Maria_T
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Yeah minicoopergirl, you know we love alot of the same songs/music. You have great taste chica, lol! https://www.studioveena.com/img/smilies/icon_e_wink.gif
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Hi,
I also admire your forgiving nature because, like Charley, forgiveness is something I am not good at all. Anyways, the song "Dig" by Incubus always brings me to tears because I want to be able to forgive people and I also wish people would forgive me and give me the benefit of the doubt that I'm not always a bad person. Please read this sample of the lyrics it is a really beautiful song too:
We all have a weakness
But some of ours are easy to identify.
Look me in the eye
And ask for forgiveness;
We'll make a pact to never speak that word again
Yes you are my friend.
We all have something that digs at us,
At least we dig each other
So when weakness turns my ego up
I know you'll count on the me from yesterday
If I turn into another
Dig me up from under what is covering
The better part of me
Sing this song
Remind me that we'll always have each other
When everything else is gone.Hope that helps! Good luck!! The world needs more friends like you. : )
Maria
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Sorry, one more thing…thank you, thank you , THANK YOU Chemgoddess for that lovely, inspirational poem. I really needed to see that and thank you for sharing something so beautiful.
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Hi Hotpinksugar,
Your post really brought tears to my eyes. All I can say is, though I know it is almost impossible to not compare yourself to others, remember that we are all different and have different strengths and weaknesses (yes, I know this is cliche and that you have probably heard it before). Your friend should not be the measure of what type of poler you are. Yes, you say she is a natural and really good and that is fine, but you are strong too just for the simple fact that you stick with it and put in that extra effort to keep up. That is what is going to refine you as a poler. There are times when you do something physically challenging that your body is not used to, sometimes your body will fight you for awhile, it will seem really hard and frustrating sometimes, but if you stick with it like you have been, your body will start to adapt and your strength will build up. It may take longer than your friend, but learn at your own pace. Because you are obviously a hard worker, when those moves or tricks do start to come with ease you will realize that you are truely a winner (and have been all along) because you, despite challenges/frustrations did not give up and put in that extra effort and discipline.
The thing with your instructors, I am really sad to hear that. Hopefully, the way they respond to you vs your friend isn't intentional, and they are just excited at a "fast learner" but at the same time, it's important uplift everyone at whatever level they happen to be. Sometimes hearing a few encouraging words gives you that extra boost to believe you can learn a dance combo or trick. Sometimes it is a mind over matter thing and when someone is there cheering you on and sticking with you to really help you through those difficult moves that's when positive results occur.
I feel you dear, while I have a lot of natural strength when it comes to poling, I totally SUCK at anything that involves flexibility, esp. in my back, shoulders, and hips. I have gotten down in the dumps and wanted to quit too when I see all these amazing dancers who can do full on side and center splits and have beautiful bendy backs that allow them to beautifully achieve a pole trick/pose. At one point I was like "Why should I even bother to keep trying to qualify for these competions? I am nowhere near in those girls league". That's when I talk to supportive friends and family members and also give myself a pep talk remind myself that I have things to offer to the pole community. Girl, I know there is something wonderful that you have to offer, sometimes you may not see or feel it because you are being too hard on yourself or too focused on others progress. Think about the things you can do. What are you good at? Even if it is just pirouettes, catch spins, fireman spins. You be able to do it with so much flare and passion that no one is going to care if you can't get into a certain trick. My longwinded point is…remember there are things that you are fabulous at. Don't forget to put those things on display and also work on those things that challenge you in the meantime. Also, grab an instructor and ask her to break down the move further or spot you while you work on something. That's what she is there for. Please don't give up sweety, I, for one believe you have something wonderful to show to the pole community and that you have a passion, otherwise, you wouldn't work so hard, share your feelings and open up the way you did. I'm not on SV much, and I know you don't know me or anything but if you ever need help with anything or want to just talk or something, please hit me up.
Peace,
Maria
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Hi,
Girl, my husband and your husband should hang out because he has the same issues with me pole dancing. We have had huge blow up fights over it and it makes it so difficult sometimes to concentrate on advancing in the pole dance world when he flips out if I try to enter comps, and I can’t submit my vids on YT without him freaking out (he doesn’t know about my SV acount, hehehehe).I think the pole in the home is a great idea but I understand you wanting to get out of the house to pole because there’s nothing like the fun and comradery that comes with poling with other wonderful pole enthusiasts. I hope you will be able to find a balance or that he will become more open to the idea of you occassionally being out of the house doing a positive, creative, fun activity.
BTW, I am so envious of those ladies who have supportive husbands that must be such a nice feeling to know your man has your back like that in pole dancing/fitness.
Peace,
Maria
