2012.....that's life!

Veena
Dec 31, 2012

A new year is just around the corner, many of us are taking time to look back on our pole move accomplishments of 2012. I was a bit surprised when I looked back at mine! 

Do you know how many new moves I've leaned this year? Guess....The answer is..... two! Yeah, that's right, I've learned two new pole moves in 2012, that's it! Also, I've not increased my flexibility at all this year. So, what does this mean? Have I failed or gone as far as someone "my age" can? No way!! It's merely a representation that I've been busy living life!

This year, we moved our family across the country, into a small condo, then moved again three months later into our current rental home. As a result of all the moving, lifting, and overall lack of exercise, I ended up with a mystery injury that still lingers today. That's life! 

So why am I sharing this? Sometimes I feel, as pole dancers, we're only happy with ourselves when we push and push, reaching for the newest and latest move. This can leave some of us feeling like an Average Joe! And I'm sure, most of us were not drawn to pole because we thought it was an average activity!  Pole dancing challenges us physically, emotionally and mentally. But let's think, is being an Average Joe a bad thing? No!

I myself, am an average Joe. At least in the sense that I too, work, cook meals, do dishes and laundry. Care for kids, and a husband, (love you honey) and have other hobbies just like many of you. However, I will admit I have somehow been blessed by the pole dance gods and have a natural ability for this art...I don't know why, but I'll take it! But, even though pole comes "easily" to me, I haven't had the chance, or should I say, MADE time in my life to keep pole a priority. And that's OK! I've spent my year working, moving, healing, and well, living like an Average Joe!

Finding time to pole can be challenging for anyone. And I strongly feel that we don't have to pole everyday, to be a "real" pole dancer.  We don't need to learn EVERY move there is, or pass a certain level to be a "real" pole dancer or to feel "pole contentment". All you really need is a passion when you DO have the time to pole dance. In fact, the whole idea for the 30 Day Take Off Program was a result of my understanding that life happens. I've experienced the struggles of, on the pole, off the pole, time and time again. That's life, the life of Average Joe. Pole dance happiness isn't reserved only for those who win competitions or perform advance level moves. Everyone, even Average Joe, can find happiness in their pole journey if they focus on their own personal progress and allow themselves time to stop and smell the roses. Enjoy the journey!

So, even though my personal pole accomplishments have been small, its been a wonderfully fulfilling year and I have learned to find contentment with where I am in my pole journey. I have know idea what 2013 will bring but I'm excited! 

Happy New Year!!!!! xoxox

Lyme LyteLOVE, LOVE, LOVE THIS!!!!!!!! Thanks for sharing. And HAPPY NEW YEAR TO YOU AND YOUR FAMILY.
Dec 31, 2012
Eden BodyHaven't increased your flexibility!? Can you get anymore flexy girl? I'm all up in your lessons for 2013!
Dec 31, 2012
SaphyreSo well stated, Veena. I definitely have a passion for pole, and it sucks when I have an injury and have to take time off (like now). However, it will be there when I'm ready to go back. At my age (13 more than you) I have to be realistic about what I can and cannot do, but that doesn't mean I can't push myself now and then. Some people think I should compete. I have no desire to do that and I have no problem telling them so. I am an Average Joe who happens to love pole dancing. On my own terms.

You have mentioned some of the things you have accomplished in 2012, but you missed something. You have inspire this community of people every single day to be healthy and happy.

Happy Anniversary and Happy New Year to you and Webbie!
Dec 31, 2012
Krissykiki Paid Memberwell said, Happy New years!!!!
Dec 31, 2012
azrielTotally agree! Happy new year!!
Dec 31, 2012
uvagirl76thank you veena! a fellow poler in my town has opened a studio, shes ten years younger( not to mention 40lbs lighter lol) and only been poling seriously about a year and a half and has left me in the dust ...(i'm 6 years poling off and on) and that was eating me up til i was pushing myself too far too fast to try to catch up...so ive ended up with a bunch of injuries, but it made me have to think. i work (nights) have three kids at home, 2 of them under school age, and juggle alot, and there's nothing wrong with prioritizing family and responsibilities first. poling is a journey. i've had to learn to enjoy when i have to circle back to an easier point in the journey because life is just too busy to pole very many times per week, or sometimes at all, or because i'm 36 and i just don't heal as fast as i did 10 years ago. i tell you all of this because i think i, like probably every person out there who poles and maybe isn't as far as they would like to be, get to feeling like i'm the only person whose life just gets to big for play sometimes, like maybe other people are doing my life better. seeing you mirroring some of the same stuff i deal with, and knowing what an awesome poler you are and how revererd you are is so....liberating! i know you're just a regular person but to know that i'm not the only one who many days in a row just gets to wistfully walk by the pole on the way to other tasks is a big relief. thank you for sharing your 2012 story. may your new year be blessed!
Dec 31, 2012
HotelChickThank you, Veena. I absolutely love this! My greatest pole accomplishment this year was dragging the pole up out of the dungeon and setting it up in my dining room. Yeah. I got some new tricks this year and I'm still working on the splits but I really just love to dance and I don't care if I ever get a new trick or polish the old ones. Like everyone here, I've loved pole from the first spin. But, I've never enjoyed it as much as I am now sharing it with my family. The dogs get in the way and I have to wait my turn if my son wants to play, and, for me, that's pure bliss. Happy New Year from this Average Jen!
Jan 1, 2013
PatSmackI wouldn't call it an "Average Joe" it's more like being stuck in a Bruce Wayne or Clark Kent mode! When I pole I feel "Super," lighter than air, timeless, and free. For four minutes and fifty-two seconds or however long the song lasts all of my woes, insecurities and cares are gone. What's left is me in the moment. Though my first pole performance was before I became a member here on the site, I would tell anyone my pole adventures started here at Studioveena. I have really enjoyed being a part of the community here. Everyone is such an inspiration and I love that. Last year I received my associates degree, but I don't know what is pushing away from a nice job in my field. It's almost like life began to stand still, until I started spinning. My mother had a quote above her front door when I was growing up. "You never know how far you can fly until you spread your wings." Looking back over my videos up to now I can honestly say that I feel like i'm flying and I love where this adventure is taking me.
Jan 1, 2013
Layla DuvayWell put! I was just getting on top of three moves I'd struggled with for years when I got injured! Now I'm back to just maintaining what I've already got, but whatever! I'm using your 30 day Take Off to rebuild and regroup. Thanks for doing all that you do!
Jan 1, 2013
poledanceromanceWow. Hooray!!!! I needed this one. Thanks, v!
Jan 1, 2013
eatvegancookies Paid MemberThis made me feel so good :-) Today was my first day in many days not doing either strength exercises or practicing floorwork (and I'm a beginner so I'm still learning basic stuff). Def needed this boost! Visiting SV even on my "rest" days is always inspirational!
Jan 1, 2013
Mary Adrenaline I hope nobody thinks ur accomplishments have been small. U built and manage this huge pole community for us after all. I've benefited many times from the info i found here despite the lack of constructive criticism i was looking for but oh well, i realized this happens everywhere i go, nothing is perfect and i still appreciate ur work. It's kinda nice that you shared this with us. I for one can relate and agree with u. Thx. Happy New Year, Veena!
Jan 2, 2013
DaniLoveVV 525I love this very well said! I'm nearing my due date and I Plan to begin competing and I'm excited about becoming a new mommy and a new chapter in my life! I have matured and learned so much about myself and life I can't wait to see how my style will be different! Happy new year Veena thank you for being YOU. AND I will be sharing my process of mommy pole dancing wife every step of the way
Jan 2, 2013
Angel1201Very comforting to read. I had shoulder surgery, bicep surgery, and still have fungal meningitis. 2012 was not my year and I was a below-average joe pole-wise. Still, I have a passion for pole and can't wait to build up my strength to get back to where I was. Even though you learned two moves Veena, you are still mesmerizing to watch and you're still a rock-star!
Jan 2, 2013
Jonna PageThanks for sharing! It's lovely to know there are other people out there that have a LIFE - Cook clean, clean house, two jobs, pets, room mate, etc.. the passion fuels the desire to master that move, may it be 2 or 20. :)

xo Jonna Page
Jan 2, 2013
VeenaThanks everyone! :D
Jan 2, 2013
mariephi
OMG! it happened THANK YOU VEENA! the prep exercise is GREAT to gain the confidence I needed and make sure I wouldn't get stuck in the position!
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