LopsiJulie
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Awe! You girls are so sweet!
Thanks a bunch!!!
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Dustbunny – I am not a great pole dancer by any stretch and I have entered a comp! I think you have to pick one that has levels. Many have some for beginners (no inverts allowed). I'm really nervous about it (I wrote a post on the forum to which no one responded to ask for tips! 🙁 Boo hoo!).
I feel like I could do either. It obviously won't be at the same level as the pros, but that's to be expected. To me both comps and showcases are about sharing your love of pole, having fun putting a routine together and challenging yourself. In one case you might get a meddal or ribbon and a cash prize (comp). But I think I would approach them both in the same way: to have fun. Once you loose sight of that and it becomes about winning then the comp and showcases diverge a lot.
The reason why I entered a comp and not a show case was because I haven't heard of a showcase that I could be a part of (not being at a high enough level of performance).
There is of course room for both 😀
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hmmm.. so given that we're all polers… where's the best spot to get a tatoo that's not on your face?
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PS. None of us deserve forgivness. We've all hurt one another. That's why I feel we should work at forgiving each other.
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I'm going to be bold and say the exact opposite of everyone else: forgiveness is the most important thing you can do. If you don't forgive her, you're the one that will loose out (not on any relationship with her, but the bitterness and resentment that will chip away at your soul). The thing is: you might not be able to forgive her at the moment and that's fine.
Your feelings are important, they are like a compass allowing your gage your reaction to an event. If you are unhappy about something that she did, you need to pinpoint exactly what that is. Once that's done, when you are calm enough to deal with it, I suggest that you meet with her and discuss your feelings and perception of the events. Most of the time things are a big misunderstanding or maybe she acted meanly (or whatever) because she felt threatened, etc. The critical thing is that you can only meet to discuss what has happened once you are calm enough to talk about things in a mature manner: resorting to yelling and arguing is not going to be helpful. You need to be patient and hear her out to. If this is not possible (e.g., she's too immature to discuss things) then I think you have every right to say to her that because she has made you feel this way, you are going to limit the time that you interact which means that you will not be attending any family gatherings where she is present (or whatever you want to do).
Hopefully be discussing it, you'll be able to forgive her at least. It's not about forgive and forget. It's about forgiving because we all screw and moving forwards in a beneficial way. That will hopefully include the forget bit and starting out fresh… but that's not always possible.
And this might take a lot of time to accomplish… forgiveness is hard work, but ultimately it's worth it. I would even go as far to say that forgivenss is necessary, but reconciliation may not be possible.
It might also be helpful to talk to your family members about your feelings and how you felt betrayed and conned into going there when you're not ready to deal with her.
Sorry if this sounds all preachy. In the end it's just my opinion, but this is an issue that is quite close to my heart.
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Will be praying for you! (Unless you write back that you don't want me to!)
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Yeah, mine is also slippy. I like the challenge 🙂 I don't know, some days it works better than others. I haven't figured out if it's because the pole is warm or cold…. overall confused about the whole thing. Just keep trying! Also, not all grips are the same. Get Dewpoint if you can! I hear it's really the best.
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I would intentionally do a really crap job… walk around for 20min like a robot… He'll run out the room 🙂
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ahhhh! Hahaha.. well I still think you should get bonus point if you get your mama dancing with you 🙂 I obviously won't be able to do that bit, but I look forward to seeing other vids with mom's in it!
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Yeah…. I took vids last night for the first time just to see what I look like, and it's pretty awful! 🙂 My "extended" butterfly really isn't different from my butterfly! But actually, I'm excited because now I realize all the small things I have to work on (note: point toes!).
Hang in there and pole because it's fun!
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Love Phoenix's idea but I have no "mothers" around me 🙁
How about we pick our mom's fav song and do a dance for them? Bonus if we can get them to make a cameo appearance.
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agreed! But I'm still happy with the red ones! 🙂
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It's a tough one. And you have to be super careful when coming out of it (EXHALE!). I actually injured myself doing this (muscles between my ribs). It's unlikely that it'll happen to you girls as you don't have the previous injury that I do from rowing boats and having a rib cage that doesn't flex as much as it should, but I thought I should still warn you to exhale and try to come out with as much control.
I love how different people struggle with different moves. Took me four months to learn wrist seat (hello boys), but I got a yogini on my first try (before I could even invert).
Happy training girls!
