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That is just awful. I mean even if you can’t do something right now the instructors should tell you where to work to get the move eventually. I’ve told students in the past not to try a certain move or spin, not because I think they are stupid or untalented, but because there are some moves that if you try them without proper strength/flex/form you can injure yourself and I don’t want that. In any case, that is no excuse to treat students badly. Instructors are there to support you, encourage you and help you build the abilities needed to accomplish something. Those idiots are no instructors and they shouldn’t be teaching at all.

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Hi Tania

It’s probably your hamstring what’s hurting. Cleo’s video is awesome but it is quite aggressive. I’d suggest you try the flow motion lessons from veena. They work wonders and are softer on your joints.

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Hi Aimee. Welcome to StudioVeena. You’ve landed in the most supportive online pole dancing community on earth. I am a at home poler and studio instructor (beginner level of course). All of the poles I use are 45mm chrome xpole xperts, even the one in my living room and I love them. You definitely want to spend money on a good quality pole. Xpole is great for all levels. I’ve heard that the lil minx poles are great too, but I like the fact that you don’t have to drill a hole in the ceiling with the xpole poles.

As tips for beginners, I’d say, start with strength and a little flexibility exercises before trying anything too crazy. Veena’s conditioning lessons are awesome and you will avoid injuries if you do those first. My second tip is, don’t compare yourself to other polers. You are probably going to watch tons of videos where people do some amazing things that look relatively easy but when you get to your pole you may find that those things are not so easy (or maybe you’ll be one of the few lucky ones who can do everything before their 3rd try, who knows right?). But as you have probably read, pole is a journey. I didn’t understand this concept myself until I started walking the path myself. With pole you’ll discover that you can be much stronger than you ever imagined, you’ll see that you are the most graceful woman you have been. You will discover that your body is an amazing miracle that responds to all of your demands as long as you work for them.

My last tip is, enjoy yourself. It’s going to hurt, but enjoy every minute of your journey. You are worth it

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I’m very behind in my posts but these are some days I didn’t post here. Happy Holidays to everyone

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Yes, it happened to me as well. I had to replace most of my tops because they don’t fit me anymore. When im buying non-workout clothes I feel like the Hulk, but I love it. I mean, finding clothes that fit is kind of a nightmare because i’m really skinny but my arms won’t fit in any non stretch tops but I am very proud of my arms. Strong is sexy 😀

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Day 13 and 14. I almost fell on my face doing the last pose. I lasted like .5 sec but you have to star somewhere right?

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Day 8 to 12 I needed to catch up. Day 10 was pretty much impossible but at least I tryed 😄

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Day 7

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Day 6 of the #justbepresent

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Ok so this is day 5

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I’m really sorry, I can’t imagine what you are going through. Enjoy her while you have her and show her how much you love her. If there’s anything we can do please tell us. My prayers go to you both

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I’m in. This is day 1 to 4 😋

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From what I’m reading from all the posts in here I conclude that we are not ashamed of what we do (or we wouldn’t do it) but sometimes people around us can be less understanding than we’d want them to be. I guess it depends also on where you live. There are areas of the world where people are just more open minded. Anyway, this whole thing has made me think about what we ladies are supposed to do or supposed to be in our societies. We are not hurting anybody but some of us still fell the need to be careful about “exposing ourselves” as if it was something bad because some people may not be able to see beyond that. Obviously pole is a very important part of my life, but I’m more than that, we ALL are. I am really glad that a lot of women are proud of their poling, of their bodies and of themselves (besides pole). Way to go ladies! This is why in a past post I stated that you ladies are my heroes, you are strong, confident and powerful. Every woman in this planet should feel like that. I truly respect you 🙂

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I normally use either my phone or my iPad. I place them on high chairs, books or yoga blocks (or any combination of those 3 things). I do have a camera with a tripod that can record video but extracting it and posting it is kind of hard so I don’t use it very often. I’d love to buy a video camera for my pole videos but so far the phone camera has to do the job

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Thank you girls. And please polekat do share the post. Spread the word

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Oh MaeC that must be very frustrating. I think sexy dancing is great, it is not very me but I would definitely like to try it to connect with my more feminine side just like you said. I’ve been thinking about buying a pair of heels but I haven’t. Anyway, I just wanted to tell you that I feel your pain.

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Well Allyson you’re absolutely right. My mom is waaaaaaay better than her mom. My grandmother would never accept me in a million years, she would probably hate me, not only because of the pole but pretty much half of the things I do go against what she believed was right. She used to throw away my moms books because they may say something about sex and sex was immoral even in literature. She thought women were not supposed to do things without a man and stuff like that. She didn’t believe in independent women who express themselves. She died before I was born but I know from what my mom has told me that she had a hard time dealing with her own mother.
My mom is MUCH better than her mom but I guess the way she was raised is still imprinted in her. We’ll have to work things out I guess, to a point where neither of us is too uncomfortable. Whatever happens I still love my mom with all my heart.

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Freddie that sounds awful. Nobody has made any uncomfortable comments to me but it must be frustrating. I don’t have children but my sister is pregnant and I already told her than when my nice/nephew becomes old enough I’m going to play with him/her on the pole and she is fine with that. My brother-in-law even said that it was obvious that his kids would have to learn pole like their aunt to make them strong and fit hahaha. I’ve seen many children playing around poles and I think it’s adorable, for them the pole is like a swing or something. I’m really looking forward to be a fun pole auntie 😀

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I am completely open about pole, my Facebook and instagram are full of pictures of me poling. I don’t hide my pictures or my videos from my male friends because I don’t think they are particularly sexual. My style is more fitness than sexy. Don’t get me wrong, I love sexy dancing, but it’s just not very ME, if you know what I mean. Most of my friends are really supportive and no one has ever made an uncomfortable comment about it. Actually I teach pole to a couple of my male friends whenever they come over, it’s really fun because it is harder than they think lol. Anyway, my mom is not very supportive of my hobby, my dad is, also my sister and my brother-in-law. When they are around I ask them to spot me and they like to help me. With my mom is a whole different story. When I first told her I wanted to pole to achieve some of the moves I saw on youtube she told me that surely those girls had been training their whole lives and that I would never be that good. I didn’t listen to her and I started training, a couple of months later I bought my pole and she told me that I was nuts, that why on earth had I bought a pole? I told her that she had just bought a treadmill that she never uses, my pole is like my treadmill and I do use it, almost every single day. She doesn’t say anything about it anymore, good or bad (apart from the “Take it down” stuff).

I mean I get the “clear up the space, we are having visitors and we need the room” but she told me “Take down your pole, what are the visitors going to think if they see it in the living room?” The funniest part is that everyone who came knows I pole and they have all seen the pictures of me training in the living room, so everybody asked where was my pole and why wasn’t it in it’s usual place. Some were actually admiring my badass arms and asking to see some pictures. I am confident with myself and with my sport, I don’t care what people might think, I’ve even told my boss about it and he’s cool. He still thinks he’s tougher than me because he trains for a triathlon but he doesn’t care at all if I pole or not.

I think I just feel sad because my mom is ashamed of one of the things I love the most and it is something I’m actually good at (well just not terrible). I’m really proud of my pole accomplishments and it would be nice if she was too.

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It took me months of practice to get the pencil. Spinning pole is really hard, my legs would swing sideways all the time. As the girls already told you, it’s core strength. Engage those abs, and don’t be so hard on yourself. We usually see here all those videos where girls are doing amazing stuff but you have to take into account that we only post the video where we actually got the move. I never post the videos where I’m just struggling and failing miserably. I have tons of those lol. We all struggle with this, take your time and try to focus on different moves, not just that one. If you work on other things you’ll develop the core and the pencil will become easier.

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I’ve never tried to drop (I’m too scared lol) but I can spin just fine, as long as the pole is clean I can spin without too much trouble. I’ve only had issues when I’ve got some grip aid residue in my hands and the pole is really hot, but as soon as I clean the pole and my hands I have no problems. Actually, more often than not, I have the opposite problem and slide too fast to the ground. I don’t think chrome would be too grippy but if I were you I would probably try to play with a chrome pole before buying one just in case.

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I have a 45mm chrome xpert xpole and I love it. I can actually grab it with my whole hand so when I’m doing an extended butterfly or the iguana mount or any moves where you have to rely solely on your hands it is easier. I’ve tried a couple of moves on a 50mm but I can’t hold to it firmly. I probably couldn’t do an iguana mount on a 50mm even if my life depended on it. Maybe it’s because I’m not used to it. The poles at the studio where I go are also 45mm. For the moves where you grip with your legs I’ve heard that the 50 mm is actually easier, i didn’t notice much of a difference in the legs, but for my hands 5mm it’s a huge difference. I would definitely go for the 45mm.

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Hi, I didn’t reply to your post earlier but you actually got me intrigued about EFT so I started digging. I’m actually reading The tapping solution right now lol. It does seem to work. I didn’t reply before because I don’t have any particular issue with my poling. I can obviously improve but I don’t feel bad about it. I’m fighting depression and anxiety so that’s what I’ve been tapping about since last week and I do feel better. Not perfect, but better. The thing is that EFT made me realize that I have a bunch of unresolved issues that I thought were long gone and they have EVERYTHING to do with my current situation so there’s still a lot of tapping yet to come for me.
But something really funny happened yesterday morning. When I woke up I thought I had caught the flu. I felt awful, my head was killing me, runny nose and I was sneezing like crazy. Then I thought “Why don’t I try to tap this out” So I did a couple of rounds and I’m perfectly fine now. Just two rounds of EFT was all that I needed and the flu was gone hahaha.

Ok but back to the subject, I read of several ladies who have left the pole for a while for whichever reason and now they can’t find the motivation to go back to it, or are scared to see how much strength/flexibility they have lost. Maybe you could make a video about that. I’m sure that would help a lot of people.

By the way, if you want to help me with my issues I’m up for it. Right now I’m doing this alone but I bet extra help can’t hurt. If you want to focus on the poling side with your sessions that’s perfectly cool too. In any case I have to thank you big time because if it wasn’t for you I would never have found about EFT, and as I already wrote, it IS helping me. It’s not magic and I still have lots to work on but it is helping THANK YOU

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wloren I can totally relate to what you are saying. I’m 5’2″ (1.58m) and for most of my adult life I weighed around 100 pounds (45 kg). I was super skinny and I didn’t like it. I ate a lot, seriously a lot and that didn’t do the trick. My friends told me all the time that I should stop complaining about not gaining weight because every one wants to look skinny. That made me angry because I didn’t like the way I looked. I thought I looked like I had an eating disorder or something. Anyway, when I started to pole initially I lost weight and I just thought “oh no, not again”, but I started to do more strength training and within a couple of months I regained the weight that I had lost and I’m actually heavier now (110 pounds/50 kg). The funniest part is that I actually lost 3% of body fat since march, so all the weight is muscle !!! I love the way my body looks now because before I thought I looked sickly skinny and now I still look slim but if you ask me to describe my body type I would say it’s athletic. I love it 😀

Anyway, my advice would be to do more strength training and increase the protein in your diet. Finally, be patient, there are some girls that bulk up in no time. It might take you several months but you’ll eventually see the results and we’ll be here to support you the whole time 😀

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@tigerlillies It must be hard for you not having any studios nearby and not knowing people in your state 🙁
I am not structured at all when it comes to home practice, but I find that posting my progress often, either here or on instagram, helps me stay motivated. The veneers are such an amazing family, they alway offer support and advice. I feel like I have a group of cheerleaders beside me even if they are not physically here. Maybe you could try that, I’ll be your cheerleader if you want 😀