Roadkillgerbil
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Hey guys. Don’t forget European Bendy Buddies tonight. Hope to see you all there at 8pm UK time (yes, that’s 2 hours from now).
Mistress Gerbil
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Agh. This song apparently isn’t available on the UK itunes. Grrrr. Will keep hunting.
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Don’t forget, bendy buddies tonight, 8pm GMT
can’t wait to see you all
xxx
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Awwww, thanks guys. You’re all so lovely to me!!
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Chat to everyone Fri at the latest. Love you all!!!
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Hey Moth,
Basically, we all get together in chat (most of us with webcams on but it’s not essential) and the wonderful Mistress Tigger (new official title) leads us through a series of stretches. There’s a great deal of giggling, lots of silliness and some fantastic stretching.
I don’t know how much longer we’ll be having Tigger to lead us, but I’m going to be taking notes this week and dusting off my mistress outfit ready to take over when the time comes. So, if you want to have a nice, organised start, this week would be a good start.
We only started this last week, so most of us are new to the Bendy Buddies format, but I know I’ve benefited so much in terms of increased enthusiasm for streching (I haven’t missed a day since we started!!) and also in terms of increased flexibility really quickly.
See you there, maybe?
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Well I’m not a studio, but I’m about an hour away from London (less if you drive as fast as I do) and have a pole in my kitchen. If what you’re looking for is a spotter and someone new to share ideas with, I’m more than happy to host a mini pole jam at my place.
Send me a message if you’re interested and we can work out a date and see if anyone else wants to come along.
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You’re gonna kill me. I’ll only be able to be about for the first half hour. I completely forgot that tonight was my one clubbing night of the month. Still, I’ll be there for as long as I can (and rather more dressed up than I’ll usually be ~blushes~)
Looking forward to it!
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Wow. Thanks Tigger!!!! https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_biggrin.gif
I’m up for starting next week. I need to stop putting my stretches off till later, so the sooner we start, the better I’m gonna do at breaking that pattern.
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Wow. I can’t even conceive of one of my partners responding in that way, but then, jealousy of any kind is a complete no-no for me. Admittedly, I am non-monogamous and have several serious, long-term partners, so them getting worried about other men just seeing me dancing would be somewhat laughable. https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_lol.gif
Even if I were monogamous, however, the idea that he doesn’t want other men looking at "his" woman would send chills up my spine (and not in a good way). I’m a partner, not a possession. And I’m deeply uncomfortable with the idea that a woman is ‘owned’ by her partner, especially visually. So what if other men look? How does that detract from what he gets (or was hoping to get) from you? What does he lose?
And I’m absolutely with you PDR. Just because some men will interpret poling in a club as sleezy is no reason not to do it. And it’s certainly no reason to say we’re asking for harrassment. I’ll be aware that it’s possible (maybe even probable) and if it happens, I’ll deal with it appropriately (10+ years of martial arts ftw!) but there is no way I’ll accept blame for it.
My partners would want to come with me to watch me pole at a club, but that’s to do with them wanting to watch the hotness that is me dancing rather than them chaperoning me, or ensuring I do nothing ‘inappropriate’. https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_biggrin.gif
Whilst I love my partners very much and have very committed relationships, I’ll always lose a man rather than lose my independence. Thankfully, those I care about feel the same way.
I’m sorry things are so difficult for you right now, Mommabear. ~hugest hugs and care~ I definitely agree that it’s time to be your own advocate. He’s not taking into consideration your feelings and welfare so if you don’t, no-one will. For me, this would be completely overstepping his bounds https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_evil.gif (and that’s even without him going to a strip club! Don’t get me started on the disrespect and double standards there!!)
In your place, I’d be tempted to head out to a strip club yourself, with a bunch of pole girls with you, to "get some ideas for stage presence and dance tips". https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_twisted.gif If he felt this was wrong, there would be two ways to go. The first to question why he’s uncomfortable with you seeing boobies when, you know, you have your own pair and how come it’s ok for him to go, but not you. The second would be to say very sweetly "I’m just trying to understand and learn what you like!" But then, I’m nice like that! https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_lol.gif https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_twisted.gif https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_lol.gif
But I really do hope things get better for you personally, no matter how things play out with regards your marriage. You deserve to feel cared for and supported by your partners, not constrained and judged.
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You know I’m up for this. I can’t do thursdays, but Mon or Tues is usually pretty good by me.
Please, someone make me stretch. https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_salut.gif I seem to have misplaced my enthusiasm for it. And my hamstrings. If anyone finds a set of nice flexible hamstrings lying around, they’re mine. Please return them! https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_lol.gif
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Sorry guys. I’m at an aerial silks and hoop workshop this Sat. Bad timing. I’m hoping you’ll do another one soon.
Have fun!
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I’m up for this, but I will have to think of what my goals are. I have moves I’m working on in a shorter time frame, so I’ll have to hunt down some more (and define some specific stretching goals) to be more difficult. https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_biggrin.gif
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Ok, I’m sold. I’ve only been at this for a few days, but I have already noticed a massive different in some of my stretches, particularly #1. I have been trying to be religious about doing it every day, even if I only do one set. I’m happy to work up to more sets as I start to hate stretching less.
The ones you mentioned for the splits I can manage (gods, he doesn’t even try to explain clearly, does he?!?) but some of the others, I either can’t work out how to do them at all, or I have to go to one of the more advanced stretches, just ‘cos I can’t work out the mechanics of the easier one.
Just to check, 3 is a press up, right? He says you get into a traditional press up position, then press down to the ground and back up again. That’s a press up, surely? https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_scratch.gif
And, #7? What, how, huh? I can’t work this one out at all. Nor #11. Any ideas? (I know these won’t help with my splits, but I need all round improvements in my flexibility)
And thanks again for the recommend on the book. Definitely worth it! https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_thumleft.gif
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The penthouse ones. They’re so cool! Sounds like I should just get my normal size. Win. I’m gonna go order those and my crazy Ikea-shoes now. ~does dance of glee~ https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_biggrin.gif https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_bounce.gif https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_biggrin.gif https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_bounce.gif https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_thumleft.gif
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Wow. I have to get me a pair of those boots. Do they seem to run to a correct size? Or do you need to get a size larger?
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Thanks for that. I will!! Though, given how much I hate stretching, I will have to make sure I don’t try to count time spent typing questions to you as part of my stretching time. Otherwise, you’ll be getting 1,000 word essays on my questions. https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_rolleyes.gif
and yes, I really would usually rather write a 1,000 word essay than do my stretches. I am a very strange gerbil. https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_lol.gif
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Some days, I find it’s not just my hands that slip. Everything slips, and I can’t even grip with my legs well enough to get a basic inverted crucifix. The cure I found was just a normal shower before practice. Post-shower, I’m so sticky (to the pole) that it’s amazing. I’ve nailed a few moves that way. Also, my pole’s in my kitchen, so I wash my hands a few times in a session. I find properly washing them makes more of a lasting difference than just wiping them dry.
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I’ve looked for the DVD you mentioned, but in the UK it’s only available as a region 1 and for £45, which is a bit too steep for my tastes (especially as I’m not sure if my DVD player is mutli-region). https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_cry.gif I’ll just have to try to make do with the book (which I have ordered) and a whole lot of time and willpower. Well, that’s the plan at least. ~crosses fingers~
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Count me in as well!! This sounds fab! https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_cheers.gif
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I had one like that on a fb pic of me. I can’t understand why anyone would choose to spend their time and energy being rude to people they don’t even know. https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_scratch.gif
Personally, I prefer to spend my time and energy halfway up a pole. I think we all have the better idea, and the happier lives. https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_cheers.gif
Now I want a ‘group hug’ smiley
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Thanks Charley. I’m also one of those people who has all the flexibility of a steel girder. I haven’t tried the foam rollers. What’s the deal with those?
I can honestly say that it is possible to make drastic changes, though. My martial arts instructor (I really wish I didn’t always type "marital" whenever I try to type that) said that I had the worst hamstrings he’d seen in over 3 decades of coaching, including rehab work. 6 weeks later (stretching for over 90 mins a day. 3 blocks of 30 mins) I had normal/good hamstrings. A while after that, I could kick well over my own head height.
I found dynamic stretches as well as static ones to be useful, but that might be largely because of my abysmal baseline. Another trick was to actually use a clock to measure my 60 second holds. Without that, my ‘stretching minute’ bore little relationship to a real ‘minute’.
Keep at it. Consistency is more important that being extreme on the few ocassions you manage it. Oh, and talking about it isn’t the same as actually stretching. ~slaps self on the back of head~ ~looks sheepish~ I’ll go stretch now.
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My scales also measure body fat percentage. Most of the modern ones I’ve looked at do. That’s a far more useful measure than just your weight.
At the end of the day, your weight is a meaningless number. What matters is your body composition and whether it looks/works in the ways you want it to.if it does, win! If not, make changes. But it certainly is possible to gain ‘weight’ while losing inches. I know I’m over a stone heavier than almost anyone ever realises. Well, until they try to pick me up that is! ~evil grin~
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I’m having definite trouble in this area. Given how narrow the space I have to dance in is, I really need my videos taken portrait, but my computer always recognises them as landscape. WMM doesn’t maintain the aspect ratio when rotating (I know my housemate’s version does, but mine doesn’t) so my ass ends up the size of the moon!
I tried using videospin, but couldn’t find anywhere that it lets me rotate the video (or, indeed, make it brighter. Another perennial problem). Any free software that does allow you to do this? Or am I doomed to being roughly square (at least in pole videos) for all eternity? https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_rolleyes.gif
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Wow. A post in my honour. https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_biggrin.gif I’d better hope my story lives up to it now. https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_redface.gif
I did say there was alcohol involved, yeah?
I was at a club chatting to a lesbian friend of mine and a male friend. The conversation turned (as it does remarkably often) to sex, and specifically the way men frequently claim that they want to watch lesbian sex. I think I said that what they actually mean is that they want to watch bisexual sex, ‘cos they always have this vague hope of being invited in. The guy agreed with me in that wonderfully considered way the only utterly inebriated can manage and said, again as if imparting great wisdom, "Yes. I mean, lesbian sex, it’s a bit like seeing your ideal gerbil… as roadkill." The other girl and I stopped abruptly and sort of looked at each other. Slightly hesitantly she asked "Do you mean <insert name of breed of small rodent here. I was too drunk/intruiged to pay much attention to specifics>?" His voice was completely shocked as he replied "God, no. That’s a hamster!!" https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_scratch.gif
The very next day I had to find a new username (for LJ, IIRC) and the only thing I could think about was this completely random conversation. So, yes, I am a euphamism for lesbian sex. What can I say? as with so much that I do, it seemed like a good idea at the time. https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_lol.gif
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Personally, I’d go for weights. A small weights bench and a few free weights don’t take up much space and I really feel the difference after a session. Now I have a pole in the flat, it’s pretty rare for me to do a weights session, as I’d much rather mess about on the pole, but I still use them from time to time. A bench isn’t even essential as you can usually find something suitable to kneel/lie on in the house.
I also do still use my skipping rope for cardio work, or as a warm up for pole. I have pretty amazing cardio fitness, which means that I don’t even start getting warm from the warm-ups in most classes but skipping for 6 mins is guaranteed to have me fully warmed up (usually, a little too mcuh so).
For low cost/space saving/high impact workouts, these two come a close second to pole.
And good luck with the thesis! https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_thumleft.gif
