I am an instructor at a studio in Iowa, there are all sizes and heights and strengths and types of beautiful women who attend classes at the studio, I enjoy the spirit of everyone single one of them. They are teachers to me as well, we learn together the best way to train each individual person. Every body is different and needs to be treated that way and with respect and love. I have watched this video http://upa.tv/body-and-pole/roz-mays-free-active-seminar-coaching-plus-size-athletes/ and I would hope that all trainers would do the same so that no one ever has to experience what you went through.
Keep your beautiful chin up and enjoy poling! The community of polers is wonderful, I have met some of the most fascinating and thoughtful people in this community. StudioVeena is one of those fabulous and supportive communities.