Runemist34
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Hehe, EVamp, that was awesome 😉 I had considered the wordplay, but yours were far more creative than mine!
Webby, thank you for catching this so quickly! You really are a genius! I didn't want to, as Veena said, get the whip out…I just wasn't sure if it was just me noticing, or if this was supposed to be happening! https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_wink.gif
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Umm, if I saw a studio owner say this, I would be quite less inclined to go to that studio…not ONLY because she/he is badmouthing others and I consider this to be quite unprofessional (perhaps just say something like "In my opinion, ___ is the best because…"), but also because, and I'm sorry to sound like a snob, but…this is a rather atrocious attempt at spelling and grammar, and it took me far too long to figure out what was being said here.
If one is saying something from the background of being a studio owner, one should keep in mind that they are representing their business. Veena can spell, the lady who owned the pole place here could spell, and I know thousands of other people HERE that spell WAY better than this. I even know international students from my University who can spell better in english than this!
Sorry, sorry. Ugh, I just get all Grammar-Nazi on people like this.
I have a Lil' Minx pole, and never had an issue with mine. I'm careful and slow with it, and in turn, it has never moved an inch when I didn't want it to!
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Hi LoneStarDiva! It's wonderful to see you stepping out and not being afraid…I love it when people can do that!
I'll tell you one thing…I asked the owner of the previous local pole studio once "What was the age of the eldest person she taught?"
Her answer…someone in her 70's! And apparently she was HOT, too!
So, no, it's NEVER too late to start dancing, just the same as it's never too late to start learning music, drawing, or anything else!
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Wow, I didn't expect to hear so many stories of people's hips being upset! Perhaps I shall check in with my doctor and see what he thinks…I realize hips are one of those ultra-complex things, and are hard to figure out. If it continues to give me issues, I'll check it out with him. I'll try one or two more times, and see if it's just a temporary thing (this happens with me), perhaps my technique isn't as perfect as I think, or if it really is an issue!
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Both of those are great core workouts! You need to be aware of one thing: There are many different muscles in the core, so they all need work!
Your abs are the one in front that give you the 6pack (if you want it) and aid in pulling in just the up and down direction. They're rather important for pole, too, and so I find the switch exercise to be really helpful!
The transverse abdominus is a BIG part of your core, and it goes across both sides of your body, and it aids in…well, everything! I'm serious! This is also the muscle to work if you want to give your waist some shape (or so I'm told!) and the crunches that twist (elbow to opposite knee kind of thing) work that muscle.
Third ones are your obliques, and they are up the sides, and through the ribs (I think??) and they are quite important for turning your torso side to side, helps with side leg lifts, that kind of thing. These ones are hard for me…things like side plank holds on the floor work well. If you lay on your side, with your upper body propped up on your elbow (so that your arm is pressing into the floor), cross your ankles so that the top leg has it's foot on the floor, and lift your hips. It's hard! But, it works. As far as I know.
I may have some odd information (odd meaning wrong!) because it's been a while, but hopefully this helps a bit. I'm trying hard to strengthen my core, too! I've never had a strong one, so working on it and suddenly having that little bit of strength is…enlightening!
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@lengo83 : Sorry, I thought some of the writing under the video looked german 😉 I don't know much about it (or much german, though I tried for a bit!) so I could totally have been wrong!
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I can completely understand your frustration…I had a friend like that, she was far more fit than I ever have been. After a couple of years, she's gotten the shoulder mount, and I'm…still learning to invert. Still.
However, I want to say this: People progress differently, and I know this to be an absolute fact. Certain people will respond the way your friend (and my friend) did on the pole, which is that their body will increase strength and jump right in. Other people, such as myself, have to be very careful, and if I drop it for a bit, I'm back to square one…and often, it makes me feel like I have a "lazy body," or something.
But at this point, my pole journey is all about ME, and I don't want to compare anymore. I love sharing pole with other people, and picking their brains about their experiences and their trials with different moves, but in the end, it's all just information from the future, really. Most of the moves I ask about are ones I cannot yet do. And, once I get there…I'll have the information to use!
I think getting your own pole would be wonderful, because, as Veena said, it allows you to focus on just you! No one else is there if you don't want them to be, and you can take your time and play with the moves. I know that, when I was taking proper studio lessons, the people who progressed well with the DANCING part of things were those who did it at home!
And, also as Veena said, everyone has different strengths. I am far and beyond better at writing and creating scenes and feelings through writing, rather than dancing! It took me years (about 11, now!) to hone my writing skills, and I'm still doing it. Pole is similar; it will take you years, and you'll still learn new things! It's like…learning martial arts. There is ALWAYS something to be learning!
And, if your instructors are not giving you the attention they are giving others, I would talk to them about that, privately. Let them know your feelings, because you pay for the class, too.
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I don't know. I have no words to describe my utter confusion. Oo;
I kinda wish I spoke slightly more german, I guess?
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Hey everyone!
Sorry it took me so long to reply! The computer needed a reformatting, took all night!
I really appreciate everyone's replies. And, yes, I have seen What Not To Wear! I haven't had television for about 5 years now, but when at my mom's place, or before I moved out, it was one of my favourite shows! Unfortunately, I find that most of my shopping is done more "for the now" than planning ahead, buying good (see: Expensive) stuff, because often the only reason I can justify buying clothes is when I'm completely running out…or, in the case of bras, when I'm in constant pain!
I find it really interesting that so many of you have hit the nail so firmly on the head: I tend to connect my self worth by what others think of me, and (to make it a little convoluted) what *I* think others think of me. Curiously, it doesn't seem to matter how many complements I get from others, I still brush it off…I think they're "just being nice," or that they don't really mean it, whereas with negative comments, it hits me really hard, and I don't ever brush that off.
So, I appreciate everyone's comments, as they throw into stark contrast how skewed my view is! It should be more about what I think of myself, and less about other people. It's much like my theory on how people like to dump their…uh, problems, on others, and how you don't have to take it. You don't necessarily need to put your self-esteem, good or bad, on others…just so long as you are happy with it.
So, I have to say, thank you. A very big lesson has been had here, and I really thank everyone for their contribution. I will endeavour to remove my self-esteem from everyone else's opinions, and make it more of my own.
And I'll start posting more videos, because they're fun.
And I'm going to be very careful about my clothes…because I really want to be happy with those, too.
And take more time to make myself happy with the way I look, rather than just forgetting it.
It might sound like a lot, but I think I can do it! https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_flower.gif
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Wow, thanks everyone 😉 I appreciate the responses!
UTPoler, I tend to compare myself a LOT to others, and even myself…skills I used to have that I no longer have, due to lack of practice or whatever. I tend to be very harsh with my judgement of myself, while being very kind with judgements to others…and I will admit, it's very uneven. I've been trying to stop for some time, with…well, not too bad results. I still have a ways to go!
Tarah: I'm gonna try posting more! I have to actually record more and dance, though 😉
PDR: Wow, you really hit the nail on the head there, I think. That one really spoke to me. It's very often that I "excuse" myself from the good rules I have toward others, such as not getting down on oneself, or being kind to oneself, or that kind of thing. I'm always (as I said above) kinder to others than myself, so it becomes difficult to really apply those rules to myself without thinking I'm failing. It's a strange kind of catch 22, and if I actually did believe in myself, it would disappear. I try to present myself as best as I can, but often I find my body-image issues get in the way…clothes aren't often made for someone of my shape, and frequently I feel fat and ugly for it (though I'm sure everyone else disagrees with me!).
It's reassuring to hear that I am generally on the right track, and it is always helpful for me to hear others' opinions on stuff like this! https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_heart1.gif
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Thanks ladies 🙂 I appreciate the support!
Dustbunny, how does one think so well of oneself, without…um…appearing to judge others? To say "Yeah, I'm great!" and not make others think that you think you're better? I know that seems a little weird…
How do you not get bogged down with all the "shoulds" and "should nots" of society and people, and yourself? These things usually drag me down pretty hard, too. If I don't "meet standards" in something, then obviously I'm not that good, right? How do you separate these kinds of things?
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Wow, some impressive stuff! I think some of us (who have that level of strength!) could learn a little bit from the chinese pole artists 😉
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Cinara: Thanks https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_smile.gif Sometimes I wonder if this is supposed to be hard, or if I'm just doing it wrong!
Pink Bubbles: It's actually funny, it's more when I'm facing the pole that I go really slow, but with something like the chair spin, I go fast enough!
Usually when I'm doing the split grip, I'm not quite strong enough to totally pull with my top arm. It is entirely possible that I'm just not strong enough, but…well, I don't know how to GET strong enough without doing it! I try to pull, yes, but…it's often that my hands slide a LOT. I always feel like if I didn't slide, I'd be able to do the hold for at least a few seconds! I'm not a sweaty person, I keep everything clean…so, that's kind of the issue 🙁
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Jenny, I totally understand where you're coming from! Husband and I are both students, and BC has some…issues…around post secondary education. Currently, the faculty (as in, the academic teachers) union is on strike, because the school won't tell anyone why they're cutting so many classes, and cutting in certain areas. *sigh* So, that makes me a poor student without any school to go to! https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_sad.gif
Some of my very favourite burlesque stars to watch (if you're interested): Michelle Lamour, Dirty Martini, Renea La Roux, and if you're into Boylesque, Tigger! (with the exclamation point, too!)
Hopefully you can get those classes come fall! They're super lots of fun! https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_biggrin.gif
OOhh, and also, there's a book out by Jo Weldon (her burlesque name is Jo Boobs) called "The Burlesque Handbook," and it's got SO MUCH good stuff in it! Boa tricks, how to spin your tassels, feather fans, taking off a few articles of clothing…it's great. Mostly it's the stuff she teaches her classes in person, and with so many people on stage by the time they're done, they can't really move around the stage, so most of the stuff in the book is "stationery," as in she doesn't tell you to walk around or anything…but you can! It even talks about costuming!https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_flower.gif
Good luck!
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Hehe, Reenie, that's super duper nice of you to offer, but I don't think we can do it for this one 😉 Money is REALLY tight right now…we're moving to Vic, and Husband's work sort of cut his hours…a lot! But, I'll let him know that your offer is there, and see what he thinks!
I've got a friend who did a performance at one of the Kitty nights a bit ago, I think I told you about that 😉
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Nope, it was normal burlesque…just plus a drag queen, doin' his/her thang.
As I said, they were all very catty, and really, I don't talk to them anymore. If they can't be polite to people like their pickup girl, then I don't want to associate with them anymore! 😛
Oh man, I would love to see some more burlesque, though! I'm hoping once I move, I'll get to see more!
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Haha, Reenie, that's totally true. At least at my debut show, we didn't have any cattyness! I did pickup for one show…oh man. Drag queens AND burlesque dancers? Not a good mix, let me tell you! https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_eek.gif
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I actually found my burlesque name after a very long time. I'm very pick with names, and for a little while, I was Vivienne DeMilo, but I didn't like it. Too long, and it made me think of someone prissy and stuck up (though, apparently, that's just me!) And, well, I had no idea how to make that name work for burlesque!
So, after much searching, discussions with the husband, and some silliness, I came up with Patricia Wiggles. Patricia, from the song "Patricia the Stripper," and Wiggles, because…that's what I do https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_wink.gif
I think that, if someone has the same name and is a dancer of some kind, probably best to stay away from it.
The trick I was told was to come up with a character, the person you will be on stage: Is she from a certain era? Is she silly, sexy, cute, or something else? Are you meaning to "say something" with your burlesque, such as cultural commentary (which is very popular, and a big reason why burlesque exists), or would you prefer to be a straight up dancer of the style? I've seen ladies of both styles, and they are wonderful!
You could even go with a theme, if you want to. Such as, you mentioned you have green eyes: why not, if you want to play it up, find a tonne of synonyms for "green"? Or if you wanted to go the jewel route, I'm sure you could find thousands of beautiful gemstones to use!
Personally, I'm a big fan of the cheesier names, such as the big star here on the island, Miss Rosie Bitts. She wears a lot of roses and such, she's so cute, and at the same time, definitely knows what she's doing!
Good luck!https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_flower.gif
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Awesome! I love hearing about people get their dreams! Yours looks strong and perfect! https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_flower.gif
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Chem: If my cramps increase any more, I might die https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_eek.gif Sometimes they get so bad I can't even move. My doctor's just like "Not much we can do *shrug*"
Also, my mom had an IUD a long time ago (before me, obviously) and she had bad times with it. It moved…twice! And, well, those things make me a little leery https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_confused.gif
But thank you for telling me! I might check it out https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_smile.gif
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Heey!
Trust me, all of these things are normal when you're just starting out! https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_wink.gif
Since you've been at this for a month…are you taking lessons of any kind, or just working on your own from what you see online? Either way, you can get some decent dancing going (though it tends to be somewhat safer to have some sort of lesson).
The sweat issue can be resolved a few ways. I know that there have been a few dancers here that have had this issue, and we've talked about a lot of things. I remember one saying that distilled white vinegar (I believe??) diluted with water really helps both with the pole and your hands. Personally, I wash or keep a damp cloth around, but I don't get THAT sweaty!
Shoes I think is a matter of personal preference. If you're wearing really tall platform heels with open toes, you don't have to go as far as putting your toes to the ground to slide, you can always just slide the tip of your shoes instead. Otherwise, I find many of us dance barefoot for some time, then get shoes and practice in those…but I've heard it all go either way. Like I said, personal preference: You like wearing the shoes and feel safe in them, go for it! If not, then barefoot, and practice with the shoes a bit till you're ready to dance!
Thighs: I have me some thicker thighs, too. Most of my body fat is around the middle (boobs notwithstanding!) so I have far more fat on my thighs than most other places. I find that, actually, this helps me, as long as I get everything placed correctly! It's gonna hurt, trust me! Just remember to try to turn your knees in toward the pole…sitting, legs straight, anytime! And, you can even tilt your hips when in a pole sit, and it'll give you extra anchorage!
Otherwise, don't try to rush things. Take it slow, and make sure you're comfortable with everything you try to do, rather than taking the risk and injuring yourself! https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_smile.gif
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I forgot to add something!
Generally, as far as I know, any BC says "you could gain weight!" as a side effect.
And, um, when I came off the BC, I had been taking it for about 5ish years. I gained weight AFTER coming off it…and, well, it was all in my bra. Yay. https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_confused.gif
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I got off BC because it was a huge factor in making me depressed, and I must say…I'm much happier without it. Yes, I have to find other methods of BC other than hormonal, but I think it's worth it in the long run.
I would try the Nuvaring…but…well, I have this issue with my fingers not being able to…get to the end of the "tunnel"? This is also why I can't use things like sponges, cervical caps and so forth! It's really frustrating.
One fun fact: I've known someone who went on the Nuvaring, and if you'll forgive my being very frank, she wasn't able to have an orgasm as well. You see, the biological point to female orgasm is to drop the cervix down lower (as far as I know!) and allow it to receive better. Thus, if there's something in the way, I would logically surmise that it would decrease your ability to orgasm.
However, this is just what I heard from a friend and her experience! I've not had it myself (for aforementioned issues!). It's interesting to hear everyone's reviews on it!
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I'm at http://twitter.com/#!/Runemist34
I don't usually use Twitter, but I'm trying. Generally my thing is Facecrack. 😛
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Oh goodness, there is NOTHING wrong with you!
As you can see here, there are LOTS of people who started out just the same!
Don't get discouraged because you see so many people doing aerial tricks and spins…there is so much more to work on than that. Heck, I just had a great dance session yesterday…I was feeling lazy, so I did probably about three spins in the whole time? I did everything else I could think of! It was a lot of fun, and is STILL considered pole dancing https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_wink.gif
Everyone has their own journey to go through, and we all start at different levels with different challenges. One of my biggest ones is being upside down; it terrifies me! But, I've been working on it a while…just inching my shoulders up to the pole and putting my legs on it does help.
My recommendation for working into spins: Try the half spin first. Veena has a great lesson for it, and lots of other dancers make this move beautiful, too!
Otherwise, just be patient. You don't have to spin yet. Work on other stuff you like, and even stuff you may not like as much! Relax, and have fun! That's what it's all about! https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_flower.gif
