Runemist34
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That's pretty cool! Um, what happens if we do floorwork (is that not allowed?) or do a spin to the floor or whatever? Is a little bit of torso acceptable?
I'm gonna give it a try!
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I wear undies with my pole shorts! However, my pole shorts are SO short that they actually look like undies, especially with my regular workout shirt.
Also, I'm not in the thong crowd, so sometimes you can tell I'm wearing undies…but that's okay, because at least they're there to keep other things a mystery!
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Oooh! They look awesome! I think there may be some places here in town that would sell them, but if not…I'll scour the internet! I always try to avoid using paypal/visa whenever possible 😉
Thanks guys! 🙂
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I like all of those! The Pance Dance would be easy for me, as normally that's how I do things, unless I'm working on the climbing. Classical music would be an interesting challenge for me! I don't know much about it, but I'm always willing to look into new genres! And 5 moves we're still trying to polish? Hmm…I think I could do that 🙂
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Never heard of them! What are they? Hopefully they aren't TOO slippery?
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Oh! Hehe, sorry Veena. I didn't know you had gone travelling! The move kind of put me out of the loop.
Unfortunately there isn't much going on in the month of May. I don't really have any other ideas! Hmmm…
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Now there's an idea. MsBKitty has it right.
Big speakers. REALLY big speakers. Drown him out, shake your thang, and get lots of other ladies to do it, too!
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Hey ladies,
I was thinking about it and reading your comments, and I can totally understand the idea of critisism being embarrassing…though I don't know that I agree.
In University, all of my writing classes are critique-heavy, and all of the critiques are public. Either in groups, or the whole class, we all share our thoughts on others' stories, and receive the same. It really helps to find some of the common themes for problems if you're getting the same comment again and again, or see if you should take something with a grain of salt.
Personally, I don't know if I would trust a lot of the comments I got during class…because a lot of them had no idea what they were talking about, or were not critiques at all.
I do agree that I would rather people not critisize me directly after a performance, though I would have liked to hear a little more about what, specifically, people liked about my Burlesque dance, rather than leaving me feel like they were just being nice, and I actually sucked.
I suppose it's always up to the individual, but I had wondered about it, anyways. The fear that we have such a "supportive" community makes me wonder if we're just going to be scared of stepping on other's toes, and we have to be PC all the time…
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I can completely understand your outrage, and I have a very difficult time abiding poor customer service like that- especially since I work in customer service myself!
However, I'm the kind of person that would take the lessons, just to spite them. Who cares if their Manager is a lying cow…I'd take the lessons, the pole, and then when I was done, I would write them a lengthy letter and personally address it to anyone running that place (you said PART owner, right? Well, then there's another person who should know about this!). I would tell them all about that experience, thank them for their time, and tell them that you wouldn't reccommend their studio to anyone else you knew.
You get your lessons and their time, they (in the end) get a measly bit of money, and that's it.
And yes, I hope this doesn't colour your idea of dancing. Poor customer service shouldn't reflect on the product…I've learned this, and I will still put up with horrible people for what I want…because you know what? If they want to be stupid and miserable, that's THEIR problem! I'm gonna get my money's worth, leave, and have a WONDERFUL day…just to spite them! Ha!
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I agree with the other two, you've got some amazing profesionalism going on, you were polite, and at least you can bridge the gap a little bit and understand where he's coming from, even if he cannot.
If he makes serious trouble for you, such as taking this space so that you can't, or tries anything else, I would start to make a bit of a problem for him; I'm sure you can always talk to the building owner, and various others, about some possible harrassment (if he does, indeed, harrass you).
Otherwise, let the guy do his thing. He'll simmer down, hopefully, or he'll move away. There isn't much you can do to change his mind, I'm guessing, so I wouldn't expend the energy. Though, I know how frustrating it can be! 😉
I wish you lots of luck in your new studio! I hope business booms for you, and everything works out great!
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Hehe, you will! Don't worry! Just takes some training, I think. Just take it slow…and remember, creativity thrives on a little bit of challenge!
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Hey! That's super awesome!
And as per your question…my understanding from other threads of the spinning/dizziness nature are that you get used to it…eventually! I know that's not terribly helpful, but I think that if you try to spread your spins out a bit, do some other things between them, then you can conquer the dizziness!
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I figured I'd e-mail them…just for fun. I told them the truth: I'm concerned about the safety of their poles. I asked them if I, a 180 pound woman, would be able to do EVERYTHING on their poles that any professional could do, including spins and inversions, and if I would be able to exert my entire body weight to pull on the pole. I also asked if I could spin BOTH ways on their spinning pole, and not have them come down!
You never know, they may have changed their tune…though I doubt it! https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_wink.gif
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Bluesioux, I know how you feel. It's like you're a feak in a normal world, and no one seems to understand what you're going through, or how they can help, or if they should. People are scary to us and it seems like we miss out on everything because we aren't some kind of social butterfly or something.
I'll say this, though: it's not your personality. It's something that you may have gotten through heredity, but it's not there for life, it doesn't have to be permanent, and you aren't broken. No one here is.
With social anxiety, I've also seen it called "Social Phobia," and there's one very good thing for phobias. It's not good to the person with the phobia, but it will get results! It's that "confront your fears" thing that people always bang on about. It seems so huge to you now, and people seem so scary, and you get all caught up in what they might be thinking, and what you look like, and how you must seem to others…but I've tried it, in my own little steps, slowly…and it has worked for me. I'm still not all the way there, yet, on the social thing…but I'm a lot better.
So you can always try stuff, just really simple stuff, to help you out. You could say "Hello," or "Thank you," to someone, like if they hold a door open for you, or look at you directly. You don't always have to do it, but when you feel strong enough to push yourself. Or, if you're on the bus, you can say Hi to the person next to you, or ask them how their day is.
It's hard, yes, but like I said…you don't have to force yourself to do it ALL the time. Just…when you feel you can. When you feel just strong enough to step a little bit out of that box. You could even get someone to go with you when you go out, so they can be a bit of a safety net.
And, as for looking for a job…it comes in time. Trust me! It really does! I've had to find jobs more than I've actually HAD a job, so I've got practice. You could rehearse your answers away from the potential jobs, if you can figure out a few of the common questions. I do it all the time, in my head. "I'm availaible all the time," or "I left that job because of school," or whatever. Sometimes I try to make it seem funny.
Like I said, it's not your personality…it's a disease in your head. You didn't decide to be this way, and you have the power to change it. Really.
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Wow, Jenn, that's awesome! I really wish I had the skills/certification to teach…and I suppose I could have, but it wasn't the right time 😉
I hope it goes great!
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Hey guys, I figured I'd chip in my bit, too.
When I was younger and in high school, no one knew that there was anything wrong with me…I was just shy, and quiet. Everyone besides my mom, whom I would go to every day, and I'd cry, and I'd tell her all the horrible things I felt every day, and it just got worse and worse. I eventually dropped out…and it took me four months of constant, severe depression before I bounced back.
Since then, I've seen any number of counsellors, my doctor has tried and tried to give me drugs (which I will not take, ever), and NO ONE ever bothered to tell me that depression and anxiety sometimes go hand in hand! I wish I had been told that!
I took a year "off" of life about five years ago, because I was lucky and Husband and our roommate had good jobs, and i could go on EI, and I went about trying to fix myself. It was difficult, but I did, eventually, make huge leaps in getting rid of my depression. It's almost completely gone at this point.
But, lo and behold what was lurking behind it…anxiety, which was getting worse. Much worse, now that I wasn't burying it with depression! And, finally I had an explanation about why I would freak out at bars, and why presenting things at school would make me feel like i wanted to die.
Unfortunately, I have two types of anxiety: Social anxiety, which makes me appear shy even if I'm not, and can (apparently!) result in panic attacks, and Generalized anxiety, which doesn't result in panic attacks…it's more like I worry all the time, as my "normal state" as compared to other people.
So, through my dealings with depression, I came to several conclusions, and found that certain things worked well for me. I intend to apply them to my anxiety…though I don't feel like I have "time" right now. Silliness.
First off: Identification of the problem. I found a lot of people with depression seem to identify it as a personality trait, rather than an issue that is separate from themselves. Yes, it lives inside you, and yes, it's hard to tell when YOU end, and depression begins. That's kind of the point, I think…just the same as we can have physical diseases, and they aren't a part of us, either. So, it's not "I am a depressive," it's more like "I have depression."
And, on that note, figure out what it means for you. What happens when you are depressed or anxious? Do you torture yourself with all of those horrible things you MAY have to deal with in time? Do you go through the motions in your head? Do you consider all of the "what if's" before the situation plays out? Do certain things or situations trigger you?
And the big one: How do you talk to yourself? In your head, I mean. We're always talking to ourselves, and it's important to be aware. I believe this is a part of "Mindfulness."
On that note, meditation can help a lot. Just simple meditation, where you sit, and you listen to yourself. It's a tricky thing, I haven't quite got it yet…but you let yourself think, and you just see where it goes, and you're aware of it. Even if it's painful, because you learn about yourself that way, and you can really learn to slow down and be in the moment.
Next up: Getting rid of that stuff. It's hard. Really, it's hard. But, it's doable! I found for me that it's about balance. I started with "Three things that made me happier today," and that's not necessarily that they made me HAPPY, just a little bit (or a lot) more happy than before. Sometimes even three of those things is hard, but they are there. Then, I moved to five or even ten things.
I also stopped participating in the News, because that's just a great big freak out waiting to happen. It's so sensationalist, and I don't like it. I haven't watched television in 5 years, and I'm far happier for it. But, you don't have to do that…I just found that it allowed me to stop having so much horrible input.
Depending on what goes on for you, the challenge is to find a counter for it. Things like "What if a car hits me when I cross the street?" could, potentially, be countered with something like "What if it doesn't, and something wonderful happens to me instead?" The "something wonderful" can be filled in with whatever you want…but it's important to be as realistic as possible. You've gotta be able to believe it could happen!
Like I said, it's tough. But, it's doable!
I wish you all luck!
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Well, I have to say, first of all…it was really nice of you to dance for their fundraiser!
I would say that the studio could make a valid argument that they never once actually said that you were instructing with them, and that they had only put up an advertisement for beginner pole lessons, not advanced stuff.
That said, I would counter with the fact that the way they wrote it creates the very strong implication that you DO work there, and that you didn't really give your permission to be filmed or for them to put your dancing (and your Name) on Facebook.
Anyways, I think that if they would like to have someone teach an instructor how to do things, a money trail should be created, so that they know they are getting quality instruction, so they can prove to their students that there was proper instruction, and so that you are properly compensated for your services.
Teaching friends is one thing, but when those friends work in a studio? I think there's a little bit of a line drawn for teaching new moves.
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I'm going back to Nanaimo for the weekend, gonna clean the old apartment so that I can get my deposit back, and probably have a nice little dinner with my mom, sister, stepfather and husband on Saturday evening.
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Hehe, that sounds like me, too! My body knows how to complain, that's for sure!
I've not tried the reflexology thing, but I'll give it a go if the elbow starts getting bitchy again. If it IS tendonitis (which, to be honest, is likely…I get tendonitis in EVERYTHING) then strengthening the muscles will help a lot with that.
I'm totally fine with being a Push up wimp with you 😉 Though it sounds like you're a little farther along than I am! And yes, I also refuse to increase the amount of push up till I can get them right! It's funny, push ups are one of the most well-known exercises, and yet they seem so complex when you're trying to learn how to do them!
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Hey! I've got a Lil' Minx non-rotating pole, and I lived on the third, second, and first floor (in that order!) and had no complaints at all! Even when I bailed and landed hard on the floor https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_wink.gif
I don't think any spinning of the pole should transfer sound, either. It would likely have to grind on the ground to do that, and if your pole is grinding on the ground…I think there would be something wrong!
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Can you not return them for the correct size? Normally people will do that, whether it was internet-purchased or not!
I hate to see you have to give them up! They're so pretty!
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To create a caffeine addiction takes a very short amount of time; often one or two days, depending on how much you have, and your body chemistry. To come off it also depends on how much you are dependant. It took me two weeks to feel normal again after quitting caffeine (lol, sounds like smoking, doesn't it?)
Since it sounds like your headaches are quite regular, it could either be something in your system that builds up quickly, or that you do at least once a week that causes it to get worse. Has this happened to you for your whole life? Did it start when you hit puberty?
I usually try to figure these things out by asking lots of questions. If your normal doctor is unable to help, find a new one. Go to a specialist. Anything you have to do! I hate to see people live with pain!
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I suspect what you're talking about is a migraine, and those are difficult to deal with. I have them, often around certain times of the month, but I used to get them far more often.
So, first of all, what does your doctor think of them? Have you managed to go to the doctor while having one? Does he say "tension headache" or "migraine"? They're similar for some people, and very different for others! Do you get sensitive to light or sound during your headaches?
Otherwise, I know that for me, my migraines were caused by caffeine, especially since I used to drink so much of it. Seriously, I'd go through 2 litres in half a day. Pop was all I drank, and I was told I had to stop. It sucked, but I did…I'm now very careful about how much, what kind, and when I have caffeinated drinks!
Have you noticed any patterns, such as time of month (or, time of your girly cycle), what you may have eaten or drank within the last day, or stress levels? Sometimes the body will react to things we aren't aware of.
I have hope that, if nothing I've mentioned is helpful, someone here can help!
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I would love to, but unfortunately I just moved, and my pole is down till I can get my stepfather to come up and install it! He's the only one with the tools and stuff to do it, unfortunately 🙁
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It depends on the spin, for me. It takes me a while to get that kind of strength going, so it takes at least a few months of semi-casual poling to get there for the basic Fireman spin. Others…well, I've not gotten strong enough yet!
