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Body contour. :3 With a matt bronzer and a shimmer highlight. Atleast, that’s what I’ve been told
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I tried craigslist and searching “mirror” “full mirror” and even “floor length mirror” bring up tons and tons and tons of ads for CARS! I would also love some advice
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That second is definitely not true. I can do aysha cold off of 55m brushed steel, chrome, and brass. I cannot do it on stainless. I have heard stainless is the most slippery from almost everyone though
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I think how it works is, when you get the view points, it goes into the raffle. But each shoe costs a different amount of money. Some girls win $100 and some $47, some $65…so I think it bases the money on which one of your clicks won the raffle? I could be really wrong. It could be a per page basis. I just post lots of shoes less for the view count and more because I love discussing shoes @_@
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😀 hai Luvlee~~
I gave all my clickies today…and found some new shoes…didn't think that was possible after looking through that site for two hours…kinda embarassing.
http://howcool.com/product/highest-heel/HH-BONDAGE?reftoken=1d60c281-202956
I thought those might be interesting.
http://howcool.com/product/pleaser-shoes/PL-ARENA-208?reftoken=50d7da20-202956
Okay. I've been wanting boots like these since I saw Camen Electra in that scary movie…Her outfit was SO sexy, and I want to make a mock costume of it for work.
http://celebritywonder.ugo.com/wp/Carmen_Electra_in_Scary_Movie_4_Wallpaper_2_1280.jpg That's what she was wearing, because I know people are staring at me like, "What was she wearing?)
And, one more…just because I have shoe greed.
http://howcool.com/product/ellie-shoes/EL-BP588-OPHELIA?reftoken=b534e0b3-202956
Has anyone seen a boot with that heel in tan/beige? Preferably thigh high? I'm in LOVE with that heel and I don't know the name of it. I just want it in either knee high or thigh high…my mom and I share shoes and have serious winter shoe love.
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Errr, I’m comfortable with all forms of music except REGGAE**** No idea why I wrote dubstep.
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Depends on where I am; if I’m at work, I dance like Felix circa 2006. Very seductress slinky, fluid, tricks. BUT. Because I dance to alternative grungy rock, there’s a lot of spin combos I do.
Personal time at the studio I do contemporary with lots of lyrical and a very light peppering of ballet. I know how to do flags even though I’ve never taken a dance class.
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I thought alethea’s dvd’s were OKAY. Her warmups were very good, and then some moves had excellent information and breakdowns. But others were two to three part moves in which hardly anything was explained in part one, leaving you stranded in parts two and three. They also had a really terrible habit of zooming in on her face, crotch, or chest randomly during explanation. I liked the floorwork dvd overall, though, even though there were some moves that I still don’t understand (45’s, tiffany legs to name two…there was a snake charmer leg thing she did that I didn’t understand, either.) As far as pole dvd’s, I’ve never viewed any, but I really want to purchase jamilla’s
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I’m too lazy to hand wash my dancer stuff…..after about 6 months it starts to matter. I used to only do wash cycles when I forgot to handwash….now I do it all the time. I used to handwash with regular hand soap because my mom buys unscented detergent LOL kinda ghetto, I know…if I buy lace, though, I will only hand wash.
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Arnica! The pole dancer’s heroin! Use uh…the black and blue balm. It’s from Hawaii, but it’s worth the purchase. You can purchase Arnica gels from walmart or walgreens, but I felt like the gel never did anything for me. Creams and balms worked best.
Also, take an iron supplement, drink atleast half a gallon of water everyday, and ice then heat the bruise. It helps circulate the blood, which leads to faster healing.
And a little fat is a good thing. Believe it or not it cushions for more advanced holds later (teddy and yogini for example)
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The two studios I’ve been to in phx both refer to SV pretty frequently.
“I saw your post on Veena, that was awesome.”
“Did you see so and so’s performance on Studio Veena? She did this amazing trick combo. It was blah to blahblah to blah.”
Things like that. But I know some studios don’t.
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Obvious ones: jumping into sm’s and inverts
less obvious: fan legs! If you pole hold on the right, you can actually aggrivate the left cuff. I was teaching a girl who had nearly a six pack, and fan legs always aggrivated her non-dom rotator cuff. Also, if it’s already aggrivated, stay away from corkscrew and teddy.
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my board is about 16″ by 20″ and about 3/4ths of an inch thick. Basically, you want something large enough to cover the dome and have an overhang of 3 or so inches. You want it to be small enough not to have a mega over-hang or the weight distribution might be off (aka sliding). I have mine as thick as 3/4″ but you could use something thicker, but I wouldn’t go thicker than 2″ just as a personal preference (makes ceiling splits harder!) I’m afraid to go thinner because I rent, not own my house.
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I always put a wooden board just a little under an inch thick inbetween my pole and the ceiling. Once you remove the ring or paint over it, you should put a board up as well. Not only does it prevent the black-ring-of-sadness, but it more evenly distributes pressure. I’ve seen people pole through their ceiling before. I’ve never had the ring due to the fact that I always use a stability board (you can pic one up from Home Depot, scrap wood is almost always free, or close to) so I can’t give any suggestions for that, just how to prevent it in the future.
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you should be fined for not posting ring pictures! Unless I missed them, then I should be fined for being blind :p
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you should be fined for not posting ring pictures! Unless I missed them, then I should be fined for being blind :p
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The only post I see is “post a status AND get two people to like”. And it’s from like, a month ago. Not sure if it’s still valid?
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The only post I see is “post a status AND get two people to like”. And it’s from like, a month ago. Not sure if it’s still valid?
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God, I'm embarssed to post. $665. I SWEAR I'M NOT A CRIMINAL D: I'm just very…"adventurous"!
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@Runemist Do you have a pen pal? When I was struggling with my book me and my friend Jess started writting to eachother. We would share one chapter with eachother a week, critique, and send it back. It really motivated me to write since I knew someone was watching. When I got bored with my book(s) I would just write short stories, just to keep myself interested in writing.
I'm always looking for story buddies if you're interested :3
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I get first dibs, then :p
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– I want a car that doesn’t break every three months. I’ve paid $5000 since March in repairs, and I still don’t have a car. It’s been three weeks.
– a 45 brass x-pole. Let me know if you need someone to take one off your hands for free :p
– a free gift that I would like better than both of those is the people living with me to gtfo. They’re gotten way too comfortable, expecting me to do their laundry when they don’t even pay rent. -
Whenever I have guys interested in pole, I show them Vlad. He’s definitely one of my favs, I would pay bookoo bucks for a private. Plus, he’s super hot
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Dear Glitter;
I'm sorry to hear about your situation, but it will get better. I had a very similar situation last August. We had been together for three years, engaged, living with my parents rent free. I was unemployed but never asked to go out to dinner, cleaned the house on days I wasn't severly depressed, and never asked for anything to be purchased for me.
I put up with a phrase that I absolutely hate hearing; "No, you're stupid." No, you're stupid. We're adults, you shouldn't fall back on should a childish immature response. And it was never because I said something stupid (which, we all do.) It was because I had a different opionion!
One day I said something at a get together with friends (they were on the team he was captain of) and he pulled me aside and said, "Why the F*** did you say that?" And I told him it was because that was how I really felt. And then he said, "that's fine, but you can't say things like that in front of my friends. You can't disagree with me. If I don't have control over my relationship, how can I have control over my team?" This rubbed me the wrong way, as I have never assumed that I've "controlled" my fiance and that he's never tried to control me. The relationship seemed to slowly die after that.
I held on for a really long time, waiting for him to change. Whenever we talked it was always me expressing what made me feel bad, and suggestions on how to fix it. When I asked for his input it was always, "you're right, dear." Just because he didn't want to be stuck in an arguement, not because he actually agreed.
The painful part is that he was my best friend, and I knew that. There isn't a person on this planet who had my back more, or loved me more, not even my parents. He made a lot of sacrifices that I appreciated, but when I look back they really weren't sacrifices. An example would be the whole reason he moved in. He moved in from east detroit where he stocked magazines for $11 an hour. He only worked 15-20 hours a week. That's about $800 a month. That's not including taxes, gas (he was spending $150 a month on gas just to get to work, that's not even including personal gas use) a $400 a month check to pay off school loans. And $100 to pay his mom's cellphone bill. That didn't leave him with a lot of spending money. And he was a serious fast food junkie. So really, he was only saving about $40 a month.
When he moved here he immediately picked up a job within a month. Wanna guess how much money he was making? $2000 a month, not including bonuses! We were happy for a while, but apparently this was a huge sacrifice, as he was now putting $800 a month into his savings account.
That was a tangent. Point was, when things happen they seem like one person is at fault, but at the end of it and in retrospect, more times than none ONE person was right.
Anyway. Eventually it got to a point where he was seeing a woman online (never in person) behind my back and I knew every little detail about it. And I knew that something had to be done. I had asked him once to pick between her and me, and he told me that famous phrase, "No, you're stupid. You can't pick my friends for me."
So here's what I did. I made myself answer some questions. Relationships aren't black and white, or pros and cons, but this really put things in perspective for me.
What do I lose by breaking up with him? I thought I would lose a lot of abuse (and believe me, I did) and be super happy. I would lose my life partner. I met a lot of friends through him that I would probably lose. (at this point I imagined our breakup would be nice…and it was for the first two days…then it wasn't |: )
What will I do afterwords that will make me happy? I was so far past happy it wasn't funny. I woke up for three weeks miserable. I barely ate, I cried all day, I stopped looking for a job for while. Happy was a word that was now outside of my vocabulary. I just didn't want to be miserable anymore. Will it make you happy? OR, NOT miserable?
If proposed, what would he have to say to make me reconsider breaking it off: This one might sound a little strange. But there were things I knew I could not live with. And asking him to change these things would NOT change him as a person. I never asked for that or expected that. But he needed to stop telling me I was stupid for having opinions, and stop talking to the woman who e-mailed and said, word for word, "If I break you two up and end up with him, then it will all be worth it." He didn't say yes to either, so we broke up.
Finally I made a list of all the things I felt he did "right" or that made me feel like I was super lucky to have him around. A lot of the time when we complain about our spouses to others, we never tell people the "good" unless we're trying to brag. I appreciated that he always tried to talk to me when I was upset. Whenever I had a bad day he would come home with an ice cream cone for me. He always rubbed my shoulders when I was stressed. He would not leave my side if I was still crying (doesn't mean he was happy about it, he was just super stubborn 😛 )
At first we were friends…that lasted two days. Then I found out that she was flying out here and they were in a relationship not 10 days after his three year relationship ended. I cut all ties. Found out that apparently, for the last TEN YEARS she's been doing the same routine; finding guys who were in relationships, breaking them up, and moving in with them so she never had to get a job. I found out later that they broke up 3 times in six months, she never did get a job, she forced him onto food stamps, blah blah, sob story sob story. It's been one year. Think she has a job yet? Nope. They remedied their food stamp situation by having on of his friends move in with them from the other side of the country.
And those first six months without him were really hard. It was like every day someone was sawing off one of my fingers. With a chainsaw. Really slowly. I would have nightmares where he came back and suddenly everything was okay (which made waking up really dreadful.) But the second I found a job, I was like, "Alright, I got this." And everything started to get a lot better. I think it was because I was forcebly distracted. It was a good thing. I got me into a way of thinking that every thought WASN'T of him, which was much healthier. I no longer had days where I was like, "Well…I'm not depressed today…that's good." I had days where I was actually happy. And all the while he'd been hinting he wanted to get back together and I just kept saying, "No. We can be friends. I miss my best friend. But I'm not dating you because I realize you just aren't capable of change. You don't see anything wrong with trying to own a relationship. That works for your submissive POS current girlfriend, but that won't fly with me. I'm worth so much more than that." I gained so much self respect and grew as a person. And sometimes, unfortunately, even when you love someone. You just have to grow up seperately as people. After I came to that realization, I began to do pole, so that probably also helped.
Today I'm still single, and I still have those days where I wake up in the morning wondering what it would be like to not have one side of my bed empty. Sometimes I have dreams about him, but they're never about us getting back together; they're always reminding me why we aren't best friends. But I learned a lot about what I look for in a partner and what doesn't work for me at all. I'm okay with being single for a year, a few years, more than half a decade if at the end of it, I meet the person who's right for me and I'm not just settling and staying together because love has become the only thing we have in common.
This was just my personal experience, and I'm not at all saying you should break up with him because you'll be happy. It's a lot to think about. It took me 6 months to finally say, "I've had enough." I just hope whatever decision you come to, it will be a lot easier for you to make and stick to than it was for me.
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Ah, having a life. I remember when I used to have that! Both my computer (I'm a gamer, so not having a computer is MORE crushing to me than not being able to pole) and my car have died on me, so I have NOTHING to do but train for pole right now. And work when I can. But that's not fun and there's no way I'm ever going to be cut-throat about making money and I've accepted that. ANYWAY.
A lot of the girls here have touched base with you and not being so down about yourself. I want to answer the initial question: HOW does one fit pole in their day? What do you do when you don't have a lot of money or time to invest in pole, but still want to do it, be good at it, and ultimately feel good about doing it?
Here are some tips of things I used to do to get pole training in:
1.) Stretch while you watch TV. If you have a tv show you watch with your family, it's a great time to get in some stretching. For me, stretching is reaallllyyyyy reallllyyy boring. It takes forever. I count 30s and it's actually only been like, 7. There's a clock mounted into our cable box, so when I start a pose I hold it for one scene. When that scene is over, I look at the clock, note what time it was when I started/ended so I can estimate the time of that pose, and do that pose on the other side for the same amount of time. You can also just watch tv and glance at the clock every couple of seconds, but I have ADD and I have to take small breaks (scene changes) to remind myself I'm doing two things at once. You can also lift weights, or if you have a coffee table infront of your tv, do wrist mobility exercises. I like doing those as well, because I can watch a show and do as many reps and sets as possible without ever seriously noticing (you DO feel the burn after about half an hour, won't lie.)
2.) Make a checklist. I get super excited when I get to cross things off of a checklist. I'm also kinda arts and crafts, so when I make a checklist I go into photoshop and make a mofo checklist (#swag). Anyway, my suggestion is to NOT just write down with a pen and ugly yellow legal pad a list of things you want to do. That paper is not motivational. It reminds you of work, and sadness…well, it does for me LOL. It's also something easily lost. Sit down when you have about half an hour to an hour, and photoshop yourself a pretty background to print a checklist onto. Something that will stand out to you. If you don't know your way around photoshop, you can just use a pretty or inspiring photo you found, and paste it into paint and just write the list there with the text tool. If you want to be more eco friendly and not waste paper, you could also buy a whiteboard and decorate it with some pole dance charms, old worn out shoes, and of course, glitter. This also helps with motivation. If you're struggling with pole-ups that day, skip it and go to pole sit-ups, and come back later.
3.) MAKE FRANDS! Okay, so this might be a little hard for those of you on the east coast or if you are a maple neighbor of the north, being that it's winter. But when winter is over, or if it isn't cold enough to be forced to stay inside where you are, go walk your dogs! If you have a dog park, meet someone who is also walking their dog, and make a fitness friend. This is also easier if you have a gym membership, but I don't have one and I've mad fitness friends this way. Having someone to work out with seriously boosts your desire to work out. They don't need to pole dance, but that is a serious plus and you can always convert them later (it's every pole dancer's master plan anyway :] ) As you and other's have pointed out, you can even have fitness jams with people here on SV.
4.) Free stuff? Check nearby community centers to see if they are offering any free sample classes. The Rec center here is constantly offering awesome asian fusion cardio (juijitsu, tai-bo, etc) and things like zumba, and sometimes they're free or half off! Even if you're pinching pennies, if a class is less than $10 I'm likely to try it out. This mixes up your regular conditioning/cardio schedule and also is a great way to STEP 3 MAKE FRANDS. I mean, why do some women start pole dancing? Because they were bored with their regular workout. If you have a friend who teaches a fitness class of any sort, check in and see if you can get in for free or half off. Even if you hate it. I have a friend who teaches zumba and I had to drag myself into one of her classes. I did not have fun, but I did get a workout :> Check out dance classes, too!
5.) Keep a log book. I use Fitocracy. Someone said something about My Fitness Pal but I've never tried it. I like Fitocracy because there's a pole dance community (although it's pretty dead) and it's almost like going to studio veena where you can be like, YEAAHHH, I WORKED OUT TODAY! And complete strangers get excited and support you because they know how hard it is, too. It's definitely not nearly as supportive as SV, but that's pretty hard to do. I find that I use it more because it's like social networking, instead of a sad little notebook where only I can track my progress. But if you're more of a private person, a notebook works well too. I feel like this is different from posting flexy pics progress and videos because you can see your tolerance increase workout to workout. This week, 60s plank. Next week? 120s plank. My body still looks the same to me right now, but apparently it's preforming better and seeing that is a huge motivation boost!
6.) Rewards. It seems pretty self explanatory, but rewards can get pretty complicated! When I nail a new move I've been trying to get for months, (Roxy, I'm looking at you) it opens up a world of new things I haven't been able to do before, but that in and of itself is a reward! I would love to live in a world where every workout made me feel like the very first time I got a shoulder mount, or an invert, or what I like to call, "the new move high". Unfortunately, we all have blah workouts. Sometimes it feels like the blah workouts are more frequent than the breakthrough workouts, but it's important to remind yourself that you're awesome and you gave yourself the kick in the ass to actually work out. A lot of people DON'T. So make a list of things you would be okay (and you can use ugly paper for this if you want LOL) with treating yourself with for completing a workout. For instance, I can't just eat ONE candy bar…so rewarding myself with a candy bar isn't something that I can do. But what I would instead do is take out a dollar for every ten minutes that I worked out, and put it into a pole jar. No, you don't get to count breaks 🙁 You can make up your own little rewards…I'm all about food and money, so it's hard for me to get in a reward mindset for anything else 😛 Get your spouse to help you. Example: I love making smoothies, but there is no such thing as a clean friendly blender. I normally just rinse and throw in the dishwasher, but I feel bad for taking up so much space. So if I had a boyfriend, I would ask him to help me reach my fitness goals, by asking him to clean the blender IF I worked out. And then I would trade him a favor, like opening beer and bringing it to him during a game or something.
7.) Try poleing first. I too would go to work, or be stuck in a class, or at an airport, and see a pole and think "MY GOD, WHEN I GET HOME, I MUST POLE!" This was a thought that magically vanished as soon as I lugged my tired ass through the door, ate some ice cream, and immediate sat down for my vice of choice (for me it was the computer.) I don't really have any tips for that one. If you are already home, and you have this thought, don't stop and say, "when I'm done with laundry." Drop whatever you are doing and go pole. Freestyle for 20m. Choreograph a routine if you aren't feeling super amazing flow sauce that day. Work on perfecting a move you're really good at, or try learning a new one if you feel uber amazing. The goal is to get you to feel good about poleing. When you think, "I have to pole, I really want to pole today" it's because you're trying to catch up with that feeling of feeling…well, AMAZING. Having FUN. So have FUN. Don't try to reward yourself with pole as it is an activity; you might get down on yourself for not having as much energy because you kept pushing it back all day. That's just how I work, though, and everyone is different.
8.) Make an inspiration folder. This could be a physical folder, or a favorites folder in your internet browser or just a file folder on your computer. I like the physical folder because more glitter is better and I'm a visual learner, but that's just me. Take the time to collect things that inspire you to pole, and find a quote that you like. Or several. I have a few printed pictures of pole idols with inspiring things they've said tagged under them. If you have a pole space (I don't) you could hang them up. If not, and you are planning on making a weekly schedule and keeping to it, look at this before you work out. Maybe you could tie this into #7 and do it on your way home, while you fill up gas, etc to get you to actually do it when you walk in the door? Also, actual inspirational phrases (having a brain fart on the real term) might help you. There was a common saying at every studio I've ever been to; "If it hurts, you're know you're doing it right." While I don't like repeating phrases, this might be helpful to others. If you feel the burn in your workout, you know you're doing it right. You can pick other non-pole related quotes. Apparently they're called "exercise mantras". Here's a list of some if you want to look through a few. I like the one about hours in the week and how many are being asked for, it really puts things in perspective and it's not something I've heard six thousand and eight times. http://www.pbfingers.com/2011/01/19/exercise-mantras/
ALSO; set aside some space in your closet for workout clothes. I feel more inclined to work out if I dress out in spandex and hooker heels, polefit bras, leg warmers. Do your makeup ultra sultry if it helps! I personally feel like it helps me to have cute pole clothes. Even if I'm not recording that day, dressing for the part really helps motivate me to work out. "I've gone through all this trouble to get ready, there's no way I can quit before I start" is the mindset I get.
And then the usual "(re) decorate your pole space". I'm broke, so that's not always an option…but you can move furniture around, and clean up your area….I pole in the garage, so I have a lot of work to do before I could consider my pole area acceptable.
9.) Sneak in mini-workouts for conditioning outside of home. Do you have to go to the store? Work in an office? My zumba teaching friend recommended jogging ** through the store or briskly walking when doing mundane errands like grocery shopping. And, it makes sense. You warm up your muscles while jogging through the store. When you get in line, you can do preacher walks or lunges or whatever standing exercise you want. On the way back to the car, find a stop sign or pole of choice and bust out a flag or two. For the office, you can always buy a balance ball and replace your office chair, then sneak in an ab workout during lunch. Run up and down the stairs for warm up.
**My zumba pal also informed me that most people run and speed walk incorrectly. I personally didn't know you could "run wrong" but most people do, and I was definitely guilty of that. You shouldn't hear your feet pounding when you run. That's where the joint pressure comes from. And don't flex your toes when you speed walk to avoid shin splints.
I wish there was a number ten because I hate odd numbers, but those are all of the suggestions I have. I hope this helps. :3
