the past 3 months. I’m a 38 yo smoking mother of 3 who hasn’t worked out regularly for about 10 years. If I can do this, anyone can. Don’t get me wrong, I worked my butt off (literally!) and had to do a lot of strength training before I could invert. Don’t try to compare your progress to the "pole sevants" who master the pole in a couple months. Compare your progress to where you started. And when you’re having trouble, get silly and just dance around for fun!
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Oh, and repeat this mantra daily:
Bruises are SEXY!
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Hell yes they are!

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SissyBuns,

The only way to end the stigma against pole dancing is to educate people. Perhaps you could show some of your daughter’s friends (the open minded ones) the non sexy side of poling, ie the impressive tricks and gracefullness. I’ve shown those kinds of videos to coworkers and most have stopped blushing when I talk about my pole, though many roll their eyes.

I’d gladly educate her friends but I don’t think it’s my place to expose other peoples children to pole fitness because of the stigma that comes with it. The last thing I want is for some parent to call me bitching because I was swinging on a pole in front of their young impressionable daughter LOL.

I think I’ll hold off on that unless it’s parents that I’ve met and that I don’t think would object https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_wink.gif

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what about the booty and thighs!?!?!? https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_smile.gif

SQUAT! SQUAT! SQUAT! my dear.

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I am so excited someone told me about this site! You all are so supportive of eachother and you all look so great.
So I have had my pole since april and haven’t practiced everyday it was off and on now I am going to make routine practices. I love how you all look so graceful and sexy but when I do anything I just feel like the girl off of king of queens! lol Loved that episode by the way. I feel like my upper arm strength is horrible I have tried the cradle and can’t even pull myself up https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_sad.gif So my question is how long for anyone who is a bit heavier, did it take you to learn to make your moves smoother and the lifts and invert? I guess I just want to know I am not the only who struggled in the beginning. I feel like everyone looks like they just jumped on and did everything! lol

Don’t feel like you’re alone. You’re a beginner and that’s why we’re called "beginners" LOL. because we’re just beginning. Over time you will build strength and fluidity but it comes in steps…baby steps for me LOL https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_wink.gif

Step one is to never compare yourself to some of dancers on this site. They’re too awesome! I just aspire to be like them one day but I know that I’m just starting and that will all take time. Work with what you got and as you continue to practice you’ll improve and be able to do more things.

I can’t even come close to a decent cradle so don’t feel bad https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_wink.gif

We will get there eventually.

P.S.
Don’t feel like your weight holds you back either because I’ve seen big girls climb a pole like a spider monkey and skinny girls struggle to lift them selfs up for seconds. Once you build strength you’ll be suprised and what you can do, despite your size.

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Awww I’m sorry to hear that Sissy https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_cry.gif

Yeah some kids can be very cruel. They like to have the limelight and attention and they will use anything and hurt anyone to get it. I think in your case hiding it is a good idea. It’s not that you are ashamed of what you do but it’s more so as a protection of your daughter seeing as to kids aren’t as mature as adults and able to understand the fitness aspect of it. Hell some adults aren’t even mature, my recent events prove that lol but I think it’s wonderful that you go the extra mile when considering your daughters feelings.

My sister is the opposite of you. Bless her heart. She’s a very good person but a lot of the times she only thinks about herself and she puts her kids second. When she visited this weekend and asked how much my pole cost I lied and told her an extremely high amount to dissuade her from being interested. (I know she’s hella cheap LOL) I also practiced some crazy advanced moves to intimidate her as well. I kinda feel real guilty about it but I think it’s for her own good. She is not structured enough to handle it. There are always neighborhood kids in and out of her house so it would definitely get around. And her kids are already embarassed enough by her as it is. I love my sister to death, we are so close and we have so much fun together but she really does need to grow up. https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_cry.gif I worry about her…

J.C.

Yeah I try to take my kids into account with everything I do. I’m raising them to be open minded and non judgmental and also how to deal with people who don’t see the world the way they do.

I’m sorry to hear that you had to go to such lengths to disuade (did I just make that word up) your sister from doing something that I know you love so much. At least you’re able to recognize that it wouldn’t right for her though. You sound like a good brother to have https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_mrgreen.gif

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sometimes I’m so amused by you "advanced" folks fretting over your little "advanced" moves.

I’m happy to get my damn feet off the ground! LOL

Don’t be so hard on yourself. If it was easy everyone would do it.

…….I like that phrase.

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Can anybody tell me what pole spins/tricks are good for toning the triceps. Im happy with my biceps but not my triceps! https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_sad.gif
Also does anyone know how to target fat on my lower back/sides?!

Why don’t you try weight lifting to strengthen your triceps? You don’t have to do anything major. Just get yourself a couple of dumbells (5-8 lbs) and you can work your triceps while you watch TV.

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I think maybe I was born with someone else’s experiences embedded into my brain. I don’t know why, but I’ve always been full of incite. https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_redface.gif https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_smile.gif

You’re an old soul! https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_mrgreen.gif

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I too am having some concerns about my kids and my pole. I have no problem with my kids playing on it. My oldest who is 13 made one attempt to spin on it, it hurt and she was over that quickly.

My two younger ones love to climb it and they naturally do the fireman on it. They can both climb all the way to the top! Kids are so damn agile!

Anywho…the problem is that some of my oldest daughters friends saw my pole, then word got out at school about it and then some kids were laughing at her calling her mom a stripper. I felt so bad for her because she’s very protective of me and was very hrut that people would say that about me.

I explained to her that the pole comes with a negative stigma but that her mom is not a stripper and that she can just tell them that…or better yet, not tell them anything at all. They don’t me and therefore have no right to make any assumptions but….they are kids and kids can be so cruel.

Now I try to hide my pole from her friends. I keep it in my room and when they come over I close my door. I hate having to hide it but not everyone is open minded enough to accept it https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_sad.gif

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Yup, I agree with the above posts. I use Veenas lessons and I love it.

I bring my laptop in my room, log on and turn on my radio and go for it LOL.

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Oh honey don’t beat yourself up! I had a pole party and some of the girls were doing spins it took me weeks to learn on their first try! This is advice I’m not great at following myself but everyone moves at their own pace. I’ve been stuck on the darn Superman for ages now and Foxy Rei got it on her first try! It was upsetting but you have to remember you are yourself and not your twin. I’m sure there’s moves you can do well that she would struggle with so try to keep it in perspective. I don’t want you feeling sad, pole is supposed to be about fun not about how much we can or cant accomplish. Keep going you’ll get there https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_thumleft.gif

I was hoping Glitter would chim in here because she went through (is going through) the exact same thing with her and the Superman. She was really pissed (just like you lol). But she’s right, you can’t compare yourself to others it will only make you feel bad.

I know that when I take classes and we are working on spins that everyone else knows and I don’t it can be very intimidating. I just keep working on what I can and look forward to the day that I’ll be that good. There will always be someone more advanced than you or that is able to learn some things faster. Such is life lol https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_wink.gif You just gotta shrug it off and keep on trucking….and call those people names behind their backs https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_twisted.gif

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Lemme get in on this! This is so cool.

Ok so this thought randomly popped into my head just now but what if we did like a new user "application" sort of thing…just a short list of questions that list information about new members such as…

name: Christina
age: 30
location: Cali native, currently in Odenton Maryland (Fort Meade)
stage name: Jaguar in when I’m in full sex mode, sissybuns any other time https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_wink.gif
lessons or self taught: Both
spin or static: spin (for now https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_wink.gif )
shoes or barefoot: barefoot at home, shoes in class
favorite pole move: I love watching shoulder mounts, choppers and reverse grabs. Notice I said "watching".
day job: Dermatology Nurse
your best/sexiest feature: Legs
how you got into pole dancing: Tried out a class and was hooked from the start.
how you found out about studioveena.com: Youtube
if you were a pair of underwear would you be a thong, boy shorts, bikini cut or granny panties: boyshort/bikin mixture LOL.

This is a cute idea Glitter.

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I feel for you lilbit. I too just went through a very recent seperation so I know what you’re going through and I empathize with you. You’re right , you will be ok.I know how hard it can be, especially after such a long time but you’re doing what you feel is best for you and that’s what’s important.

You’re in my thoughts and we’ll be here for whenever you get achance to check in https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_biggrin.gif

Dang it…where’s the hug emoticon?

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I love that idea!

I like that we can also addlinks to other sites of interest or things like myspace and facebook pages.

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I don’t think you came off as disrespectful. Isn’t that what message boards are for? For sharing knowledge, information and opinions.. I’ll take whatever I can get jay. Post away! LOL

I want info on stretching and posture. Foot placement fo turns and …turns! How do I good turns. My Pirouettes are struggling!

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Wow! That was amazing. The way he mounted….. https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_surprised.gif

Ive never seen anything like that. Do you have to be bred to work on a pole to be that skilled? He must be a genetically modified clone or something.

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Awww I remember making videos for my hubby while he was deployed. I didn’t have a pole at that time tho LOL. I’m sure hes enjoying it and lucky for you, you made the mistake here and not some place like youtube LOL. V and the master will take care of it I’m sure.

I don’t see any still so I’m not offended and even if I had seen it I probably wouldn’t have been offended anyway https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_wink.gif

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I’m gonna have to look those songs up to get your pole vibe aunty rouge.

Mine at this moment would be….

1.Amazing- Kanye West
2.We F*** you –Eletrik Red
3.Birthday Sex- Whatever his name is
4.Robocop- Kanye West
5.Kick Drum- I forget the group
6.Return the favor- Keri Hilson
7.Catching Feelings- Faith Evans
8.London Bridges- Fergie
9. Those heelz –Day 26
10. Make Love-Keri Hilson

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Have a good time on your trip! We’ll be here when you get back https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_wink.gif

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I don’t think they sell brass. I like it because it’s easier for me to use, but I’d rather use the chrome and get good on that then get used to brass and suck on chrome.

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OMG! You took classes with Mia? You are so lucky to be able to say that LOL, I think she’s amazing. Her dances always make me feel warm and fuzzy inside. She’s the bomb.

Her stuff does look hard though, I can’t imagine trying to do her choreography but I love watching others do it LOL

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That really sucks…your job ending and the refund thing. It sounds like you’re doing all the right stuff so you just have to wait and see.

Thanks for the warning though. I was wondering, what did you order and why’d you return it??

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fleur this was a wonderful post!!!!! thank you so much for posting it, i bet a lot of people were helped by your fantastic advice https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_smile.gif

I know I was helped.