Does you significant other request that you dance for them?

poletrickster started this discussion · 5/18/2010

Or do you mostly just shove them in a chair and force them to watch you LMAO? I have danced 3 times for mine and he loved it when I did it but he never asks me to, I was just wondering if its this way for any one else. i pole for myself but its fun to be sensual and put on a little dance for the one I love occassionally I just wish he would ask for it without me telling him to.

17 replies

AnjilsBaby · 5/18/2010
i cant get my boyfriend to watch me dance to save my life lol, he watched me when i first got my pole, and now he wont even to spot me. i dont do too much of a sensual dance thing i just treat it as exercise and like to have him there to make sure i dont break my neck,and to show him all the cool new things i can do 😂 but yea, after those first few times he refuses to watch because "its no fun when i can watch but you wont let me touch" he still doesnt understand that me sweating and bruising myself and pushing myself to the max does not inspire feelings of lust in me 🙄
MommaBear · 5/18/2010
he still doesnt understand that me sweating and bruising myself and pushing myself to the max does not inspire feelings of lust in me 🙄 😂 So true! My hubby gets on my nerves with that - he'll come in while I am practicing with a shit!y grin on his face and harass me - I'm all like, I stink, I have pole rash, and I am working here!! Get out!!! 😂 He spotted me once and can't control himself - thinks it's funny to pinch my nips or poke me in the butt while I am upside down and hanging on for dear life 🙄 Boys!! He likes to tease me and say, I didn't buy you a pole so you could exercise on it, I bought it for me, so do something. So far I haven't had to turn my fitness pole into a cheap sex object, but it's only a matter of time. 😂
AnjilsBaby · 5/18/2010
lol mommabear im glad im not the only one dealing with that crap! he will come up once in a while, wait till im in the middle of a spin and jump behind me and try to do a "sexy dance" with me....im just kinda like "umm...you messed up my spin" 😂
nymphdancer · 5/18/2010
MIne does, although he gets plenty of dances just because I feel like it too. He is a great spotter and a good one to help me figure out how to preform new moves. I consider myself blessed lol 🙂
Mary Ellyn · 5/18/2010
JIm usually asks ocassionally but he will also spot me and also can watch me and tell me what I'm doing wrong if I'm trying to figure a new move out or what I need to perfect as I'm practicing. The man can't do anything but slow dance himself yet he's completely got the concept of pole dancing. Remembers all the names and techniques too! Once in a while he askes for a pole "performance" and really enjoys that but usually it's no touching during those routines.
minicoopergrl · 5/18/2010
ive done it once for his birthday one year but thats been it. I tried to do it again for his birthday but he decided to be a permenent jackass, its not gonna happen. 🙄
poletrickster · 5/18/2010
Glad to see I am not the only one!
Danielle Tillie · 5/18/2010
My boyfriend rarely says anything about it or asks for it but he does watch my videos with me when I'm done making them and he will play video games while I practice and every once in a while compliment something I did. I think he likes being surprised by a dance, because then he knows I really wanted to dance for him specifically. I have danced for him twice and he really liked it. No touching allowed during the dance but he knows he'll get to touch afterward. I usually try to dance slow for him so I don't sweat too much... but his reaction to me is what gets the lusty thing going! 😉 Also, I've found that planning a sexy shower after the dance is a nice way to get clean and smelling nice again. One time I lit some candles in the bathroom and after my dance (and a little bit of a lap dance, teehee!) I led him into the bathroom and he got the idea. 😁
Charley · 5/18/2010
ha! No. I have a pole room so unless he's working in his office he never sees me practice. He will watch the occasional body wave or booty wiggle but he doesn't have a lot of interest. I have to give him credit though, he watches new moves, gets excited enough for me and will watch my videos and point out how i have gotten smoother.
verucablue · 5/18/2010
I have not yet after 5+ years danced for my hubby...it was a whole topic once on another forum haha...and he wants me to but I never seem to do it...between work, life, the dog, my pole being in my livingroom - which sucks away the sexy mood and pole being really for me, it just never seems to happen. One day...the nice thing is is while he wants me to dance for him he doesn't push...I will say he is an excellent spotter 🙂
nymphdancer · 5/18/2010
lol VB! I ran across that thread while looking for something else on there and wondered to myself if the dance had ever happened. Guess I got my answer!
verucablue · 5/18/2010
😂
Veena · 5/18/2010
Yes, my husband will even sometimes complain that I don't dance often enough for him. BUT I'M TIRED. LOL I enjoy dancing for him though and he likes and can appreciate the tricks as well as the sexy stuff. I'm a luck girl!! 🥂 🙊 🙊 🙊
Layla Duvay · 5/18/2010
My husband never asks, he just know he's going to get a dance, lol! I let him know on the day and call him when I'm ready and he SPRINTS into the pole room with a grin on his face! He thinks he's the luckiest guy in the world!He's a gentleman--he believes a man shouldn't impose himself on a woman, but if she feels like it, to be ready! I love it, because he's not always horndogging me, so that, conversely, makes me feel more like dancing for him. It's the best foreplay ever! 😀
PsychoticAndrea · 5/25/2010
He doesnt, and I dont really care for showing him my tricks, and spins when I do dance for him anyway, those are for practise and for work. He doesnt ask, but does get happy whenever I do dance for him, I do dance for him very sexy and the way he'll like it.. he is my boyfriend after all what would the point of him being bored, thats my practice work out.
tiggertail · 5/25/2010
Mine don't ask for it in fact I done it once in more than 3 month of poling and had to sit him and tell him to stay there and watch. But he was happy with the result 😀 . But on the other hand, he's a little bit like your Mommybear, I can't stand him while i pratice, he just can't keep his hands for himself. Hey i'm working here I need all my attention to hold myself!!! 😈 Oh boys will be boys : 🙄
MommaBear · 5/25/2010
I've been finding lately that as I am using pole for a work-out type thing (and a way to challenge myself) that it has sucked all the sexiness right out. I don't see it as a stripper pole anymore. I see it as my personal mountain to conquer. I've been thinking about giving my hubby a little dance, but I'm finding it hard now to equate my pole with sexy and dirty stuff. Just my recent personal revelation out loud.