AllysonKendal
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DOUBLE SPEED: Day 1âž¡ï¸3âž¡ï¸2 of #svflirtyfeb
Leg waves âž¡ï¸ Shoulder roll âž¡ï¸Sexy walkLeg Waves are hard! And look even sillier faster! But I’m enjoying taking a few moves at a time and combo-ing them up.
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Yeah, well. She is actually family. I don’t know why I didn’t include that. I guess it felt too much like airing dirty laundry…
I’ve seen him say things to her that I thought were extremely rude and I’ve seen him yell at waitress. I don’t think he really respects women. I try and stay out of it, because I have said things once or twice when they were dating and either she gets defensive or thinks I’m jealous. Then I become the enemy.
So I just usually tolerate him. I don’t seem the that often and its better to keep the peace. If she isn’t bothered by him, then good for her, she doesn’t seem troubled by his comments and she seems genuinely happy. I do mean that. I would be offended if he said certain things to me, but she brushes them off and giggles. Maybe I’m more sensitive.
If I ever really thought there was emotional or physical harm coming to her I wouldn’t bite my tongue.. but I think he is just rude and sexist, which isn’t a crime, its a character flaw. I’m sure not everyone would like my husband. It happens. Maybe someone would look at our relationship and not agree with everything we say to each other (I’m a loud Jersey girl, so I yell!)
Anyway. I was honestly curious if wiping down the poles was a reference I missed. It sounds vaguely sexual, but I don’t think he’d dream of saying something like that to me. I have to assume it was a strip club thing.
Or maybe it was nothing. But I just wanted to see. Maybe I should look in the urban dictionary!
I just feel really dumb when I don’t get the joke.
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Thanks guys. I really really don’t get his sense of humor at all… or whatever you want to call it.
I remember us driving to restaurant and talking about food, then I said something about having vegetarian options and he said “I didn’t know you don’t eat meat?!” and I was like “Really? Yeah I don’t eat most meat. I eat fish though sometimes… Blah Blah Blah” Explaining myself.
And then later someone filled me in that he was making fun of me, I guess I mention it too much 🙁
Anyway. I felt really stupid. That kind of how I felt after I explained about the alcohol and cleaning the poles.. then realized, I think he is making fun of me.. and I think it was reenforced when he said the things about throwing dollars.
Anyway I try to just brush it off. I don’t REALLY care… I think I was also kind of curious if he was making fun of me in that instance or not. I realized I don’t know very much about strip clubs.
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Yeah, it was only $20, and its a good band, so I hung onto it a few days to see if I’d use it for anything else… Nope haven’t touched it. Think I’ll send it back.
Making one is a good idea. I’ll give it a go.
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The thing I like about the Mean Girls one is like this super cool and very thick neoprene stretchy stuff.
How is the xpole one Tacha? Is it soft or plasticy? The xpole one to me looks like the material they make soft coolers and lunch boxes out of, which is cool but tend to crack in my experience (usually that’s an esthetic concern though). Do you guys know what I’m talking about or am I the only one whose thrown like a half dozen of my sons lunch boxes away after they get too cracked?!
Im sure xpole tested it a lot though. And they do stand behind the products. I can’t wait until they are available here. Hope the price is low!!
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You can hang it from a pull up bar.
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Day 31 FREESTYLE 💞💖💞
Walkâž¡ï¸Pirouetteâž¡ï¸Step Aroundâž¡ï¸Fan Legsâž¡ï¸Sitâž¡ï¸Plankâž¡ï¸Slink Up (kinda) -
Very Excited! I’m going to watch the Leg Waves video today to get ready 🙂
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EAI love and agree with everything you just said. Takes me right back to Netter’s Head and Neck 💕
Shoulder mount away ladies!
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*hugs*
I think your fiancé is right. You need to just go for a lesson.. it might be discouraging at first, but it will come back quickly.
We actually had a talk about it in class yesterday, now someone wanted to wait until they got stronger to come to pole… well my instructor said “the reason you come to pole is to get stronger” (one of the reasons anyway)
But it’s an excuse I would use too.. and numerous time I have said that about attending pole camps and conventions (I’m not good enough yet) BUT it really is like the people who say they need to lose weight before they start going to the gym. It doesn’t make sense.
Try not to focus on what you’ve lost, focus on what you love about pole… and just have fun. Maybe don’t worry about nailing old tricks or even new ones… Just like try and discover a new side of pole so it feels like exploration and not regression.
Good luck 🙂
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for more discussion on the warmer see the comments section here: https://www.studioveena.com/videos/view/54932a39-9e88-4220-a407-13c30a9aa0eb
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Mean Girl Productions is in the US. A girl at my studio has one. Its really nice.
I’m guessing they have a patent in the US or something thats why the Xpole warmer isn’t sold here. Thats just speculation.
The UK one is 80 US dollars (if you convert), the Mean Girl one i think is 125. 🙂
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Ok, you guys are seriously so amazing. I was just waiting for my day to calm down so I could sit and read all this amazingness and respond!
Shoog, I’ve never tried kundalini. I will check it out because it sounds really great. I love yoga, but I need to get back into it. So here in brief is my yoga journey… I started going to those MeetUp events, the best one were free yoga meet ups. They happen like once every month or 2. Different studios hosted and they are cool places… like the art museum, or gardens. I really liked it. Especially the ones in the garden. That instructor was magical. From some of the people there I was informed that Lulu Lemon had (free) yoga each Sunday morning. So I decided to give that a go with a new friend I’d met (outside of the MeetUp circle)
We started going in the summer and while we didn’t go EVERY week. We tried to go as much as possible. It was always a really nice stretch and I felt good and relaxed afterwards. Then the magical instructor came and did a class at Lulu.. and I like really fell in love with her again. The flow was amazing, and she just beams positive energy. When in savasana she put her hands on my face and it was so powerful. I tried to get my friend to come to her studio with me, but she isn’t interested in paying.. she just wants to keep going to free yoga (She didn’t find it as magical as I did anyway). So I was fine with that… but lately the vibe at Lulu changed and people have been quite rude. And it’s really put me off. However my friend still wants to go, and I feel kind of bad ditching her to go to a studio when she doesn’t want to. (I think this ties in with PoleKat’s putting others before ourselves)
I really need to get back into it, but I really have felt a bit bitter the last few weeks and how snoody and rude people were (it’s Princeton, so it can be a rich snobby town university town, I’m used to it.. but this was more then normal, and it wasn’t the young people. It was the middle aged women who were just rude). I might just try a class with the instructor I like on my own and see how I feel. Find my yoga bliss again.
I’d really like to incorporate it into my daily life more. I was doing great with the yoga challenges and loving them, but I was burning out a little… and now with the pole challenge it’s a lot.
And sometimes I feel like I’m cheating on pole with yoga. Plus I also have some strength training I’ve been meaning to do. Sigh! I guess these are good problems to have in the scheme of things.PoleKat, I completely sympathize! I had people visit for 2 weeks in Dec and while I loved the visit I just needed my normal routine and my Me-time. It was very hard and stressful. *hugs*
I think we are all on this search for that balance. I love all your words and I think I need to re-read both of your responses like a million more times and absorb all your loveliness!
Singing now…
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Smart decision to address things head on.
Thanks for filling me in! I go back and forth on wanting to join FB… But I think I’ll just hide here and on IG for the meantime.
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No problem AZ. I’m not on Facebook so I feel like i miss a lot. I just saw the one random post and couldn’t find any more about it until UPA posted that. Really insane.
I know many were disappointed Pole Con was canceled last year, but it seemed to be handled way in advance and in a much better manner.
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I feel bad for all the people who traveled there, only to turn on their phones when they landed and see it was canceled! It’s nice that people are pulling together other events.
I looked for an official statement when I saw Michelle’s post… But saw nothing, only presale for 2016.
Hope it works out and people still have fun. 🙁
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Here is a pic just cause I do think it’s cute.
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Thank you so much, reading your tattoo brought a tear to my eye. It’s so very true. I”ve probably heard that song a billion times but never *really* listed to it. It’s really powerful.
Right now I’m sporting a fake tat of a lobster…(ordered because of all the lovely tattoos I see on polers) I’ve always felt lobsters and I were kindred spirits. But I’m kind of wondering if that’s not such a good thing. Maybe I need to be a jellyfish or something that just goes with the waves. Weightless and free. Like how you dance. 🙂 but until I learn to just let go, I’m a spiney, pinchey, hard on the outside, delicious on the inside, lobster.
I love that you had a good time with your silks instructor. Its great to have pole buddies 💕 especially ones who can handle a little bruising.
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Day 28! Just a pic for simplicity’s sake. 🙂
http://instagram.com/p/yazPy3DLD3/
I actually love the advanced plank so I had to slip it in there. I need to work on it more though.
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https://www.unitedpoleartists.com/2015/01/australian-pole-camp-and-convention/
Im rushing around and haven’t had the chance to read it yet… But if anyone is curious.
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💕 love how things work out!
My puppy got out this morning because the gate wasn’t shut correctly because the lock was frozen. I’m not sure how long she was gone. It ended in tears with me finally grabbing her while BAREFOOT in a foot of snow along a busy road while a somewhat helpful woman tried to help but kept scolding me for not being more careful and meanwhile the dog is barking and my son is crying. But I’m happy the lady stopped and chased her back. That’s how we knew she was out.
It was just so stressful and terrifying. I can’t shake it. I’m happy she is ok. The lock has been addressed (and we added another lock) and I signed up for puppy class on Friday. She is good, but so playful and curious… And I guess it was a good lesson and everything is ok… But I’m trying to shake the fear and adrenaline. Pole class will be good for me tonight.
I love how the universe is sending good things your way. You trusted in the process, it’s beautiful. I keep reading about surrendering and trusting. It’s something I need to work on.
I’m sure you’ll have a wonderful time poling with the silks instructor. I Bet you can even get her to show you a thing or two on the hammock if you’re showing her pole. What fun!
If I ever make it out to ND I know where I’m coming for a pole jam (and maybe even a tattoo 😜)
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** hugs ** I had a bit of a rough morning myself… and I really like your attitude on acceptance. I’m working on it.
Re silks: I feel your pain. I’m having a bit of a interesting scheduling bumps in the road too.
Occasionally I go to things on MeetUp.com… there are a lot of events happy hours and stuff, but I try and attend the more active ones not centered around eating fried food and drinking (though that can be fun sometimes). I signed up last week for an aerial class (silk and lyra) on Feb 1st.
Most events have like 10+ people sign up for them… This one only has me and one other girl attending! The other girl is the one who suggested and is hosting the event (her friend is teaching the class)
It’s almost an hour away… and now it turns out my husband wants to have friends (and their wives) over for the Superbowl… and while I’ll be home before 5 I don’t want to just run off to shower while everyone is here. And he wants me to help get ready.
So I asked her since it’s just us if we can move it earlier, if possible, and she has been non-responsive. Now I’m kind of thinking she is going to just cancel it since it didn’t get a big crowd. I’m certainly not driving an hour on Super Bowl sunday if the host doesn’t at least write me back. People tend to flake on you all the time with these things.
It’s a bummer because I got all excited, especially because you seemed to like it so much.
